091: Raising Your Emotional State: Mini-Edition - Betsy Pake

091: Raising Your Emotional State: Mini-Edition


Todays Mini-edition is all about our emotional state and how to learn to shift this when you are struggling.

We aren’t always going to be in fabulous moods and sometimes things can get us down, in today’s episode, I share a new way to look at our emotions and share a practice I use in my own life to shift that state so that it benefits me in a new way.

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Welcome to the art of living day. I’m your host, Betsy Pake, and this podcast is designed to share interviews and new ideas to help you redefine what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hey, everybody, welcome to the show. This week, we are doing mini additions. So if you listen to yesterday’s episode, I talked about how, when I’m working with my one on one clients, I tend to find that there are similar themes in the issues that everybody comes with. Now, there’s specific issues are specific to them. But there is an underlying theme to just about everybody that comes through. And so I wanted to just touch on each of those, in case it’s something that might be happening in your life. And maybe it will help shift some things for you, too. Alright, so let’s get started. So today, on this mini edition, we’re going to talk about raising our emotional state. Now, this is something that I find, it’s so fascinating, because the more people want things to get better, the more that they would like to see changes in their life, it’s almost like the more they start to notice, when they’re not feeling the way they want to feel, or they’re not getting the thing they want to get. It may be that they’ve really been working on getting into alignment in the morning, getting into a happy place. But then later on in the morning, late morning, or even in the afternoon, they have this drop, and they start to get really concerned about it, like I couldn’t maintain this high vibration, and how do I change that my emotional state, and if something happens, and they allow themselves to get dropped down into something like anxiety, or fear, or depression, or worry, or whatever it is, throughout the day, that’s not where they want to be, then how do they actually start to shift it? Now, one thing that I like to say about this, that I always want to point out, is that you don’t have to shift it’s not you don’t have to shift from, um, you’re not either at pure joy or total anguish, right? If you think of that, like a continuum, there is lots of places on the the emotional guidance scale that moves you up towards joy, or passion or enthusiasm. So you may have started out in joy in the morning, and then all of a sudden, you’re driving to work and your brain starts taking over and you start to worry. So now all of a sudden, you’ve dropped down to worry. So you, you feel this anxiety, because oh my god, now I’m in worry, I was trying to be enjoy. And there’s a lot of pressure in that. So one thing I tell my clients all the time is just relax, you don’t have to be perfect. I go up and down the emotional guidance scale throughout the day. I am aware of it now. And that’s the first step. And then I try to shift myself back to something really high vibration. Now, I will tell you in my own life. And I’ve talked about this on an episode before that my daughter has struggled with depression. And so me being around, and being the caregiver for someone who has depression was causing my emotions to drop down because I was full of worry, and blame and doubt. And I realized that the best way to help her was to keep my vibration high. That’s a story for another podcast. But my point in that is that there is a way if you continue to practice this, that no matter what’s going on around you, you can stay pretty high on that scale, you don’t have to always drop down. If thoughts of worry come in, you don’t have to stay there, you can pop right back up. So I want to talk to you about a practice that I use with my clients when they come to me and they’re experiencing something like discouragement or worry or whatever that is. So my first tip is that you don’t have to go from hatred and rage all the way up to joy, sometimes just moving up the emotional guidance scale. So actually, if you’re in anger, and you can move to worry that’s actually higher on the scale. If you’re at worry, and you can move to pessimism, that’s actually higher on the scale. If you’re bored, then you can start to move to to hopefulness or positive expectations or beliefs. So you will get better popping up this scale, the more you do different activities, and I have a lot of different things that I teach with my one on one coaching clients. But the one I wanted to talk to you today was just about whatever problem it is that you have, actually has two sides, right. So there’s two sides to every coin. And so if you’re focused On one side, it may start to help you feel better just by focusing on the flip side. And so the practice that I do with my clients is to go a little bit General, take a step back from the problem, and ask yourself, what would feel better to think about. Now, this can be tricky. And in many times, it’s easier to do with somebody until you get the hang of it. So I’m going to sort of play it out how it would work. So let’s say, in my own life, I really have a desire to travel, and rent. Now, that’s not flowing in my life. There’s a lot of reasons why I have a kid that’s in school, my husband works full time at a job where he has to be there, you know, all of these different things. And so I can tend to get frustrated by that I have this real adventure streak that I feel isn’t being really fulfilled right now. So if I get really focused on that, and sometimes I do, in fact, when I wake up some mornings, I must dream about travel or, or have that in my mind, where I’ll be up just a few minutes, and I’ll start to feel constricted about that. And I’ll say, Oh, there it is, right. And so I take a step back, and I say, what would feel better. So what I’m thinking about is, I can’t travel, there’s too much happening, I’m not allowed to travel, and I’m stuck. And I feel stifled, and I want to go, Okay, so that does not feel good. So what feels better? Well, that travel is something that I can do, from where I live, like I don’t live very far from the airport. So when the time comes, it will be really easy for me to get to a major airport in Atlanta. And what feels better is that there’s lots of places to travel and lots of time, what feels better is I’m not running out of time, this is giving me time to figure out really where I want to go, ooh, what feels better is that I could be really focused on identifying maybe four or five areas where I really want to go and research those out, it feels better to think that I could be really well planned. So when the time opens up, that I could actually travel, I would be ready to go, I’d know exactly where I want to go. So do you see how now all of a sudden, that feels a lot better, those feelings feel a lot better. I’m not dwelling in the, I can’t I don’t have it. So many times, we forget that every subject is really about two subjects, right? It’s the thing that you desire. And it’s the absence of the thing that you desire. So if I’m focused on the absence, I can start to focus on the presence of it. And how can I bring that into my life right now is by planning, researching, getting contrast, right? So if I’m looking something up, and then I go, Oh, I thought I wanted that. But I don’t really want that they don’t have food I would eat in China, or whatever it is, then it helps me eliminate, well, I’m so happy that I cannot immediately manifest stuff that I want. Because if I immediately just like that manifested something I might be in, I would be at a beach house in a beach I didn’t want to be at and then I would be mad about that and having to move again, right? If you’ve listened to the podcast for any amount of time, you know, I talk a lot about moving to a beach house. So if I, if that happened immediately, without me being able to get contrast without me being able to actually identify specifically, where what are the things I would look for in a beach house, in the community in the location, all of those things, then I might end up at a beach house like in some remote area without a coffee shop, and it would be miserable. So if I immediately manifested travel, maybe I would end up traveling someplace I never wanted to go. So when I think of it that way, and I start thinking about what feels better, it actually helps me be able to shift and feel really good about it and know that it’s coming. So take that lesson and see if maybe you can start to back up become general and decide what might feel better. Now this can also be a really fun thing to do with somebody and sometimes my husband and I will do this, like in the morning when we’re getting ready. Or if we’re in the car on a road trip somewhere. We’ll start talking about what feels really good right now. And so see if you can start to identify when something’s in your head. So become aware. And then know that’s the thing that in the back of your mind your focus on the absence of it, but can you shift so that you see the presence of it and you start to get ideas of what feels better? Now, if feeling really good would be maybe working with me one on one. I’m opening up my one on one coaching again at the end of the week. If you’d like to apply there is an application on my website. Just go to bed. Betsy Pake calm and you’ll see it there. I would love to be able to talk with you and work with you one on one too. So I hope that this served you And don’t forget, you deserve to live a big life. see you all tomorrow. Thanks so much for listening. Remember you can find me all over social media at Betsy Pake and, as always, here’s a little message from my husband.

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About Betsy

Hi I’m Betsy and I’m a subconscious change expert.
By day you can find me digging deep into the unconscious beliefs and identity of my clients so they can move past self-sabotage and lack of confidence and gain traction in their career and life.