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Betsy talks about taking a step into the unknown. She challenges you to place your faith in trusting that you can grow and expand to meet any challenge that comes in the way of getting to where you want to go. Because when we look back on our lives, on the things that define who we are, we don’t really remember the things that were simple and easy. We remember the things that had an impact because they caused us to shift and grow.
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Hello fellow adventurers. Hi, welcome to the show today. If you’re new here, Hi. Thanks for being here. If you’ve been here for a while, Hi, how’s it going? I’m excited to be here today because, um, well, I’m still in Iceland. Alright. So it’s like, I feel like this is I feel like I let me pause. I’ve had an amazing time. And I still have almost a full week to go. And it’s gotten to the point where people are starting to message me, like, how long are you going to be there? So I know it feels like a long time. And it’s starting to feel like a little like, Okay, I’m ready. I’m starting to feel ready to go back to like, a schedule, you know, I’m really, really enjoying the adventure and having so much novelty. You know, this morning, I actually posted it on on Instagram, maybe it was yesterday morning, although this happens every morning. But I came out of the little cabin where we’re staying. And I just like look around. And it’s I don’t even have words for how amazing it is and how incredible it looks. You guys remember that show? The Truman Show? It had Jim Carrey in it. And he was like, living a life that was being taped, like for TV. So everybody was watching his life. But he didn’t know that. So everyone in his life were actors. But the thing that always like stuck out to me is that the environment that he that that movie takes place in the environment that Truman is living in is like all manufactured. So it’s perfect, right? It’s like, super perfect. And at one point, I’m going to assume you’ve seen this movie because it’s really old. But at one point towards the end, he actually goes out and is able to touch like the edge of the environment. Right? So he realizes, really, he’s in a soundstage. Right? So it’s like, like, like when you make a movie. And so
I can’t I keep feeling like, is this real? There’s something about this, that feels really, like not real. And it’s, you know, the pictures I’ve been posting, it just doesn’t it? It doesn’t do it any kind of justice. It’s magnificent, really. And I’m not sure I’ve ever used that word before in my life, but it is magnificent. So anyway, I had I posted the other day when I walked out of the cabin, and there’s just like, everywhere around me is just like amazing. So had such a good time. And I have to say I’m going to do a huge episode on like, everywhere I’ve gone and the travels and you know if you can come to Iceland come to Iceland. And I’m going to share my itinerary. I know, but I want to do that episode when I’m complete, you know, so like when everything has been completed and done. So I feel like anytime we have an adventure or anytime we want to experience something new. The reason is because we want to feel a certain way. Right? Everything that we want to have in our lives, or be in our lives or do in our lives is because we believe that that’s going to give us a certain kind of feeling.
And I know that there are times where I have gone headfirst into an adept endeavor, knowing I’m going to have the good feelings that I want. But also knowing that there’s going to be challenges and this trip has
really caused so much growth I’m I mean the rest of my life, the rest of my life I will grateful for this time, and this time to not only like explore and see something just so different than what I’m used to. But also this time to have taken a risk, right of like doing this by myself and coming in meeting people I don’t know. Also this time of meeting all these people I don’t know and we there is nothing that gives you a better
understanding of yourself than when you’re with a group of people that you don’t know. And you’re trying to, like, establish yourself of who you are. So this whole trip I will be forever and forever and ever grateful for. And what I wanted to talk about today, there’s so many things that I want to talk about that I feel like I could go in a million different directions. But for right now, what I want to talk about is this trip, and this idea that I had for this trip, because we all go into things thinking, we’re going to get something out of it, right. And there is a level of trust that you have to have when you take a leap, or when you take a step out into the darkness, right into the unknown.
And I want you to think about maybe times in your life where you’ve done something that maybe was a lot different than what you had done before, or you’ve done something that you’re really proud of.
And when you think about those things, and you look back, I bet you also see that there were a certain number of challenges that you had to overcome certain things that came up that you didn’t know, were going to come up. And you had to find the answer or go within yourself to, to stay strong enough to be able to move through the challenges. And when you look back on your life, I bet you have big things where that’s happened, right? I mean, I know I do, this will be one of those things. I know, years ago, I ran a marathon.
And I there was a lot of challenges that came up. And that’s one of like the greatest, like, that’s one that will be one of the highlights of my life. Like, if,
if if I when I am 90 190 day, and I transition, I hope that when we look over my whole entire life, that then we go, oh, we see that thing. And we go Oh, the the time where I did the marathon was the big highlight of my life. Right? I hope that that always remains a highlight. So it is these things that are difficult, that make them have an edge. It’s the thing that makes you remember them, or that makes them valuable. There are times where things went super smooth in my life. I mean, I’m trying to think now see that I can’t even think of one like, you know, I remember going to camp as a kid. I remember it was exciting. I was super excited. My parents dropped me off, I was gone for two weeks, we camped, I vaguely remember things about it. It was fun. And it was a great experience. And I’m grateful I got to go. But I didn’t have to overcome anything. I didn’t have to grow. Really I didn’t have to change a whole lot, you know. And so it’s just not as important, a defining moment in my life. It’s something I experienced, but it doesn’t define who I’ve become.
And I think that when we look back on our lives, the things that define who we’ve become are the things that that contain challenges, the things that were hard. Now, if you agree with all of that, I want you to think about your life moving forward. I want you to think about like what’s to come in your life? And what are the big things that you really want to have in your life. I know that there’s big I talk to people every day in my work, where they have big things, and I have big things too. So I get it.
And those things might
they might be like so huge that you aren’t even sure how that could ever happen.
It might be that it’s something that you want. But you know, it’s gonna be uncomfortable to get there and you just don’t have it in your at this moment.
I talked to somebody recently they wanted to quit smoking. Well, they wanted to not be a smoker.
But when I was talking to them, they and I said do you like smoking? And they said, Yeah, I like it a lot. I don’t want to be a smoker. I wish I’d never started but I smoke now and I don’t want to quit.
And it really got me curious because I don’t think it’s that they didn’t want to quit. I think it’s that they didn’t want to go through what they thought was going to be terrible. That would lead them to being a nonsmoker.
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you probably have goals and dreams and hopes and things that you want to have. And I’m curious, if the reason you’re not doing it is because you know there will be pain in it.
The reason you’re not doing it is because you know there will be a struggle, you know that it will be something you’d have to figure out, you know that there will be something that will become overwhelming.
And
I know that when we have something really big we want to do, we have to have a level of trust, like we have to have faith,
we have to have faith in ourselves, we have to have faith that this could become the thing that this could work that we could attain and have that.
And I know that’s a lot of the work I do in the world is is changing people on a deep, deep unconscious level to believe that they could do it to believe that they are a person who’s worthy of having that outcome.
Now, I think that when we look forward at all of the things that we want to do, and then we retract, when we see or foresee the pain that could be associated with it.
I think that we have Miss placed,
we have misplaced our faith.
I think that we’re kind of trained in our world to think that like I have to have faith that I can do the thing, I have to have faith that I can get there. You know, I want to climb that mountain and I have to have faith that I can get to the top.
But the thing that makes us retract is that we are going to have to overcome things that we’re going to have to change that we’re going to have to grow to get to the top of the mountain. And the very thing that will become a defining moment in your life, that will be the thing that when you’re 190 years old, and you look back over your life, you go that was so great,
was because it was had an element that caused you to change, right? It had an element that caused you to become who you’ve become. Like, that’s what makes it so great.
And so I think the problem is that most people think that they have to trust, they have to have faith in the fact that everything is gonna go the way they think it is. And they don’t have that faith because they know they’ve had things happen in the past that didn’t work out that were hard that they had to grow and change and struggle. And so they can’t have that faith. They don’t have that level of fate. Because past experience has shown them that that’s not really how the world works.
And so they push it to the side and say, I’ll get to that one later.
The leader never really happens, right? I mean, we know that, for the most part. It’s really rare. I’m including myself in this right you all if you’ve been here for a while, you know that I’m I include myself in this is the reason why I don’t do some of the big huge things I want to do. Because I think there’s a lot to figure out person, I don’t have faith that I can do it without going through all this hard stuff. And I don’t want to go through all the hard stuff. But what if we shifted that? What if instead, we said I want that thing? I want to get to the top of the mountain. I want to be on the top of the mountain and I want to feel the breeze. After being here in Iceland. I will tell you I don’t want to feel the cold breeze. I want to be the top of a warm mountain. And I want to look out over the ocean and feel the warm breeze. And I have faith that as I climb that mountain that I can handle the risk. I have faith that as I do this work to become
I’m the person who gets to the top of the mountain, that even though I have problems, I have the internal resources to be able to handle those problems.
That even if there is a redirection in my path, that I have to go a different way that I have the ability to figure out how to make it work. My feet doesn’t need to lie on the fact that I’m at the top of the mountain, my fate needs to lie in the fact that I’m strong enough to grow into the kind of person who can make it up the mountain.
I have to trust that I can grow and expand to meet any challenge that comes in the way of me and the top of that mountain.
And I think the huge problem that we make and why we shrink back, is because we think I don’t have faith, I can get to the top of the mountain. But we don’t have to.
You don’t have to, you have to have faith, that your ability
to find what you need, and to ask for what you need. And to learn through what you need and to grow about what you need will come to you.
You might not know how to get it right this minute. But you know that you’ll expand into it, that when the challenge comes, you will be able to meet it because you have enough mental fortitude to do that.
I think if we want to experience all of the things that we want to have in our life, if we want to experience the amazing views that make you feel like it’s The Truman Show, and the incredible feeling of like hugging people in real life again. And having a now I’m speaking for myself, but having live events and retreats and meeting the people that I think about so often. If I want to have those experiences, then I have to trust that even if it doesn’t work out exactly the way that I have imagined in my mind, that I have the ability to change and grow. And to make it a memory that I will look back on over my life and say, that was so amazing.
We don’t really remember the things that were simple and easy. We remember the things that had an impact, because they caused us to shift and grow. And I think and again, I speak for myself. But I think we need to let go of shrinking back from the fear that it won’t look right that it won’t go right.
One of the things that I know for sure, about myself. And I’ve noticed it here as I’ve been in this group is that there’s a lot of people that know a lot of things about a lot of things.
And I know really deep about a few things that are important to me.
Like, I couldn’t tell you a lot of I have a little handheld computer in my pocket off. So I always say like, I can just Google that I don’t need to know.
Now for some people, it’s fun to know lots of things. And I honor that. But for me, I like to go really deep. I like to go really deep. So I know
that when I’m trying to get to the top of the mountain, there are going to be things that I meet that I will not know what to do about. And I will not even have a clue.
But I know that there are people that do. I know there are people I could go to that know a little bit about everything and they could direct me in the right spot. I know that there are people that go deep on the thing that I’m going to meet that I need to know.
And I also know that I have a little tiny handheld computer that beams information directly into my eyeballs at any time.
So I have trust and faith in that.
And so I asked you, what’s the big dream that you have not not the one that you immediately got in your head just now and pushed aside? Okay, there’s one that just came to you. And then you quickly put it aside to look for another one. I don’t want you to look for the other one. I want you to go back to the one that you just shoved to the side.
I want you to think back to like what were the things I always wanted. Maybe there are things right now that you’re like I would love to do that but I really can’t right now. Do you know in the beginning when I started this show, which has been like five and a half years ago now. Like those first, probably like 50 episodes, I think I had several people on who traveled
as digital nomads, like that was a long time ago, I mean, long time ago in podcast years, a long time ago, I had the girl in her van, and I had that other guy, I should know off the top of my head. But had that other guy that was a remote, Nomad, Jacob, I think his name was or something. Anyway, that doesn’t matter. But it that that was something that I wanted. I explored it and thought about it. And honestly, I could not do it. I wasn’t in a position in my life to do that. You guys probably heard my episode last summer with my daughter on who is, you know, happy and healthy, 20 year old, but at the time, she was very sick, you know, teenager,
young teenager. And so I couldn’t do those things. No, I could do those things. But I chose not to because I chose to be there for my daughter. And that was the right choice for me. But I still had that dream, that goal. So if you have the thing, maybe you’ve shoved it to the side, as soon as I said that, because you have a real reason something else that you’re choosing, that’s okay.
That’s okay. But don’t let it go. Don’t allow it to just crawl under the rug for you to never be able to find it again. Because there may be come a time where you can pull that back out, brush it off,
and see what it looks like for you today. On that day.
So I want you to have faith. Not faith in where you want to go. But I want you to have faith that you can get wherever that is that you have the internal resources that you can find the people that you can make all of those dreams happen for yourself. Because I think when you have that level of faith, that is how you live a big life. I love you so much. I can’t wait to hear about all the dreams that you have. I’ll talk to you soon. I’ll see you next week.
