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061: How to uplevel your parenting with Brian King

Brian R. King, MSW teaches compassionate parenting to parents raising all kinds of children. Including those with ADHD, Asperger’s or chronic illnesses. He has a Master’s Degree in Social Work and is the father of three sons with Asperger’s & ADHD. Two of his sons also have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (hEDS). Brian lives his life while navigating the challenges of his own diagnosis of ADHD, Dyslexia, Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and Multiple Sclerosis. As a Coach, Professional Workshop Facilitator and Keynote Presenter who has been wowing audiences since he was 17 years old, Brian has become increasingly known for his story of resilience in the face of Learning and Physical disabilities to become a #1 Best- Selling Author and successful Entrepreneur. In his popular keynote presentations, Brian reveals key decisions we all must make in order to be consistently successful regardless of our challenges.

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060: How to turn your good to great with Shelsey Jarvis


Shelsey is an online business mindset coach, helping woo-curious female entrepreneurs create a business that balances spirituality and down-to-earth practicality. She has been an entrepreneur in many shapes and forms since 2007.

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Masterclass: Creating your big life!

A few months ago I was asked to create a training for a women’s group out of Arizona. I had such a good time putting this all together, I thought I would share it with you here. (With a few minor tweaks!)

In this masterclass you will learn:

  • About creating a vision and why it is vitally important
  • Creating your steps toward your vision using CHASE
  • How to use your mindset to clear the path for the life you want to create

Check your email to get the workbook or request it here:

059: How to build your circle of influence with Erica Castner

Focused on the art of productivity and partnerships, Erica Castner is a business and breakthrough coach with a successful track record of helping thousands of businesses and entrepreneurs turn ideas and goals into results and accomplishments.

Erica offers workshops, as well as one-on-one coaching services, that are designed to help business professionals influence a group of ideal clients and ultimately enhance productivity, presence, and partnerships.

She has been featured as a guest contributor to over 100 podcasts, articles, and stages including The News-Press Media Group, Huffington Post, Thrive Global, Southwest Florida Business Today and Digital Footprint Conference.

Erica is a member of a number of local organizations including Above Board Chamber of Florida, New Press Media Groups’ Young Professional Advisory Board, Women’s Council of Realtors – Bonita/Estero Chapter, Professional Leadership Academy Network, Impact Initiative, and Women’s Network of Collier County, just to name a few.

Erica is married to her husband, Ed. They have two daughters, Lauren and Brooke and a puppy named, Auggie.

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How to stop your excuses and stop playing small

Stop using your excuses to hold you back from the life you deserve. It’s time you use those excuses as REASONS to move forward, not to stop.

Here are three ways to move in the direction you want TODAY. No more waiting… you got this!

058 Farming is a business with Michael Kilpatrick

Michael is a farmer, presenter, inventor and blogger who lives to help farmers apply business principles and practical, proven solutions to grow their businesses and simplify their lives. He has managed large certified organic farms and businesses, consulted with industry experts, and spoken at dozens of conferences.

057: Handwriting secrets with Kathi McKnight

Today’s guest is my friend Kathi McKnight. She’s a handwriting expert and shares with us some fascinating facts about how we write and what that means for our lives.

We talked about my handwriting, and you can see that here.

To find Kathi, head to   To get the special:



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There is a story about a group of monks in Thailand, hundreds of years ago, who covered a beautiful golden Buddha statue with clay and mud so that it would be disguised from the Burmese army who were about to invade.
The monks died, and soon nobody remembered that underneath all that concrete and gray, was actually a beautiful Buddha covered in gold. Years went by and one day, a tiny piece of the Buddha was cracked and a young monk noticed something shiny. He knelt down and picked at the concrete and noticed that their Buddha wasn’t any ordinary Buddha, it was a golden Buddha. And all the monks came and chipped away and released the golden Buddha so it could shine and make everyone happy again.
You are that beautiful golden masterpiece too.
And then we grow a little bit and get told rules, and we doubt and we learn what it means to be a boy or a girl or to be black or white or good or bad and before we know it, we are covered in mud and don’t resemble anything like we used to.
Then one day, something happens and we experience something we didn’t want.
We have a crisis, we get divorced, we experience a loss, we lose our jobs…. And it chips off a chunk of our mud.
Our armor cracks and we begin to notice that underneath there is a glimmer of gold.
And the moment that we see that gold, that we know it’s in there, the armor and the concrete will never satisfy us ever again.
That’s when the adventure begins.
So if you are struggling tonight, know that you have gold underneath that armor, and as it gets chipped away, you are not being destroyed, you are being released again.

The Four Habits of Navy Seals You Can Adopt Today To Create More Success In Your Life

This post is a series of FaceBook posts I did on the four habits of successful Navy Seals, based on a study by Eric Potterant.  Follow me on Facebook to see more posts daily!

The Navy did a study to find out the differences between the Navy Seal recruits who finished training and those who quit. What was the difference? They were all highly qualified, super smart and in top physical shape. What made the difference between those who made it and those who didn’t? There are 4 things they identified and for the rest of the week, I’m going to share one with you.
Habit #1: They focus on RIGHT NOW. Typically when we think about goal setting, we think about longer term goals. What we will accomplish in the next month or quarter or even over the course of a year. What made the difference with the Seals is that they focused on RIGHT NOW. They were able to narrow their focus to see what was immediately in their future. They didn’t think about ANYTHING after that. Just do the job directly in front of you and do it with excellence. Don’t worry about what has to happen later.
This reminds me of when I was training for a marathon years ago. I would only worry about that mile. Then the next. Then the next. If I was on a hill, I only thought about one foot and then the next. Narrow focus.
So today, can you be like a seal? Don’t get overwhelmed by the big picture. Focus in on the immediate and do it with excellence. 

Habit #2: Imagine how good it will feel.

The seals had experiences in the past where they succeeded. 
Where they had victory, completed a mission or pushed themselves successfully, beyond their previous limits.

They knew how this felt. Not just emotionally, but how it felt in their body.
Think of a time you were on top of the world. How did you stand? Hold your shoulders? Where were your eyes focused?

Now think of a failure. How was your body at those times? Where do your eyes go when you are defeated and beat up?

See the difference?
The seals who were successful in completing the training had a habit of remembering how good it felt to succeed WHILE they were struggling and they intuitively changed their body language to match success.

You can use this today by noticing every time you do something that feels good. Every time you check off a box or finish something you’ve been working on, celebrate it in your head. When you do this over and over again, you’re providing your brain with extra experiences of success and this makes it easier for you to remember that feeling when you need it!

NLP TIP: I noticed this with my weight loss clients. They thought about success BEFORE they ate, What it would feel like to eat something healthy or something unhealthy and it influenced what choices they made at meal time. To help your weight loss, focus on that success before you choose and eat your meal!

Habit 3: When all else fails, breathe deeply

When I’m working with a 1:1 client on video conference, I can start to tell when they are getting stressed. Their eyes dart around, their breathing shallows.

It’s a normal reaction. Inside, your brain is saying, NOPE. STOP. THIS FEELS DANGEROUS. CONSERVE ALL RESOURCES AND BE PREPARED TO RUN!

It’s their amygdala and I’ve taught on this subject and wrote about it in my book. Your brains amygdala determines when it’s all gone bad and it’s time to panic.

You can sneak past this reaction by flooding your body with oxygen. It actually changes the chemistry of your body and calms down the amygdala.

Navy Seals are actually taught to do this in a very specific way.

Want to try it?
Inhale deeply for a 6 count (deep, fill up so your belly moves).
Hold it for a 2 count.
Exhale for a 6 count….. totally empty those lungs!

6-2-6 breaths 3 times in a row and you’ll lower your blood pressure, flood your brain with oxygen and increase your ability to react using your conscious brain, not your unconscious, reactionary brain.

If you can learn to do this, 3x a day, you can more easily accomplish every other task on your list with sound mind and objective thought. So try it, set the alarm on your phone and 3x a day hit it: 6-2-6, 6-2-6, 6-2-6. Don’t wait until you are stressed, schedule it in and then when you DO get stressed you’ll jump right to it out of habit, just like the Navy Seals.

When I ran my first (and only) marathon, it was two laps around the island of Bermuda. It rained, got hot, rained some more.
A normal day in Bermuda, apparently.
Around mile 14, I lost a toe nail. 
My socks were so wet and my feet were sliding around inside my shoe and I had blisters everywhere.
Out of the bushes (or so it seemed), this woman came running at me with a little kit with band-aids and Neosporin. She bent down, took my shoe off, threw my toenail to the side of the road and bandaged me up.
As she was putting my shoe back on, I told her, “My foot hurts so much.”
She looked at me and said, ‘The other one looks great.”
I was tired, in pain, feeling very alone at that moment and so I figured she must not have heard me, so I said again, a little louder this time; “My foot hurts so much!!” *Extra hard eye glare here

She smiled, zipped up her baggie full of bandages and said, ‘THE OTHER ONE LOOKS GREAT. NOW GO!”
And so I did but mostly because I didn’t know what else to do but get to the finish line so I could sit down!

Habit # 4 : Cheer Yourself On (clearly I am not a seal)
Navy Seals have a habit of hearing their own voice say, “You can do it! Your other foot looks great!”
They focus on what is happening that is good in that moment, and not the things that are hard or painful.
This habit isn’t about being reasonable. It’s about being successful. They tell themselves whatever they need to hear to make it through; so they ignore the bad and hyper focus on the good WHILE they are in exhaustion and pain.

Now you’ve got all four habits of successful Navy Seals:
1.Focus on right now
2.Imagine how good it will feel
3. When all else fails, breathe deeply
4. Cheer yourself on

Remember, you can be the hero in your own story! GO GO GO!

056: Understanding Chakras with Elaina Conneely

This week on The Art of Living Big, I interview Elaina Conneely as she explains all about chakras. I’d been hearing more and more about chakras and wanted a deeper understanding to what it was, if it was ‘real’ and how I could use it to make my life better!

Elaina’s role is to help Smart Spirited Souls re-engage with their soul wisdom and to use their hearts and minds. Her Soul purpose is to embody Divine self-expression and she is a natural channel of the written and spoken word. She is here to show others their Divine power through the use of intuition and manifesting. She qualified as a spiritual healer many years ago, trained at the College of Psychic Studies London, graduated from Sonia Choquette’s Spiritual leadership program, accredited Soul Realignment Practitioner, Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, and a qualified Personal Performance Coach.  Along with a business degree, postgraduate qualifications in Knowledge Management and Change Management plus over 25 years of experience leading projects across sectors such as Private Banking, Financial Services, Construction and Film & TV, Elaina uses her know how to ensure souls ground their talents and progress in their objectives.
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I’m Betsy and I help ordinary people become superheroes and live to their full potential with my coaching and The Infinite Soul Project!

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