273: Letting go to call in more


Today Betsy talks about your story and how you are replaying the past over and over.

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Welcome to the Art of Living big podcast. My name is Betsy pake, and I’m an author, speaker and a master mindset coach focused on helping you understand and design your life with the power of your subconscious. This podcast is designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hello fellow adventurers. Hello, hello, I’m excited that you’re here with me today, if you’re new here, or if you’ve been here for a little while, but you haven’t heard why I say hello fellow adventurers, it just occurred to me that it might be a good time to like, go back to that for just a second. So I believe, and I think this comes through in a lot of the ways that I teach and talk on the show. But I believe that we are here as spiritual beings having this physical experience, and that it’s an adventure. And in that vein, I think it kind of clicks into what I want to talk about today, which is, this is a this adventure is a choice. It’s a choice that we made, I believe that we made to come at this specific time, with a lot of these specific challenges. And we came to experience like really great highs and really great lows. And to dive into that a little further, I believe that when we start to dull, the really big lows, when we don’t want to go into those when we avoid those. It also does the other side of that it dulls the amount of joy and the amount of happiness, and all of that that we can experience in our lives. So when I say hello fellow adventurers, it’s because I believe that we are on this adventure together having this human experience and that we’re here to, to experience all of it all the good and bad. So this has been a really strange season for me. And I say strange, because it really caused me to recoil, you may have sensed that, like if you follow me on social media, or you’ve been here on the show for a long time. Back in August, I had some things happen in my life that just caused me to recoil. And now here it is Thanksgiving time. And I feel as though I finally am able to like step out of that, like protective shell, so to speak, I think that this happens in our lives a lot, where we suddenly feel like the soft underbelly of ourselves exposed. And we feel like we need to protect and part of protection for me, for somebody that shares so much of themselves was really to like recoil and to be really selective about who and where I shared the parts of myself that I was ready to share. And this has been a really interesting experience. In fact, as low, as low as it’s been, it’s been such an incredible period of growth. And when I say that I am recording this podcast right now, like so different than I was in August, when I recorded a podcast like, it is so different. There have been so many things that have happened, that transformed, you know, the transformed the way I was experiencing my life. And you may have times like that, you know, maybe you can look back over your timeline and be like, you know, that time in my life, I changed a lot or that thing was so big, that it really impacted me and I never really was the same after that. And, and if you’ve experienced that, then you know what I’m talking about where just things are different. Now in all of that. I have gotten some incredible coaches, I’ve stepped forward and I call it self selecting where I have self selected but I have chosen myself and said I’m going to put the emphasis here on this piece of growth that I want to have. I have done a lot of NLP I hired an NLP coach. I hired I, I entered part of a mastermind and I hired us another specific coach just for me. So three, three different coaches plus a therapist. So a team when I say a pit crew, I am telling you I’ve hired a pit crew. I’ve spent 1000s and 1000s and 1000s and 1000s and 1000s of dollars and it was the best, like the best I could not sit here right now. And be in This place of like metamorphosis without having done that. Through all of that, what I want to talk about today, what I really want to talk about today is how letting go, is how you actually call in more, you know, you probably have like hopes and dreams and things you’d really like to have for your life. And, you know, it’s getting close to the new year and every new year, you know, it’s the time where most a majority I think of people set some kind of resolution or they have a word or an intention for the year, right? Well, how do you get that thing, like what makes the New Year different than any other time? Because chances are, you’ve wanted the thing long before the new year, a long before the time where you committed to the goal. And so one of the things that I think happens is that we become very, very connected to our story. You know, I know this for me over the past four months, what hasn’t really happened is an undoing. It is an undoing, and a letting go of my story, the story that I had around who I was and why I showed up in certain ways and, and how I reacted to things. It whether I was it was a conscious story, or an unconscious Story, the Story existed in that is how I built my life and my patterns and my reactions around. You know, every time I work with a client, that’s one of the very first things that we talk about is like, what’s the story around that? Because and I believe this, I believe this and I and I say this with compassion because I had to feel it myself. But our, our reality, reality, or reality is neutral. And I see reality as like, what’s happening around us as neutral. But it’s our story that gives it meaning. Now that meaning can be something really impactful and wonderful. And we need the story to create meaning out of what’s happening in our lives. But in the end, the event itself is neutral. This is how come some people can have really big reactions to something and someone else is like man a big deal to the same exact thing. Right? It’s because our history around it, our past patterns, our past experience, the story around it is different. And so as I have been going through these past four months in this metamorphosis, and when I tell you, I I, I had some NLP earlier in the week. And within like, a couple days, I was like, oh, like, whoa, like something we did a lot of identity work in that session. And I could feel it was almost like a palpable shift. Now, what was I really feeling the shift around was how my unconscious mind was organizing the story. So one day when I woke up this week, and I was like, I feel so different. It’s because I was perceiving my reality in a different way. My reality hasn’t changed. But how I’m perceiving it is totally different. And that’s what causes the change. Who was it Dr. Dyer, right, Dr. Wayne Dyer, who said when you change the way you look at things, the way the things you look at change. And that’s like a way more eloquent way to say exactly what I’m saying here. But when I want to create something more when I have that resolution, when I have the thing in my life that I want to change. When I have when I know, not this, I don’t want this, I want that. Or even if I don’t even get to that point where I just don’t know, just not this right. Step one is knowing not this. Step two is knowing I want that instead. But even if I just have step one, the key to letting it go. And, and calling in more is changing the story. And so actually identifying the story is going to be the first step in that process. So identifying what the story actually is and chances are you have said the story a million times you’ve talked about the story a million times you’ve probably told friends or perhaps it’s not even available to you. You just know that it’s what it is. This is when I think like a really good coach comes in handy. This is why I hired some because I needed to say the story and have them poke at the part that I didn’t see or the part challenge me on the parts that they could tell were holding me back. And I think that when we can do that work, when we can start to change the story, suddenly we can like, take a big deep breath. And things begin to unfold in a different way. Now, here’s the key to all of the reason why the story is so important is because when the story changes, for me, whether it’s conscious or unconscious, when the story changes, my reactions are different. My facial expressions are different. My habits around it are different. The way I see it in the future is different. The way my unconscious mind expects things is different. Did you know that your unconscious mind has a map already of the future? It’s true, it already knows what’s going to happen to you next week, next month. This is why we experienced so much of the same thing over and over again. So where does it get that map? It gets that map from your past. So it’s basically just like rerunning the railroad track, you know, flopping the there’s a cartoon, I wish I could remember what it was, but it’s coming to me right now, where it’s like, the the railroad track is being flopped down in front, and the little character is moving forward. And then they’re pulling the railroad track from behind them, and then moving it back in front of them. And so it’s basically like, they’re just on a wheel, you know, it’s just going and going and going. That’s what our unconscious mind does. It takes the past and it goes, well, let’s take this as a template and just flop it into the future. And so when I want something different, I’m like, How come? I don’t see it? How come? It’s not happening? Why isn’t it coming to me? How come I can’t call in what I want? Well, it’s because it like just, you know, like, it’s just pointing to the past. It’s taking that past and just flopping it over. And so the first step in shifting that is really seeing the story and changing the story. And so the work that I have been doing over the past four months is changing the story. And it has been like heartbreaking, and stressful and overwhelming. There have been times where I’ve laughed and cried and screamed of frustration. But in the ends, when I finally was able to do it, when I was finally able to make that shift, it felt like suddenly I was a boiled potato, like a soft potato, where I could, I could pick the story and then mush myself into that story. And that story could be the story of celebration and the story of victory. And the story of overcoming and the story of growing and the story of like, be like celebrating like my hands in the air is the vision I’m getting like I did it. Like I can be now the thing that I want to be and I thought I could be the thing I wanted to be before. But I knew there was like a little something that was holding me back. And I didn’t know what it was. And I feel like when I really started paying attention, and I recognized the story, and I could say I have a boundary around that I don’t like this, I don’t want that. Then I could break everything apart and put it back together the way that I wanted. Now, I am trained. I’m an expert in doing this work. I’m an expert, like I have so much training, it would boggle your mind. And I had to hire a coach. Because these kinds of big shifts just can’t be done on our own it would it I take that back. It could be done. It would just take so freaking long I would get worn out and burned out. And I would need to retreat into nothingness and just live my life, like doing something different than my dreams. And I believe that if I hadn’t gotten help, then my life would have been fine. But I don’t want fine. I don’t want mediocre. I don’t want just okay. I don’t want to be an old lady and look back and go. I wish I just tried that. I wish I’d done it. I wish I had accomplished like those hopes and dreams and things that I had for my life. And now I feel like it can end if I can then you can. If you have hopes and dreams and things that you want. That you know could be possible. Maybe you’ve maybe you’ve let those slip away a little bit. Maybe you haven’t visited them. Maybe it’s time to pull them out of your back pocket. Be like what is that old version of me that wanted this thing? Is she still there? Okay, As I bring her back out, and breathe some life into her and create a new possibility moving forward, I fully fully believe that 2022 is supposed to be like an incredible, incredible year of, of victory for people, I think the last couple years, maybe even last five years have been a lot of breaking things down. And I believe that 2022 is going to be an incredible place of bringing it all together if you’re ready. And I think that’s going to make the difference. If you’re ready, then the world is going to step up to meet you, you know, the universe is going to be here to support you. And if you’re not ready, then you’ll just stay in the pattern, right, the railroad track being pulled out from behind you and pushed in front of you. And you’d be kind of on this hamster wheel. So I know for me, I’ve got some really big plans. And I know for you that if you have big plans, you can do those things too. So I want you to tell if you’re in in the United States, text me the word ready, I’m going to be taking a group of people through an extraordinary process. And if you want the information on that, you’re going to want to be on the text list. And here’s why you’re going to be want to be on the text list. Because the people on the text list are going to get early access. And I think it’s going to fill up really fast. There’s already over 100 people on the waitlist. So if you want to be on that list, text the word ready to 770-343-3409. Now, if you’re in Canada, or you’re somewhere else, just email us at support at Betsy pake.com. And we have been collecting a bunch of emails of people that are outside the United States that can’t get on the text list. So text me the word ready 27703 43 3409. And I will make sure you have all the early information now is my way the only way? No, it’s not. It’s not. But I’ve been through it. I’ve been through it. I’ve been through it several times in my life, up leveling and opening up to new above like opening up to new. And now that it is so fresh. Now that it’s so fresh, it is the perfect spot to bring you through it too. So I believe that when we do this when we look at our stories, and we say what’s the story I have? And is this story serving me. That’s when we can harness possibility that’s when we can say yes to something new. And that I think is how you live a big life. So if you want to go through this process with me or just hear more about it, text me the word ready. And I will see you all next week. Have an awesome week. I love you so much. Bye. Thanks so much for listening today. If you want to take a moment to leave us a review on iTunes. Take a quick screenshot before you hit submit and email it over to us at support at Betsy pake.com. And we will send you a special audio hypnosis to help you overcome a limiting belief. Thanks so much and I’ll see you next week.


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Hi I’m Betsy and I’m a subconscious change expert.
By day you can find me digging deep into the unconscious beliefs and identity of my clients so they can move past self-sabotage and lack of confidence and gain traction in their career and life.