025: Finding your joy in a world divided- Solo Round - Betsy Pake

025: Finding your joy in a world divided- Solo Round


Today’s podcast is a solo round where I talk about joy and how to find some in a world that seems so negative and full of sadness. 

I want to say that this is what worked for ME to find some peace. You may not want to isolate yourself from social media or you may wish to watch the news. You do what works for YOU.

I know that for me to do my best work in this world I need to stay in happy and in a state of joy. It doesn’t mean I’m burying my head in the sand (!) it means when I listen to the drone of negativity, it stops me from being a productive force in this world. For me to be the helper I can be, I need to leave those details to someone whose calling it IS to listen and act.  For me, my strength is found here.  Be sure to join us inside our facebook group at www.TheArtofLivingBig.com

music by bensound .com





today’s podcast is brought to you by the infinite soul project where you learn how to shift your energy and manifest the change you want in your life. We’re gonna dive into your brain and the scientific reasons why you get more of what you focus on and help you consciously create some miracles for yourself. You can find out more at infinite soul project calm. Welcome to the art of living big. My name is Betsy Pake entrepreneur, author and personal success coach. This is the show that brings you stories and small ideas to help you live a big life. I hope this once a week podcast will inspire you, motivate you and encourage you to think differently about what could be possible for your life. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let’s go live big morning, everybody. Happy Monday. This is a quick solo round, I wanted to talk to you quickly about something that I have done over the last couple of weeks, that has really made a huge, extraordinary improvement in my life. Now, it might not be something that you can do or want to do or willing to do. But I wanted to share it with you because it might give you some food for thought. Alright, so I’ve talked down here before just about the political climate. And you know how we think so much differently from our friends, how can that be possible. And what I found for myself was that I was getting really focused on all of the negative conversation. So for example, if I would turn on the news, I would get like really hyper focused on the negative message, or I would hear somebody talk, but I would be really keyed in to noticing the negative words or the negative tone. And when I was on social media, or especially Facebook, because I have always spent a lot of time on Facebook, it’s sort of my home, that’s where my friends are all my college friends, all people I’ve worked with over the years. And I found myself, like finding these conversations and reading all the comments. And for me, I get really in tune with that kind of stuff. Now. I saw some memes on Facebook, that’s like, Hi, I’m Jane, and I’m an adult. So I can be friends with someone that thinks, you know, a Trump supporter or a Hillary supporter or whatever it was, for me, it was really so much more than that. It wasn’t about me, not wanting to be friends with people. Because the negativity was coming from both sides. It was really about me wanting to protect myself from the negativity. So I found that for me, I was getting really, really keyed into it really hyper focused on it. And it was really starting to shift the way I thought about things and about what I thought was was possible for my life. Now, again, I’m gonna say it again, just because it’s coming into my mind, but I am I very much tune in to people’s feelings. And I take them on. Now, in some respects, that can be really great. And in some respects, it can really bog me down. So it’s something I am learning to control. But I noticed that I was getting so stressed out that my hair was actually starting to fall out. And this has only happened to me one other time in my life when I got really, really stressed out. And so I knew right then that I had taken on a whole lot of this stuff internally, and I needed to let it go. And so what I did was I jumped off of Facebook, I’m still on inside my group, because that’s a fun, positive space. And so I created a profile that didn’t have any friends, but that could be in that group. And so that’s where I log in, I don’t see anything I just get into the group. Some other changes I made is that I don’t watch the news. There was a lot of hysteria and a lot of

like, excess information that almost didn’t have to do with reality that was being shown on the news. And it didn’t matter what news channel, I knew that my husband is an attorney. And he’s very logical and weighs out things that he heard. And he was a really wonderful filter for me. So I am allowing him to filter. And then I’m just living inside joy. I changed some things that I do every day. So when I wake up in the morning, I pull out a sheet of paper and I keep it right by my bed. So it’s a I’m sorry, right by my sink. So it’s a trigger for me. When I get out of bed, I go to brush my teeth and I see my notebook and I grab my notebook and bring it downstairs with me and my glass of water, my bottle of water. And I just write down all the things I’m grateful for everything I can think about. I mean, it could be like that I had this pad of paper that I have my dogs that everybody’s healthy. I have everybody in my home. I have hot coffee, like the simplest things I found myself with within just three or four days of doing this because Coming, so joyful. That one day I was doing my hair at this kitchen at this bathroom sink. And I like found myself all the sudden doing a little dance like I took out all this negativity. And so here’s the really weird thing that started happening. Now, this is almost feel silly to tell you. But I’ll tell you because I think if you’ve been listening to me, you know the vein in which I tell it. So I’ve been to the grocery store twice this week, to pick a few things up. And the first time I went, there was an older man that walked me out to my car, you know how they’ll bring out your groceries, and he was talking and he kept talking about all the perks of his job. And then he was saying about how one of his perks was to be able to, to bring beautiful women’s groceries to the car. Now, I get it like, like, he probably says that to every woman. But I work from home. And so, so many times I miss sweatshirt and leggings, my hair’s in a big, you know, been on top of my head. And so I thought it was sort of funny, because that’s not typically how I’m described recently, okay. And then I went back another time. And the same thing happened like with a different man, it was in front of me in line and said how beautiful I was. And then I saw a couple girlfriends and they were like, you look so good. You look so good. Now, y’all, I don’t. I don’t I don’t. But I’m glowy because I’m so joyful, I feel so great. I don’t have this burden that I had before. Even my daughter said last night You seem your skin seems really douchey. And I’m thinking like, do we like is it greasy. But I looked in the mirror and I was like, Oh, it’s the joy. And so if you find that you’re bogged down, if you find that something else is bothering you, if you find that there’s an area in your life that you just can’t seem to control, and you seem to take on too much of it, it’s okay to say, I’m going to step back from that right now. Or I need to take a little break. Or if you can, if it’s a situation at work, maybe you just need to shift the way you think about it. And if you need help with that, jump onto my website, you can get a free 20 minutes, I’ll help you reframe that. So you can think about things differently, differently. We’ll do a little neural Linguistic Programming a little NLP on here to help you kind of reframe that. But there is so much joy and so much to be grateful for. So make your list write down your list. Try to step away from things that are bogging you down and put on some great music, feel the joy and live in this extremely abundant, incredible universe that we have and be joyful. You deserve to live a big, big life. I hope that helps. I hope it gives you food for thought. You guys go out and have a great week. Thanks for spending some time with us today. Remember to jump in on that online community at SS lB community.com. And, as always, here’s a little message from my husband.

That’s it.


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About Betsy

Hi I’m Betsy and I’m a subconscious change expert.
By day you can find me digging deep into the unconscious beliefs and identity of my clients so they can move past self-sabotage and lack of confidence and gain traction in their career and life.