164: The different levels of creating change in your life - Betsy Pake

164: The different levels of creating change in your life


Making change is not just in taking action and if you are trying to overcome something that has held you back for years, there are multiple layers to uncover!


You’re listening to Episode 164 of The Art of Living bank. All right, today on the show, I taught this show was like the hardest one to record. I don’t even know why it totally flowed once I started. But I started and stopped like four different times. So I’m happy that you’re here. I’m excited for you to hear this show, we really get into actually creating change and all the different levels that need to happen. And there have been some things that have happened with my clients this week.

And with my friends this week, and with me this week, and so I wanted to share some of that stuff to see if it helps you shift and see things a little bit differently about what’s happening in your life. So a couple things I want to point out is that I talked about the self hypnosis library. And well, well, I talked about the self hypnosis that I did, and I that I created for myself. And you can actually get those on my website if you go to Betsy pake.com.

And there’s a little explore tab, and you can, there’s a drop down and you can see the self hypnosis library right there. So I’m adding new ones, like every month in there. So if you want to join that, and I do want to say that there are so many different podcasts to listen to. And I was thinking this morning, as I was like, pulling everything up to record about how damn grateful I am that you guys are here and that you listen and that you share it with your friends.

Like I’m so freaking honored, honestly, gives me goosebumps, I, I know that there’s so many things you can listen to. So thank you for being here. Thank you for listening, and thank you for sharing with me when it like impacts you and makes you think different. You know, it’s it’s, it’s I try to disconnect from Good, good feedback or bad feedback, right?

Because I don’t want to I want to just keep doing what I’m doing and just be fully me putting and you know, it feels good to know that someone’s listening and it’s actually impacting you. So thank you for that. And again, I’m honored to be along on your journey. So Alright, no more of that. Let’s go to the show. Welcome to the art of living big. I’m your host, Betsy Pake.

I’m an international expert in manifesting from your subconscious. And this podcast is designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hello fellow adventurers. Alright, so I am a full on adventure today because I have recorded this podcast, like, well, three times, this is my fourth time where I have just got done it. And then and I haven’t gotten too far in but I stopped erased. And why? Why you might be thinking because I didn’t sound like this.

I sounded like and then we have to this very instructional for some reason. And finally, I was like, why am I not just talking to you? Like I usually do. And so I went and got some coffee, because usually, I have my coffee. And it makes me feel like I’m just sitting down with you like a friend and not trying to like, give you some sort of weird instructions. So anyway, Hello, good morning. Good afternoon. Good evening.

So I’m excited to be here today because

there’s something important that I want to talk about. And it is about manifesting. And it’s about becoming the next version of you the next part of you that you’re trying to develop into. And the interesting thing is, as I have done this recording, like for the 19th time, in the middle of all that I got a message from a girlfriend, and it was this exact thing. And so I was like, Oh, we need to talk about that. Like we need to talk about it in a different way. And so I responded to her this big long thing, which if she is listening, I’m sorry, because you’re about to hear it again. But I responded in this big long way.

And then I was like I need that’s the story that I need to tell because I just think that makes a little bit more sense. And I’ve talked about what I’m about to tell you little bits and pieces. So here’s the thing, when we’re trying to make change, and we are struggling, we have the thing we want and we can imagine it and we’ve may even have a vision board and we have all of the things right that are we’re focused, we have to take a few things into account, I believe that there are several different levels. And one of the things that we need to think about is where you are really going, because so much of our world, and so much of our beliefs and so much of our behavior we pull from the past, right? So we say like, I really want to do that thing.

And I did it before and I was successful, so I’ll probably be able to do it again. Or we have a thing we want to do and we’re like but I’ve tried a couple times and it didn’t work. So I think it’s probably not going to work again. So breaking this bond between what happened in the past and what’s about to happen in the future is one of the biggest, biggest things that I do in my coaching business. Anytime someone wants to expand from where they are, they got to break that bond from the past.

Otherwise, they’re just going to be recreating the past, right. So having this, and having this shift can really help you because it allows new things to come in. It gives this space for you to create what you want in the future. So if you’re noticing, so here’s one little action step here. So if you are noticing that when you’re thinking about your future, you you’ll feel some resistance, right? So

you’re scrolling on Instagram, and you see something that you really want, and you expand into it and go, I really want that. And then you immediately shrink back. That’s what causes the pain. So the pain is not in the expansion. The pain is in you going, but I can’t have that. Oh, but I don’t have the money for that.

But I can’t my job doesn’t allow that. But but but but right? And then you shrink. You shrink back. Do you like my sound effects you shrink back? That’s the pain. And it’s painful, because it’s not true. So it hurts because it’s untruth? expansion feels good because we are meant to expand and grow. And I don’t have to know what’s going to happen. I don’t have to know how that thing’s going to come into my reality. I just have to remain open and believe it will. So breaking that bond from the past, because what happens what causes the but the Yeah, but is all from the past. So that’s all crap you’re pulling from an experience you had or something your parents told you, or something a teacher said or something you saw in somebody else, right?

Well, they really wanted to move to the beach, and they never did. So I probably won’t be able to either. We don’t consciously do that. But we’re unconsciously doing that. And that’s what causes the contraction. And that’s what causes the pain. Okay, so that’s one thing is that when we want something in our lives, and we want to bring something in, we’ve got to break the past because that’s what’s causing the contraction. Okay.

The second thing is, I believe that there are different levels to this. And I have not talked about this before on the show. But this is something that I do very deeply with my coaching clients. If you’re inside my facebook group, I posted something that from a client that she allowed me to post Thank you about her expansion, and her shifting how she was thinking about balance in her life. And she’s a PhD, right? So she’s a doctor, and she’s working.

And so as she’s working, and she’s really focused on that. And then when she goes home, she’s still really focused on work, right. And when she’s at work, she’s sort of thinking about home. So having that time where you’re actually where you feel balanced, and you can feel in the moment, right? So she allowed me to post her little celebration, but the thing I want to comment about it. And if you want to see that post, you can go to the art of living big.com or just go to my website, it’ll direct you right to the Facebook group.

So in all of that, one of the things that I work on with my clients so much is that I believe there are different levels to this. And so as we want to create balance in that example, that’s in the Facebook group, and in the example that my girlfriend just left me, let me tell you this story. So you know, she, I have known her for a long time. And

she’s fabulous, amazing. And she has run those triathlons Do you know, but like the big ones like the, like the Iron Man ones that are like 17 hours or some crazy thing? Like, so she’s that’s her. Right? So you kind of have an idea of her mindset, right? She’s got grit, she like goes and get stuff. She is just awesome, right? So the message that she shared with me was there was this time when she was really like into the triathlons and into doing all this workout stuff.

And now she’s in that time sort of closed, right? So that time sort of shifted into some other things, right? Having some balance, moved into other things in our life. And now she’s like, I want that level of fitness back. So do I go back and do all those things? Like, I guess that’s what I need. Right? I need to have this structure and this, this grit and this, right, all of those things. So all of that doesn’t really feel aligned anymore.

Like she’s resisting it because it doesn’t feel good because it’s an untruth. Right. So she wants to get in shape and feel really good and be this higher version of herself. When she thinks about when she expands and goes, Ooh, that’s the body I want or that’s how I want to feel. That’s the amount of energy I want. She feels a restriction because she goes right back to the past and pulls from that and goes that’s what I have to do. And that feels yuck.

And so I restrict and I go Oh, I guess I can’t do it. Right So this is what I told her. And this is what I, and I’m going to share an experience from my own life. And I’ve talked about this a little bit, and I think that you guys will get it, when I share it in this way, especially if you’ve been listening for a while. So you’ve heard the little updates, but here’s what I find that people do wrong is that we create from action, right action, its behavior. So we’re changing our environment, we’re changing our behavior.

So what do we do, you know, New Year’s resolution time, as we go, I am gonna get a join a gym, I’m gonna buckle down, right, I’m gonna, like really get tight on this, I’m gonna change my environment, by having only the foods around I want you know, all of these things, you know, the things I’m talking about.

We do all those things.

And partly why that does not work. It works for a couple weeks, maybe even maybe a couple months, but not forever, right? Because you’re not changing the higher levels of your mind. So here’s what I believe, I believe it’s not just about changing the higher levels of your mind, it’s not just about changing those values and beliefs. It’s really a more way more holistic approach. And I don’t know that I fully fully grasped or realized this even six months ago.

But here’s what it is, it is changing that bond, so that you don’t pull from those beliefs, those old beliefs right from that old results that you had it so you’re not pulling from the past. That’s one level, it is absolutely action. Because we are physical beings, we have to take action to have change, we must take action, right. But it’s also changing your unconscious version of yourself. So we’ve got to address not just your physical body, we’ve got to address your unconscious body, right, we’ve got to address what the patterns are really, that you’re thinking.

So if you are moving forward, and you’re saying I’m going this is I’m going to put I’m pulling from the past, I’m going to become this other version, this old version of me, I’m going to get grit, I’m going to get super locked down, I’m going to do all this, right? So that’s my conscious mind, my physical body.

But unconsciously I’m going that is not me that is not aligned. So now I have this head butting, right, so I’m actually working against myself, which is highly inefficient, and it’s not going to work, it’s going to cause you a ton of pain. And besides that, you’re going to be expanding, contraction, expanding, contracting, like all day long, and it’s going to wear you out. And then the third part is our spiritual body, our energy body. So the post that’s in Facebook is about someone that wanted to achieve some balance, right? And so achieving that balance, we had to do NLP, we had to talk to her consciousness, right, have a discussion?

What do you think that looks like for you? How do you move through that? Then we had to go in with NLP. And we had to change her subconscious, right, we had to shift what she was thinking, we went into her energy body, and she found where that energy was. And I taught her how to move that energy out of her body that was making her unbalanced, she actually could sense this huge energy body. So move that out of the way. And then we hypnotized her, so that she could create balance, and it felt really in alignment. And then suddenly, she felt like, Whoa, this is really easy. This is simple.

This is who I am. And so I think the mistake we make is we try to make changes, and we are pushing and it’s hard and it’s tiring. And we can’t do a whole lot. Like we can only change one thing at a time. Like, you know, and it might take a long time. And it’s because we’re not being efficient, and we’re not addressing all of these different bodies. So back to the voicemail that I got from my girlfriend, you know, I said to her, you know, and I have talked openly about how I had gained weight when my daughter was sick and all of those things and now, you know, I just got to the point where I was starting to hypnotize myself, I decided I was not going to worry about behavior or environment at all. And I was just gonna hypnotize myself.

And I noticed things were starting to shift and things were starting to change. And I share those hypnosis inside my hypnosis self hypnosis library. If you go to my website, you’ll see that on the drop down menu, there’s like a little on the right hand side is the Explore tab, you’ll see that but I also made some ocean sounds so I can just play it in the background and there is embedded subconscious commands underneath. So I started doing that as well.

And having that just playing in the background like when I was getting ready in the morning or getting ready for bed. It’s soothing. It sounds like the ocean but underneath are these embedded messages. So I was actively impacting my subconscious beliefs then Suddenly, I felt really in alignment with, with changing with, like, creating change in my life.

And so I got really clear on who that version of me looks like. So I don’t want to be pulling from the old version of me that was a weightlifter, right? I’ve been a competitive weightlifter, I owned a CrossFit gym. And I had all of this CrossFit gear in my garage. So if you follow me on Instagram you saw last week, or Yeah, it was last week, because I think I talked about it last week on the show,

I sold the gear,

and I sold it. I wasn’t getting the use out of it. But I also sold it because I wanted to really show my subconscious that I was done with that part of me like it was okay to move forward. And I wanted to create, you know, the universe hates a vacuum, right abhors a vacuum, you’ve probably heard that. And so if I created space, if something moved out, it would allow space for something to move in. So all of this has been part of my process of like clearing and becoming this next version of myself.

So what I was telling my girlfriend is, you know, I got really clear on who Betsy is in the future. I know who Betsy was as an athlete in the past. But that made me feel constricted, right. So I would expand into this is a healthy version of Betsy, this is the kind of person that Betsy is dealing with her physicality and her health and wellness. And then I would think about getting on the barbell or I would think about who I used to be more I would think about this, like aggressive counting my macros and like grit and push, push, push, very masculine energy, and I would constrict it would feel yucky

to me.

And so I decided to just let all that go and move forward based on who I saw myself really being. So the weird thing was, as I was doing all of this, and I was going in, and I was clearing some of that energy, and a lot of that was just like stuck in my body, right? So we get stuff that energy is just stuck in our body, it needs to be moved, and it needs to be moved so that something new can happen, right, so something new can come. So about.

Maybe it was like almost four weeks now, I just suddenly felt like eating like really, really clean, healthy food. I don’t even know how to describe it. It was it sort of was whole 30 I sort of was like an elimination diet. But it just felt so good and totally easy. I had one day where I wanted a Diet Coke. And other than that I was totally like in alignment. I’ve just been eating like a ton of vegetables. And the interesting thing is I was eating fruit like a ton of fruit and I released all resistance around, you shouldn’t eat that much fruit. I decided I was just going to eat a ton of fruit. And that’s what I wanted.

That’s what I was craving fruit, fruit, fruit, fruit fruit. So I’ve been eating fruit all till about noon, and then making lunch and just like beans and all of my vegetables like just tons. And I’ve been having a lot of fun with it. I’m making sprouts, and I’m doing all these things. So the interesting thing is yesterday, I met my daughter for lunch. And she wanted to go to farm burger, which is like, I don’t know, I think maybe it’s like organic kind of grass fed beef burger place.

And I hadn’t had red meat and I certainly hadn’t had any bread. And I she wanted to go and I felt good about it. So I was like, let’s go. So I went I totally enjoyed everything that I ate. I felt zero guilt I left and I never thought about it again. And I came home. And at night I went right back onto my vegetables. And it was no, there was no resistance to it at all. Like there was nothing like it was the freest I have felt. So

I tell you that just to say

that when we can attack all the different levels of us, right, so we might get the action thing down, we’re in a physical plane, we get the action thing now we know the actions, but there’s still resistance. And it’s because you’ve got to change your subconscious. So there’s no butting heads, right? There’s no my conscious and my subconscious think the same. And I’ve got to deal with my energetic body, I have to release some of that so that the new version of me can really flourish and grow. So if you are struggling, if you’re trying to create a new version of you, and I’ll, I’m gonna pause it for a second say, I haven’t weighed myself in about a week. But when I weighed myself last week, I had lost six, five or six pounds. So I’m not even focused on that anymore.

But I just want to say that because I know that the version of me that I’m calling in is just like really healthy and and lean, like I can see her and she’s lean in a different way not in like a CrossFit body. Like I used to be a very muscular and CrossFit body, but it she just seems way more in flow and lean and really healthy and balanced. Right.

So I just am moving into that. So um so I leave you with All of that work, if you are trying to call something in, if you have something you’re trying to pull in, and you just feel like you’re working so hard, and you’re struggling, and you’re doing all the right things, right, but you just can’t get any traction, you can’t seem to shift things, it is entirely possible and, in fact, probable that you are not dealing with all the different layers. And that you’ve got some cross purposes there, right, your subconscious and your consciousness not talking.

And you’ve got to move the energy in a different way, so that the new thing can start to flourish and can start to build in your body. You know, we’re not just physical bodies, like we are here having a physical experience, but we also are energetic, right? We have subconsciousness, we have all of these patterns going on. So creating something new can really help you release. If you can release it can really help you create something new and the thing that you really want to have in your life.

And it can happen like that. I see people in my eight week eight week coaching program. Within two weeks, they’re like, Oh my god, this is freaky, right? Like it’s weird. Things are different. I feel like the room is different. Like why do I feel like my house is different, right? So I got that the other day, why do I

feel like my house is different?

Because you are different. So shifting doesn’t have to take a long time. But we’ve got to look at all the different parts. So I leave you with that if you want to. If you’re interested in learning a little bit more about how I actually do this work. You can go to my website if you go to Betsy Pake calm there’s a button right there that says take my free training I have a free masterclass, it’s like 4045 minutes, and it explains to you the five shifts that you have to make to be able to shift into something new.

So check that out. If you want to talk with me and see if I might be able to help you. You can go to Betsy Pake comm backslash, let’s talk and I love this because I like to be able to see if I can identify patterns for you, or see if I can see if there are any belief systems that are holding you back because those will come out in your language. So if you’re interested in just talking to me, and we can do that work then absolutely it’s free call and you can just go to Betsy pake.com backslash let’s talk.

Alright everybody have an awesome week. I hope that you can call in all of the awesome things that are in store for you this week because I believe that is how you live big. See you guys later. Thanks so much for listening to this episode. If you found it a value please share it with your friends, tag me on Instagram or leave a review on iTunes or any of your listening apps.

If you leave a review and you take a screenshot please email it to us at support at Betsy Pake calm and we will send you a self hypnosis audio that will help you break down any limiting beliefs that you have. So thanks so much for sharing. Thanks so much for leaving your review. And don’t forget to join us inside our Facebook group by going to the art of living big.com and I’ll see you there


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About Betsy

Hi I’m Betsy and I’m a subconscious change expert.
By day you can find me digging deep into the unconscious beliefs and identity of my clients so they can move past self-sabotage and lack of confidence and gain traction in their career and life.