This week on Become Reinvented LIVE I talk about reinventing yourself over 40 and why there is so much working to your advantage! Be inspired and be at ease, there is so much goodness out there waiting for you!Why it's to your advantage to reinvent when you're over 40! Click To Tweet
My name is Betsy Pake and I am a reinvention strategist. I work with people every single day that are trying to reinvent themselves. They’ve gone through something, whether it’s something that they wanted to happen, they knew they had to take a leap into something bigger or they had to make a change in their life to move on to something better. Or sometimes it’s something that happens to them, that maybe they didn’t expect. Maybe it’s a divorce or job change or a career that disintegrated. Whatever the situation is, it just was time for them to reinvent.I wanted to talk with you today a little bit about reinventing yourself after the age of 40. So many times when I’m speaking with people, they’re saying things like, “It’s just too late for me,” or, “I wish I’d started this earlier,” or, “I wish I’d thought of that. I wish I hadn’t wasted so much time.” That’s huge, the “I wish I hadn’t wasted so much time.” I wanted to talk with you about some of the benefits to being over 40 or even some of these could be in your 30s too, some of those benefits that can actually help you now reinvent that you didn’t have access to when you were in your teens or even in your 20s.
I wanted to talk with you today a bit about reinventing yourself after the age of 40.
Many times when I’m speaking with people, they’re saying things like, “It’s just too late for me,” or, “I wish I’d started this earlier,” or, “I wish I’d thought of that. I wish I hadn’t wasted so much time.” That’s huge, the “I wish I hadn’t wasted so much time.” I wanted to talk with you about some of the benefits to being over 40 or even some of these could be in your 30s too, some of those benefits that can actually help you now reinvent that you didn’t have access to when you were in your teens or even in your 20s.
First of all, I want to say that reinvention to me is really hope in action. It is an opportunity for you to see something better, to have a vision and an idea of something you could really become. The process of reinventing can be everything from your body, and your mind, and your spirit, and being able to propel yourself forward to a space where you’re … the coming up next, so what’s next for you. I want to tell you a couple stories about people that were in their 40s that reinvented and it may be some stories you’ve heard before but maybe you didn’t know the whole story.
I want to tell you a couple stories about people that were in their 40s that reinvented. It may be some people you’ve heard before but maybe you didn’t know their whole story.
You may know Vera Wang. She’s a designer and she designs amazing wedding dresses and all the celebrities wear Vera Wang gowns. Well, what you might not know is that she actually tried to be in the Olympics. She was a figure skater and she failed at making the Olympic team. She went on to become an editor at Vogue but she was turned down for the editor-in-chief position and she didn’t start designing wedding dresses until she was in her 40s. Now, she’s world renowned, one of the greatest designers out there.
Julia Child, I just watched a special about her recently. She was 36 when she moved to France, to Paris with her husband for a short time and that’s when she really got involved and in love with French food. She didn’t write her book, The French Chef, until she was well into her 40s and her show didn’t come out until she was in her late 40s. Amy Poehler, super funny woman and you probably know her from Saturday Night Live, she didn’t even get on Saturday Night Live until she was well into her 30s.
Amy Poehler, super funny woman and you probably know her from Saturday Night Live, she didn’t even get on Saturday Night Live until she was well into her 30s.
Lots of amazing people doing amazing things when they’re a little bit later. It’s not always something … We think, well, success starts when you’re in your teens. You have an idea of what you’re supposed to do and now, you’re living this great big life but really, it can happen at any time. Reinvention can happen at any time. We just celebrated the anniversary of Harry Potter. J.K. Rowling didn’t even write that book until she was in her 30s and she was destitute, broke as a joke and about to be living on the streets, wrote that book and now, her whole life has changed. I think she’s
We just celebrated the anniversary of Harry Potter. J.K. Rowling didn’t even write that book until she was in her 30s and she was destitute, broke as a joke and about to be living on the streets, wrote that book and now, her whole life has changed. I think she’s something like the 12th most wealthy woman in the UK.
If you’re over 40 and you’re sitting there and you’re thinking like, “What’s up for me? What’s next? I’m unhappy with something. Something’s changed in my life. I know I just feel like it’s time for me to take a leap and become something more, become more of who I really am,” here’s the one thing that I will say that puts you at a benefit. We so often think we have to start things when we’re young but one big huge benefit is that now, you have tons of experience. You have all this knowledge, not only experience and learning things but you also know more about yourself and what you’re good at.
Last week, I saw Gary Vanderchuk speak and he talked about staying in your lane. One of the things he said that really struck me was find the thing you’re good at and just do more of that. Many times, we think we have to be good at this thing that we’re good at and then we have to take all our faults and try to become better. Don’t. Focus on what you’re good at. Get really super involved in that. Become a master. Now that you’re in your 40s or late 30s, you know the kinds of things you’re good at. You know what wakes you up, what makes you excited. When you are over 40 and trying to reinvent, you have a laundry list of what you know. You have all this experience and knowledge about what you love, what lights you up, what you’re really good at.
The next thing is you have a huge network. When you’re in your 20s or you’re just out of college, you don’t have a huge network of people. One of the keys to being who you want to be and reinventing yourself and making a change is surrounding yourself with people who also are trying to make a change.
Now, when you have a huge network, you can find just about anybody or find somebody that knows the person that is doing the thing you want to do. If you’re sitting there thinking, “You know what, I’m 42 years old and I just got divorced and now, what?” I guarantee you know people that have gone through that that you can reach out to and you can get community. Let’s say you’re in your 40s and your kids are growing up and now, you’re no longer a caretaker of little baby kids. What does that mean for you? Now, you have extra time. Your kids are going out and doing things on their own. You have this extra time. What do you do? What is it that you do with them, with that time? How can you use that to help you leverage and recreate something for yourself?
You have a huge network. Ask your friends. Ask people for feedback. One really great idea is to reach out to people. If you’re feeling lost, reach out to people and ask them, “What do you see me being really good at?” I did this a couple years ago and it was life changing because if you can find people that are going to be honest with you, that you’re close enough with that they really know you and you can ask them, “What do you see when you see me? If you came to me and you have something you wanted to ask me, what would it be?” because you can get really great insight on what your strengths are.
You’re just too much involved to know right then. You can get insight on what people really love about you and see as your strengths. You can learn so much just by asking people that you’re close with just to give you honest feedback, right? You probably know someone who’s doing the thing you want to do because you have this big, huge network now and you’re resourceful.
The other thing is that you’ve gone through hard stuff before. Anytime we’re trying to reinvent, it’s because we’re in an area, some sort of area in our life where we’re not totally happy. The good news is you have lots of experience of overcoming being in the dumps, lots of experience of overcoming … At this point, if you’re watching this video, you have already overcome and lived through all of your bad days, every single one and you’re here. You know that you have the ability to reinvent yourself.
A lot of people might have seen this post but they didn’t come on, they didn’t log on to be able to watch. Here, there were some little tips I just … what I said that might help them and so already, you are like above the fray. You’re already taking those steps and thinking through what can I do to be better? I always am listening to new people, following other people, trying to learn stuff. That’s really how you can start to take those leaps forward, if there’s a nugget of information that helps you. You’ve already crushed all of your bad days and you’re ready to let go of what other people think of you.
I read an article a couple weeks ago and it was about as moms or as women, we have more hormones that help us take care, right, which makes a lot of sense but after getting to our 40s, those hormones start to go down. The good news is our giving of care starts to go down too. That’s how come when we get into our 40s, we’re able to release some of like what everybody else thinks about us and really get to work on the great stuff coming for our lives where we can really reinvent ourselves to be whoever it is that we want.
Here are the things, the keys that are going to help you to reinvent yourself over the age of 40. Besides the fact that there’s a whole laundry list of other people who have gone on to do amazing things after the age of 40 when they really come into their own, there’s loads of people that have done it before you. You have tons of experience. You know what you’re good at, you know what you’re not and you know what lights you up. You have a huge network. You know somebody that knows somebody and if you don’t, you know somebody that knows somebody that knows somebody. Use your network. You’ve survived all of the crappy days. So far, you’re here and you’ve survived all that and you’re ready to let go of what other people think about you. Now, you’re ready to really reinvent yourself because you can move forward and become the person that you’re truly mean to be.
Thanks for watching and I’ll see you on next weeks show about Reinventing when you feel stuck.
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