296: Live a life on your own terms with Luana Bossetti - Betsy Pake

296: Live a life on your own terms with Luana Bossetti


Luana Bossetti is a multi-passionate entrepreneur with big dreams and vision. She is a world traveler with a big passion for personal growth. She is an inspirational speaker and author. She is also the founder of A Life up to your dreams Podcast and she has a mission to inspire as many people as possible to live a life on their own terms, a life they chose, a life up to their dreams.

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Welcome to the Art of Living big podcast. My name is Betsy pake. I’m an author, a speaker, and a trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. And I’m focused on helping you understand and design your life with the power of the subconscious. This podcast is designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hello, everyone. Hi, welcome to The Art of Living big. I’m excited today because I have somebody else with me that lives big. So I want to introduce you to my friend Luana. But now I’m going to say it in the way that I have learned by traveling with my Italian friends. The Why not Bosetti Did I do a good? Yes. She is a multi passionate entrepreneur with big dreams and visions. She’s a world traveler, and we’re gonna talk about that with a big passion for personal growth. She’s an inspirational speaker and an author. And she’s the founder of a life up to your dreams podcast. And she has a mission to inspire as many people as possible to live a life on their own terms, a life that they choose, and a life up to their dreams. So I’m so happy to have you here. Thanks for coming on my show. Yeah,

thank you for having me here. I’m so excited to tell everybody

a little bit about you and what you do. And I know we chatted for a few minutes before we started recording. And there’s so many things that I want you but give us like the recap, tell us if you know tell us

a little bit about you. Okay, I’ll try to be to recap everything like these 30 years of my life. As you said, I’m originally from Italy, actually from a very small village in the north of Italy, about two hours from Milan. So where I was, I was born and raised in a farm from my family where our farmers, but I never felt in that, like I belong there in that area because it was too limiting. For me. I’ve always had big dreams since I was poor since I remember in, in elementary school already middle school, I wanted to study tourism, geography and languages I wanted to get out of there. And as soon as I could 18 years old, I decided to take an internship in France to explore. And then from that I decided I loved French. And when I was 19, I finished high school. And I didn’t even want to go to university, I went straight working abroad in a French company. And yeah, that’s where I really started to really leave my big dreams. And then from there, I traveled different places I work in Europe, I achieved another big dream of mine, which was the American dream, I became an au pair in the United States for two years. And I did so most wonderful years of my life and I left a piece of my heart there in the United States and I visited a lot of states and then I came back to Europe and I continue my travel journey through and other countries Spain, but actually like we think about Spain, Barcelona, Madrid, but there are so many islands of Spain. So I really travel like to the Canary Islands which are closer to Morocco, and then the, the Balearic Islands, which are the closest to Europe. So always following my dreams because my big life purpose and mission it’s really to live my dream life we live up to my dreams. So I always like continued and follow my dreams. And I’m currently doing it and leaving now traveling through Europe, exploring new countries and really leaving big because I truly believe that we are made to live our like best life here. So yeah, that’s a short

so How many languages do you speak? actually speak

four languages,

four languages. And so yes, English, Italian, French and Spanish and Spanish. Okay. Yes. All right. So, so this concept of like living my dreams I, I have a lot of feelings about this. You know, my show is called The Art of Living big, right? So it’s kind of the same concept of like, how do you really live to the fullest potential in your life? And for me, I think that that depends on what’s happening in your life. And so tell me a little bit about how you see living the biggest life that you can. If your experience is different, so you’ve had an experience where you’ve really been able to be free in a lot of ways and follow that voice, the right that tells you what to do next. But what do you say to people that can’t do that? How can you live big where you are?

Yeah, that’s a good question. I think like you don’t need to live big by traveling or doing a huge things in your life. But leaving big or living the life up to your dreams really means to me to like, live a life that he huge shows like you can choose to be a teacher in your hometown and feel like that’s the best dream in the world for you that the best job and you live fully you live authentically, because you are expressing like yourself in the best way for you. And for other people that could be like leaving small. So it’s really personal. And I think it’s the most important thing. It’s really, like, leave it out tentacley to what is true for you what like, brings you joy, what sparks that like dream inside of you. And it’s all different for everybody. I know people that live big by being in the countryside and just like painting, and that’s what they will do their life. Other people need more adventure, more traveling. I think it’s very personal. But as I said, the most important thing, it’s really choose your best authentic life where you feel Express where you feel like free. And, like satisfied with what you’re doing. Yeah,

yeah. And if so, I have so many I have so many questions. I already feel like we could talk for like four hours, but I’m not going to do that. So tell me, how do you how do you? What do you think about people finding that authentic voice? Like how do people even know what it is that they are supposed to do? Like? How do they know if they’re supposed to be the little the in a little town? Or if they’re supposed to leave and go to Italy or whatever? Like? How do how do people know? What’s the voice to you? Like? How do you explain that?

Well, the best way that I could explain that it’s really to take a moment and really go back to those dreams that you were dreaming as a child in Italy, we have a saying that when you grew up, you put your dreams in the bedside table. And some people never opened their bedside tables that are the dreams that you had as a child, like I wanted to be an astronaut or I want it to be a teacher or whatever dream was it. When we grow up and become adults. Sometimes we get like, lost into the day to day life and what other people tell us, the society, our parents, our friends, our circle where we are. And we put these streams aside and we leave the gym and some people never open it because they don’t find this card. So I think that the most important thing, it’s really open that row where I say call it like go and connect to that inner child as well. In another way to put it in your voice that you have inside of of yourself. Like try to first of all be present. So do whatever works for you to be present meditation then connect to nature. And then really, like find a way to connect with this inner voice in your child inside of you that it’s where the true answers leave because so many things that like we knew as a child we wanted we become as adults for me was traveling, I was always like, playing with Barbies and make them go different places. They compare where I couldn’t go with my environments and I was always like go in different places and make up stories and I lost Do you

have did you have the Barbie plane? Did you have the airplane

that you play? No. Train

we train train okay, we had the camper but the camper seemed low rent. I was always like my friends on the plane like I have to get everywhere by a camper. Yeah.

Oh no, we didn’t even have the plane I don’t even remember there was a plane. Yeah. That’s yeah, it was going by because I love hippie vans. Silence. Yeah, it came from my childhood as well. And I imagined like going everywhere in the war. Because when you’re a kid you don’t like think of Are they logistical care cannot reach Australia by? Yeah, so I was I was going in and I love like big Atlas to look at. So I think that’s super important to connect to that inner child, inner voice and some dreams, that doesn’t mean that all the dreams that you were dreaming as a child need to come through but really I say like curry spark those dreams that still feel true to you maybe you go back and you say, Okay, I want it to be a teacher. And actually, I love doing that. And I think that I can really spark that and try to teach maybe in different ways like coaches teach as well or to a program you never know. But to go back to that inner voice inner child, that’s the first thing to do to start to create them, like even find out what you want to do in your life.

Yeah, and I do think that’s a really good point of going back to when you were young, and what did I really enjoy? And then when you revisit that, see what areas you tend to linger on. You know what, what still seems interesting, what still seems fun. And I think also noticing that, you know, one of the things I tell my clients is notice, like where you’re daydreaming, like what’s happening when you daydream? And where do you go? And what are you doing and like pay attention to those things. I do think there’s like all kinds of little signs, but that we get really, really busy in our lives, you know, and overwhelmed with what’s our responsibilities and the things that are happening. And then all of those, those little like whispers tend to kind of get lighter and lighter and lighter. So one of the things that you really want to do is like inspire people to to, to think differently about that and to start taking part in those dreams again. Yeah, I’m having a hard time concentrating because your dog is so cute in the background. everybody that’s listening. retching he’s like on the bed. I mean, really happy. I’m a huge dog person. So what kind of dog is that? Just?

Yeah, I’m very bad with Brady, because actually, it’s not my dog. But I’m traveling and dog sitting. So that’s another thing. Another dream that came through because I love animals. Oh my God, he’s so cute.

He’s very content. He’s happy with you. Yeah, he’s that are for sure. So okay, so that’s really interesting, because that is a thing, right? Where you can travel all over the world and, and how sit? There’s different websites where you can sign up? Is that what you did?

Yes, exactly. Because I wanted to travel more. And I love animals. And I always grew up with animals and dogs. And I was like, why not combining the two and you feel like I travel alone. And with animals. It’s good, because it can be a company as well. So it’s amazing.

Yeah, that’s awesome. Okay, so you’re traveling all over? So tell everybody, like, what do you do for work? How do I know that it’s with helping people? So tell us a little bit about that?

Yes. So I’m actually like, I am multi passionate. Entrepreneurs.

Yes. I love that. You know that because so many times we think we really have to, like, box ourselves into something. But yeah, so I love that.

No, no, I tried to box myself into something. But then I it was not working. Because I love different projects. And actually, I during COVID, I decided to finish my certification to teach English. So that’s one thing that I’m doing now like teaching rich to Italian and Spanish people helping them to like, in a way it’s helping them to get a dream come make a dream come through, because some people want to learn to travel to study abroad, etc. So that’s one of the thing and then I’m as well, helping people with my podcasts. And I’m an author, to really do event as well to help people to, first of all believe in those dreams and respect them. And we’ll see as we see before, because so many people get caught into the day to day life, as we were saying and they find it hard to connect back to those dreams. So my mission is really to help them do that. And then help to guide them to then pull the process from all the limiting beliefs that can come up all the obstacles that came up in my life as well and helping them to, like fly and go to their dream lives so

and so how can people find you on your website? Is that the best way to find you or Yes to gram or what would you say?

Yeah, I would say like my favorite to a platform is Instagram. So yes, Instagram will be the best place to find me.

Hey, what’s your handle over on Instagram?

live up to your dreams. It’s like, my ends are everywhere. I keep it simple on my website and the podcasts and the books. So it’s very easy.

So if someone’s listening, and they’re like I have I want to live the life up to my dreams, what is the first thing that you think they need to do? I think the

first thing is really to connect back to, to yourself to, to the dreams that you want to live the life that you want to create and find out why as well. Do you want to do that? Because sometimes, like we we have so many things, but it’s the mind the ego telling us but when we really we connect back to our self, our inner child, we really discover why like, why do you want to become a teacher? Why do you want to inspire people to live the life to their dreams? So I think the first thing is really go inside, because we hear so many times like, Okay, you got an idea. Now you have to make it happen in 235 steps. And that sometimes that they work for people because they need to connect back to that idea a little bit and really find out their truth and what’s really true to them and not what is true for all the like scraped around them and connect back to eat and to themselves, and then find out why they want to do that. Because when you have your why as well. I believe that’s what will move you forward and you find it just within yourself. Nobody can tell you that no. Like no person or thing. So it’s all inside you.

There’s the sound that’s trending on Instagram right now with Instagram reels. And it. It’s a man’s voice. And it says something like, forget about the money. It’s not about the money. If you could do anything with your life right now, what would it be? And it’s such a good sound because it does make you go like, Oh, that’s true. So many times we have this like idea. And we’re like, Oh, but I can’t do that. Because I’ve got to make money, right? Or I have to do that thing, because that is how I make money. And so I think that like giving yourself that moment of disconnecting? What I have to do, what what I think I have to do, from what I really really desire, what is it that I really crave? I think that that even give yourself a moment to have that experience where you shift into what do I really crave. Like that can be really powerful. And I think that can be enough to start some momentum. So you’ve been listening to my podcast, and you’ve been hearing me talk about ways to master your subconscious. Maybe you’ve been really curious about how you can learn this too, and maybe even create a business of your own to help other people transform their lives as well. If you’d like to become board certified in six different certifications, we have it all for you inside the alchemy Institute. You can go at your own pace with our on demand training, or you can attend live events. Find out more over at our website. The Alchemy institute.co. That’s the alchemy Institute. dot c o I’ll see you over there.

Yeah, yeah, definitely. And like even ask yourself what will be the one thing that you will do even for free for the rest of your life? Where you find like, what what am I passionate about that I will do like for free? Like talking or writing or teaching or whatever? That’s a good question to ask as well.

Yeah, yeah, I always do you remember what you wanted to be when you were little? Was it I think

travel Yeah, traveling. And then there was something like I was always playing a story. So I was always writing stories all the time. I did journal since I could remember. And I love writing. I had a blog. I wrote a book and yeah and stories stories. I like podcasts as well story. Yeah. When I couldn’t actually back I was like, that makes sense. Because I love traveling. I love stories. And yeah, the the tell

us the name of your book. I know it but say it.

It’s to live up to your dreams of the book as well and they can get

on you can get it on Amazon and we’ll have a link in the show notes to you. Oh, thank

you. Yes, you can get it there.

When I was little I wanted to be a speaker which is what I do. And I used to take a Kleenex box and put it up like the long way. And so that was like my podium. Oh, that’s the best was if I was chewing gum, which I can’t chew gum and speak, but that’s what I wanted to do was to gum and speak and that my Kleenex box, I don’t know, it is funny how we do play out those those dreams, right. And I think that it’s really really common as like life takes over. And people at least here in the United States, right like, like it’s common for people to get married and have kids and all of a sudden, I think there is that moment, like in your 40s or even 30s, where you’re like, hang on, this is all just happening, like the next thing and the next thing and the next thing is happening. But what do I really want. And I do think that there’s something like sometimes we’re in a position and I know you mentioned or alluded to this, but like, sometimes we’re in a position where we can’t have the thing that we want, right where we are as where we are. And I always say we can, we can make that the best environment for how much we can grow in that, you know, my daughter is in college, and she wants to get out of college so bad, so she can go off and be a tattoo artist. So she goes to art school, and that’s what she wants to do. But she has a long way left to go. And she keeps saying I just want to be a tattoo artist, I just want to do it, I just want to do it. And I’m like, there is something in this for you to bloom into something in this, you’re trying, you’re, it’s a fear that you’re never gonna get there. So you’re, like, muddying up the water of where you are, but allow it to just, like settle and be like, what is what is the best I can be in this, you know, and sometimes it’s, you know, that you don’t realize how great it is that you get to go to college. Sometimes you’re having like something really awful happened in your life, and you’ve got to be able to like, find peace in that and be like, I can live as big as I possibly can in this, you know, I’m going to expand and grow as much as I can. I know that. You know, sometimes hard things are hard and we still have dreams. So when you’ve had hard things because undoubtedly you have and and still had other things that you wanted. How did you deal with those? Or what? What do you do to stay on course and to keep your eye on where you want to go? Yeah,

that’s a good question. Because when I came back from the US, I was really heartbroken. Because I wanted to see and I wanted to go to university, but you don’t better than me that go into university in the US it’s very expensive.

California. Exactly.

Especially if you are like not from the US as well that you have no help at all. So like to have this like money for the next four years. It was impossible. Yeah. And I really felt like so heartbroken and lost. I really want it so I had that dream and you know, sometimes we are so fixated on something and we don’t see like, why this is happening. Like I was so fixed I have to go I have to go and I tried and I worked so hard and then the next semester I couldn’t and the next I couldn’t and I did that for a year when I finally realized that like okay, I’m fixing like my life into the future but I’m not enjoying the present moment. What am I learning now? Going back to a job that I was doing before like I’m learning that maybe this is not for me I want to grow into something else I’m taking the lesson they are chips to like see what’s next for me but like try to enjoy the moment and when I stopped like trying so hard. I realized that actually that’s not what I wanted. Yeah, I wanted to go back there but I didn’t really want to go and have a degree because I liked maybe the main subject but not all the other so I was really like getting to fix on something that was not even for me. And that’s when I started like three literally connect back to myself and I think it’s always like getting back to yourself and see okay, what’s now I feel like this is not good or this is like too restricting. And one of my core values freedom so I really felt trapped in that moment. And when I shifted the mindset like okay, now I’m here What am I learning here? What can I make, like my life better in this moment? What could be the best action that I can do or the best thing that I can do for continuing on Leaving began leaving my life up to my dreams. And then that’s when I asked this question to myself. I was ready. Okay. The next is to go to a similar place to California because I was so like, hooked by California lifestyle and weather. And that’s when I was like, why don’t I go to Spain, like the Canary Islands are like, same weather more or less, because it’s close to Africa. So you always have 2025 degrees. So that’s pretty good. And the people are more relaxed and chilled. And that started like, I don’t know, if I cannot imagine not going there now, after five years in Spain, so I think this was meant to be, but I had to stop and stop like focusing so much on the future and try to control all the things all the steps there and really connect back to me and ask meaningful question and ask, like, What’s the best thing that I can do? And how can I enjoy this moment? Because I know when I wanted to get out of high school, I was not enjoying, but then I asked myself, okay, now I’m here. What’s up? How can I make it more enjoyable and like, leaving in a good way as well. And that’s when I did that I started to see things differently. And that’s where my environment changed as well. And the people came in and make it more enjoyable as well. So I think that’s what I will say,

yeah. You know, and that’s such a good point. Because really, you wanted to go to California, because there was a feeling, right. It wasn’t as much California as much as it was the feeling that you got, yeah, in California. And I think that’s so wise. But to really narrow that down, and then go, where else could I have that feeling? Oh, I could have that in Spain, you know, and then go to Spain. I love California, though. So I totally get Yeah.

Yeah, I would love to live there one day. But

to me, too, it’s so expensive, though. But yeah, I always everybody. I have many friends there. And every friend that I have says yes, it’s so expensive. But it’s worth it. It’s so great. It’s worth it. You know, when I was born, I have an older sister who’s three years older. And when I was born, my mother said This is Betsy. And my sister said, No, that’s California. And so I have always felt like, like I must have been from California. Discovered California and another life. I don’t know what I’m supposed to be there. So yeah, so I totally get that. That’s really, really good. So yeah, so and that really opened up like a lot of other adventures. So not getting so stuck on the thing, but saying I’m going to be I’m going to find the feeling and then get open to what else it could be. I love that.

Exactly, exactly being open. Because maybe what you think you want, it’s not what you need. So the universe will come in with other things for you that it’s what you need. And I needed to go to Spain, and leave the my life up to my dreams there to grow and evolve and like get to where I am now.

Yeah, it’s not what I need. That’s so good. Yeah, really good. Really good. So one of the things that you talked about was like being really present. And I want to talk about that for just a minute. Because I think that especially in our world of technology, being really present is really hard. I know it’s really hard for me and I teach this stuff. So I’m curious if you have do you have like routines or rituals or things that you do? How do you connect in

yes, they’re, it’s a struggle for me as well because I’m always more in my mind and in my body. So really tune into my body and feel present. It’s hard. That’s why I tried to do routines. I have my ritual every morning and every evening where I really connect to myself and it’s different every day but most of the things that I’m doing it’s really taking a walk in nature where I don’t connect like first waking up and not being connected for the first two hours of my day or one hour but really not connect with social media with the phone with nobody and just connect with myself going for a walk in nature that helps me so much to really like be present with the sounds I love the morning sounds the birds or like the sea when I live in Spain I love to walk on the beach in the morning that’s the best sound ever makes me feel like tune into the present moment because you can say and listen to the waves for hours and it’s just interest amazing. And meditation as well really helps me as well. More peaceful for me if this realization because I read laid off, I like to see different things in my visualization and really connect to that. To that moment, I do a lot of visualization with my inner child as well, especially when I feel in those days where I feel so disconnected or like, so not present and not in my body, I tried to connect back to my inner child, and I took inner child workshops, as well. And the most important thing that they were saying, really, if you cannot see the image, it’s fine. You can have a picture of yourself as a child as well, which is something that I have near my bed, but really connect to that and try to talk to that little version of yourself and let her or him or they guide you towards like the present moment. And what’s your truth? And what are you feeling because sometimes we feel so many feelings as well. So connect that to your body into your body. Yoga helped me a lot as well, with that. So do these are the main things?

Do you do any? Do you know who Dr. Joe Dispenza is? Yes, yeah. Do you? Have you ever done his meditations, his guided meditations?

I tried. I tried for a while. Some of them are very long. So

some of them are so long. Some of them are like two hours, but he has, he has an AMPM one bite, you get the am and the pm and they’re only like 20 minutes each. And those I really, really like but I have been hooked on him for quite a long time and doing his his meditations really good. Yeah, it’s nice. Tell me, I’m curious about the inner child stuff. Is that part of what you teach? Do you help people with inner child stuff when you’re coaching?

Yeah, I don’t like specifically teach that. But it comes up every time I’m talking with a person because I think it’s such an important part of us. And when like, we all see that when you are with a child, you need to be present. Like if whether if you’re a mother or a uncle Leon are just like, work with children, you, they require you to be present in the moment, and they are present as well like playing or whatever they need. So I think it’s such an important part to help you be present. And to feel compassion for yourself. Even when you have those hard moments that you’re like, Oh no, I will never make it or I’m like doing bad things are not where I want to be. So it’s such an important part to really connect to that child and feel the compassion towards yourself and talk you can have like conversation with it. There are so many techniques out there. I love to journal with my inner child like, right is my old version with my dominant hand the right answer back as a child, my child version with my non dominant hand. And that’s really, because I love stories we we like, tell each other stories, and may be some memories come up of things that I like to do as a child, and I explore them. So I think it’s such an important part for like, even like dreaming, like before making a dream come true. Really the part of imagining and visualizing it. The inner child can really help you do that. So

yeah, please, Louise Hay had a thing. Do you know who she is? Yes. Okay. Okay, good. Yeah, this is good. So Louise Hay had a thing for that I read years ago where she said to put a picture of yourself and I did it a picture of myself at like two years old. I was sitting at like, I was super into like, arts and crafts and stuff. So I had this photo of me like coloring or doing whatever artsy thing I was doing. And I had it on my mirror. And it was such a good thing for noticing yourself talk. Because I wouldn’t say the things to that sweet, little, artsy girl that I wouldn’t say to myself. Now as a 50 year old. Do you know what I mean? Like I would be so much more cruel to myself. And it was such a lovely reminder of like, is that’s who you’re talking to? Like, that’s your you are her? And is that what you would be? Would you be okay with that? If somebody was talking to her like that, and you walked in the room, you know? So yeah, that’s really so, so interesting. I hadn’t thought of so many of those things that you said, inner child isn’t a thing that I like, connect with very much. So I really liked all of that. That’s really interesting. Cool. Yeah.

And we are so judgmental sometimes of ourselves. But like, as you said, like, we will never say that to a child. So yeah, that’s really helpful. Yeah, that’s really helpful. It

puts it in like a perspective where you’re like, oh my god, I can’t believe I’m saying such awful things, you know? Yeah. So yeah, this was so fun. Thank you so much for coming on the show. Oh, it was lovely to meet you. And this was such a fun conversation. I love hearing about all your adventures, I’m definitely going to be following on Instagram and seeing where the world takes you next.

Thank you. Thank you so much for having me on the podcast. It was so much fun to talking to you and getting to know you.

Yeah, so good. And you guys, if you want to learn a little bit more, you can go to the show notes. And I’ll have all the links to our social media, her book and her podcast. I will see you all next week. Hey, thanks so much for listening to today’s show. And thank you for sharing the show with your friends. I love when you guys do that. I appreciate it so much. And thank you for leaving me a review on iTunes. I know that it matters because when I go to find a podcast, I always look to see what the reviews are. So it really means a lot to me that you take a minute to like figure out how to even make that happen. Now, if you want to find me find me on social media, I’m usually on Instagram, starting out on Tik Tok. It’s just my name. Betsy pake, and that’s my website to Betsy pake.com. And you can find out all about the work that I do. having me speak for an event that you might be helping to plan or getting trained inside my alchemy Institute. But to make it really easy, if you want me just shoot me a DM, shoot me a direct message on Instagram and I will be at your service. Thanks again for listening. And I will see you all next week.


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