Today Betsy talks about resting, expansion, and living bigger in the next year.
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Hello fellow adventurers, welcome to today’s show. My name is Betsy pake, if you’re new here, I am a speaker and a coach. And I train ripple makers to become coaches as well. So, alright, so there’s a lot of things that I want to talk about today, this season, I feel like our lives are in seasons, right that don’t necessarily go along with the seasons outside. But we have seasons in our lives, slower seasons and seasons that are more creative. And for me, I feel like I’m coming out of a really I don’t want to use the word hard, although that’s the word that came to me. But a really challenging season, there was a lot of opportunity for me to shift how I’ve been seeing things, and to grow, and to learn really strong and good boundaries and a new way. And just really, really great, great lessons about allowing myself the space to rest. You know, I think that right, resting gets a bad rap. We we are. So I think we’re in such a community of busyness and like achieving things as what’s really good, that we forget that resting is really, really important too. And I had to fight against that a lot over the past couple months, allowing myself to back up and allowing myself to slow down and the fears that came along with that. But I knew that that’s what my body needed. That’s what mentally I needed. And I do feel like rest is just as important as doing. And that the truth is that rest only means something that we assign the meaning to, you know, if we grew up in a different culture, and maybe you’re listening and you’re in Spain, or someplace where they take a siesta right in the afternoon and you’re allowed to rest, then it becomes a different meaning. But for me, and the way that I grew up, being productive was really, really important. And so shifting, and allowing myself the space to rest made me realize that that has a purpose to
and that doing isn’t the only thing. And that if I could stop resisting, the need to rest, because all that does is really like prolong the need to rest. But if I could stop resisting, and just allow myself the space, you know, to heal and to breathe, and to expand that. It was those moments where I was quiet, when I could start to see and hear and feel the messages that I needed to in order to move forward and to use those challenges to create opportunities and possibilities for me in my life. So I wanted to share that in case you’re in that season. You know, it’s been a long, 18 months. And I think that if you live in an area like I do, I live in Atlanta where the pandemic isn’t something that we notice all the time, because people don’t really wear masks here in Atlanta anymore, then the mask mandate has been lifted. And so it’s we forget that it’s still happening, there’s still a lot of unrest and a lot of fighting that we see, you know, on the news and like social media, all the places, and there is this underlying uncertainty that perhaps is making you really, really tired. And I think that over the course of the last 18 months, a lot of us have become really tired, but all of us probably and in a global way. And if you live in a place where you have to be busy, then it’s compounding on that and might be starting to wreck havoc on your body or your spirit. I know for me, that’s what was happening. And so allowing yourself the space and just understanding there’s a lot going on. Even if your life right now may have like challenges or normal things happening. There’s still an underlying, like stressor out there. So give yourself a little bit of space and a little bit of grace to be able to go in a new direction and we can’t pivot and go in a new direction until we’ve like stopped the car. You know, until we’ve paused at the stop sign and made an assessment I think it’s really hard to make an assessment if we’re not listening in. You know, one of the things I talk about all the time is like listening in to that inner knower, then I know for me, it is so darn hard to hear her when I really, really hectic and busy and things are overloaded. So before I go any further, I want to tell you, I want to, I want to offer something. So I have something that’s so good, it’s so good, I’m so excited about it. And if you are interested in doing something different for your personal development for 2022, if you’re like, Alright, I want to regroup and I want to have like a path. And I want to have a community to be able to do this with then I want you to text me the word ready. And that will put you on the early notification list about what is about to happen, I’m going to give you the number to text me. And this is if you’re in the United States, if you’re not just email us, and we’ll make sure that you get the latest. Okay, so text me at 770-343-3409. And if you’re not familiar, that’s my texts list, I send out maybe like once a week, sometimes twice a week, sometimes twice a month, messages that come from my inner Knower. And so those messages are things that I hear typically in my morning meditation and things that I want to share. And hopefully they help expand you and make you see something a little bit differently about what could be possible for your life. So a little piece of inspiration. So if you’re on the text list already, you can still text me ready, and it will put you in that community so that you get the first dibs on what I’m going to offer, it’s
I will get to hug you if you do this. Okay. So I’m really looking forward to that. And Alright, so now I want to talk a little bit of you know, it, this energy in this resting I think is so important. And I think it’s super important for you to be thinking about, especially as we go into the holidays, which tend to get even more hectic. And the other thing that I want to shift you to, if you’re in that place where you’re like it’s crunchy, do you know what I mean by that crunchy, that’s how it has felt to me, like crunchy like scar tissue. And so as I tried to pivot and move, it’s like this crunchiness of it, where we’re where to shift feels like I’m having to break apart a bunch of old junk, you know, junk that I that had just kind of scarred over and I was ignoring. And then when I broke it all up, then it was like the pieces of the scar tissue floating around. And I had to just stop and pause and say, Where does this go? Where does this belong? What do I want to do with this? And in all of that, when that happens, I think that it becomes really easy to get focused on that scar tissue to get focused on the things that maybe aren’t going the way that we want or the things that are challenging. I know for me, that’s how it feels like sometimes I’m like, Oh, my nose, everything. How’s everything going? So sideways, like why does this feel so bad? And honestly, I think if someone else came into my life, and just took a peruse of it at best at the last like three months, they would say well, I can see how that thing would be a lot. But the other stuff isn’t that big of a deal. Betsy put it felt because that scar tissue was being like, crunchy and in cracked open. You know, it felt like everything was like at a level of overwhelm. And I think when we get like that, it can be really important, extra important for us to pause, stop at that stop sign and say, How can I expand? How do I expand from this place? How do I expand? A couple weeks ago, I said my husband?
Just stop, I need you to just stop. I can’t get him a pad of paper. And I said I want you to just write down everything that I’m going to say. And he was like, All right. Okay. So I was like, I just wrote down. If I want this, if I could have this, I want this, I want this, I want this, I want this. And what I did not do was put the parameters on it that you typically would put on it if you were saying a list of things that you want because what do you do you go okay, well for 2022 I want this but I don’t really have the money for that. Oh, but you know what, I probably don’t have the time for that. You know, I that probably wouldn’t work because of work. Like I didn’t put any of those parameters on it. I just said everything that I want Like, I want to go to Bali for a month, next year, like a whole damn month, I want to have live events and hug people I want to, there’s so many things that I want to do. And I just had him write those things out. Some of them were really simple things. Like I want a really good haircut. Right? I mean, I know that sounds silly, but I just said everything in that moment that I could think of that I want. He was writing Fast and Furious. And if I’m honest, I couldn’t read hardly any of it. It was like, I was like, Are you a doctor, because I can’t read any of this. I had to have it transcribed later. But I got it out without a delay of myself, you know, without, like putting a governor on it. Do you know what I mean? When I say governor, like those big trucks driving down the road, when you hear that, like when they’re? Well, when they can only when they’re in the wrong lane. They’re in the left hand lane, and they should be in the right hand lane. And they’re not going very fast. It’s because they can’t, because the truck company has put a limit on how fast they can go. So now they’re in that left hand lane. But they really can’t go any faster to pass the other truck on the right hand side. So they’re kind of stuck. It’s a governor like you, we put these stops on ourselves and say, I can only go this fast, I can only have this much joy. And this is the only amount of fun I can have. Like I can’t rest any more than this. Right. And so having that exercise where I just said, I’m just going to expand, I’ve been at this stop sign feeling all this crunchiness floating around, I’m going to just expand into everything that I want. I’m just going to say everything that I want without those parameters. And like when I tell you that felt so fun, like truly fun, like where I was almost laughing doing it, I was talking so fast, it would almost be helpful to open up your iPhone and like do a recording and just talk because he couldn’t write as fast as I was talking, the ideas and things that were coming out. Because I gave myself that freedom. You know, I didn’t say Well, let me look at the calendar and see when I could go on a vacation. Like I didn’t do any of that it didn’t matter to me. If the things were possible in my physical reality, they were just my truest desires in that moment. Like, what are my desires, we pull ourselves back, I think so often. And then we struggle because every year we’re stuck in the familiar. Every year, we’re stuck in this feeling of like, I can’t expand any more than I ever have. And I want to I see other people, I see other people experiencing the things that I want to experience. And the thing that I know for sure is if I see someone doing the thing that I want to do, then it is meant for me to do. And if I feel that constriction, that jealousy that even more, I’m like, oh, that’s for me. Right? So what could you expand into? How could you take yourself out of that crunchy zone and into anything could be possible because you create the matrix. Like if this is an I know this is going out there. But if this is a simulation, like just just for a second for fun, be like this is just a simulation. So this can go any way that I want it to go. Like I’m the main character, I get to create the coolest, most amazing outcome from here. And maybe if somebody was watching this as a movie, it would be kind of like dull. It can have like an incredible ending. It can have like the best, most amazing next
3040 50 years. Because you get to choose, you get to pick and all you have to do is expand and let go of those parameters. Those governors that used to hold you where you were, that no longer hold you in place. Because anything could be possible. And you might be thinking right now, but I kept this job and I can’t just go What if I don’t know what if you want to go to Bali? And what if your job sends you to Bali? I know you’re like well my job doesn’t do that. They don’t have anything to do with Bali Betsy. Maybe you don’t even want to go to Bali. But if this is a simulation and we get to create it. I don’t know the wine. Why not? What would happen if you just believed it? Do you guys remember my episode I did about that. bobblehead doll I’m gonna I need to find An episode was about the bobblehead doll, and about wanting my husband wanting this bobblehead doll. And I can’t even tell you how much we created that experience. And positive we created that experience in the matrix that didn’t exist. Before we got to it was a basketball game, they were giving out bobblehead dolls. We didn’t get one because we got there too late because I needed tacos. And I decided someone would just hand us one. And as we were in the parking lot, and it’s a good story, we’ll all find that episode. Hang on. All right, I’m pretty sure it was episode 9898. So when we, when we can just step out of this, this idea that things are a certain way, you know, when we can just step out of the illusion, then what could be possible if some people are doing things that are like incredible and amazing and super high energy and having incredible relationships and friendships and travel? What if that’s something you desire, then why not? So I would just offer the thought that if you’re in the crunchiness, you let down your guard for a minute and just expand into anything that could be possible. Open up the Voice app on your iPhone and just speak it, speak it into existence. Say it out loud, it becomes a vibration and start to connect in to what 2022 could really be for you. And text me, text me the word ready? If you’re ready, because I think this is going to be a really incredible ride. And when you do this, and you connect in and you expand out, I think that is how you live a big life. Thanks so much for listening. I will see you guys next week. Thanks so much for listening today. If you want to take a moment to leave us a review on iTunes. Take a quick screenshot before you hit submit and email it over to us at support at Betsy pake.com. And we will send you a special audio hypnosis to help you overcome a limiting belief. Thanks so much and I’ll see you next week.