If just one area of your life could be different and cause everything to feel lighter, what would that area be? Betsy explores this question and suggests that you can make the necessary changes faster than you think. You just have to dare to take a step forward.
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Welcome to the Art of Living big podcast. My name is Betsy pake. I’m an author, a speaker, and a trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. And I’m focused on helping you understand and design your life with the power of the subconscious. This podcast is designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big.
Hi, everyone. Hi, welcome. Welcome to the Art of Living big if you’re new here, thanks so much for being here. If you’ve been here for a long time, then I will tell you this is like my 16th time starting this podcast. Why is this so hard today? I keep feeling like I’m trying to explain something that is just so difficult to put into words. So I’m going to just make it short and sweet and say, I have been on like the highest flying disc the past three weeks, like strangely, strangely amazing. I’m not complaining, like it’s amazing. I’m waking up, I was telling my friend Trish, Trish from Episode 208 I was telling my friend Trish, I feel like I’ve been shot out of a cannon every morning like I am so pumped. And like, you know, like I’m in my car I got in my car today. And I was heading out because I have been going to this place called Rome, which is like a, like a remote work place, you know, and they have like a big coffee shop and like this huge area for us to work. And then we have office spaces too. So anyway, I was heading there, which I love working there. It’s very creative and cool seeming. And it’s one of the things I really love about living in the city now. But like the moment I got in my car was like I turned on the car, the radio came on. And then that very moment started. Don’t stop believing by journey. So like, I was like, this is the most perfect timing. Yes, I could just turn it on, like from Spotify, like when I got in the car. But the fact that it just was ready and waiting for me on the radio just added to the amazement. So I know that this probably seems kind of strange, like why I am not totally sure. But I will tell you that the other day was a regular day. It was a regular day. And I’m saying this is gonna sound strange. It was maybe one of the happiest days of my life. I’ve had people say to me before, like, What’s your most favorite day of your whole life? And I’m like, I really don’t know. Like, I really I don’t know, I remember the first time I went to the Caribbean, that was pretty amazing. But then that feels like a weird memory because it was with my ex husband. So like if if my husband standing there and someone was like, What’s your favorite memory? And I’m like, it’s when I went on vacation with my ex husband like, that seems really weird. Now from now on, always, when people say, what is the best day you’ve ever had? I’m going to be like it was like the 27th of September and 2022. Why? I think because I had so much gratitude for everything that was happening. And I was starting to realize that. So many of the things that were happening, were things that I’ve wanted to happen for a long, long time. And things that I wanted to happen for years and years and years and years. And like the interesting thing, as I’m looking at everything is that I’m realizing that I wanted those things for years and years and years. But it didn’t take years and years and years to get them. I know what am I even talking about? What am I talking about? I’m going to tell you in a second. But first, I want to tell you a funny story. Okay, so this is the kind of thing that’s just been happening to me, I’m going to come back to what I was saying. But this is the kind of thing that has been happening to me. So I’ve been following my intuition. So like if my intuition says, walk out of your building and turn left, that’s what I do. If my intuition says drive your car and drive another mile, even though you’re supposed to turn right here. I do that. Like if I’m at Target. And I want to take the escalator upstairs and it says no, take the elevator then that’s what I do. Okay, so I’ve just been following it. And that has actually been really fun. But the other day, I was walking over I decided I really wanted to get a sandwich from this place called nukes and they really good pimento cheese sandwiches. So I was like I’m gonna walk across the street and go get a pimento cheese but as I was walking across the street, I thought I’m gonna go next door to Publix first and get dog treats now. It wasn’t
oh, we need dog treats. You should go it wasn’t that it was it would feel fun to go get dog treats. I know this sounds a little strange, but that’s what it felt like. So I was like, Oh, I’ll go over and get dog treats. And then while I was there getting dog treats i i realized that they have a sushi bar at that Publix. And so I was like, I’m gonna grab some sushi because I love sushi. And in the end, that felt like a much healthier choice than the pimento cheese, right. And so I got my sushi, and was at the checkout. And while I was at the checkout, there was this sweet little old man and behind me in line. He was like this little cute little, I don’t know, maybe like 92 year old little Korean man, you know. And I looked, and he had sushi also. And cupcakes. So on the bell, I had sushi and dog treats. And then he had sushi and cupcakes. And so I looked at my stuff and looked at his stuff, and looked at him. And he saw me look at his stuff. And so I said, sushi and cupcakes. You’re my kind of guy. Have a great day, like, because we are both at sushi, but he had cupcakes. And he looked at me. And at first I thought maybe he doesn’t speak English, because he gave me like a look. And then I realized he didn’t speak English, but that he thought I was hitting on him. He said, I married. And my wife has sent me to get these items. And this is what I got. And I had this thing where I was like, What in the like, I I mean, I had no word like I was speechless, right, like I was. And so I was like, well, um, I like, but even now, as I’m explaining, I was like, am I embarrassed? Am I confused? Like, I don’t know. So I just like grabbed my sushi and left, just like walked away. And I was I was I was I was leaving. I like I got on Instagram stories and like, told the story. I was laughing my head off, because it was just so funny. And I was like, why in the like, I know my hair is going gray. But I just feel like I don’t look like I’m in the age range to be hitting on like a 90 something year old man. And I’m not exaggerating. He wasn’t like 67 like it mean, I’m telling you it was really, really old. Anyway, this morning, I got in my car, Don’t Stop Believin was playing. I went to Rome and did my thing. And then I decided I was going to get my car cleaned. And so when I was leaving, I saw that there’s like a carwash right by Rome, the work place where I go. And so I pulled in and the guy was like on the phone when I got there. So he was like half talking to me half talking on the phone. And English was his second language. I so wish I could speak another language like, I’m, I’m learning but that’s another story. And so I was like, told him I wanted the car washed and he said inside and out. And I said yes. And he said go sit over there. And so I was like this gas station, right? So it wasn’t like a carwash place. It was like a gas station like Buckhead Atlanta like side of the road gas station. And so I went in SAT and there was like this little alley, I say an alley. It’s, it was like a little space between the edge of the gas station and the chain link fence that separated that property from the property next to it. And they had put down fake turf. And there was a folding chair there. Just went and sat in the folding chair like inches from the brick wall. That was the side of the gas station. And I was like I guess I’m supposed to just sit here, you know. And so I’m sitting and there’s actually another little girl there sitting also. So there was two folding chairs. She was sitting on one there was one available and I sat on that one. And she was like maybe four years old, so cute, so cute. And she was watching a very loud cartoon in Spanish. So she was watching. I was sitting staring at the brick wall. I’m like, why is the meaning of this? Like, I feel like I’m I don’t know what’s gonna happen, but I feel like it’s about to be really special. You know what I mean? Like, I she kept looking at me. I kept looking at her. I was like, I wish I could speak Spanish because I feel like she would be down to chat you know? Anyway, I
I was waiting and waiting and finally I saw my car pull out and then you know The guy came out and was drying it. And he kept looking at me and winking. And really smile, you know? And I was like, I was like, What? What is he? Am I like, Am I understanding like what is happening like what? Quentin Tarantino movie mi n. And then as he kept getting more smiley, I started getting a little uncomfortable. And I found myself almost like wanting to like do something. So he’d like, see my wedding ring like, and this is so ridiculous. I can’t believe I’m saying this out loud. And then I realized he was looking at his daughter. She was the little the four year old on the ground, watching the cartoons. And he was just smiling at her cuz she was being good. And she was smiling at him. And I was like, I feel complete oneness with the Korean man from the Publix grocery store.
I was like I am him. He is me, we are the same person,
I just so many things made sense. So anyway, I feel like I’m having these really fun, funny adventures every single day super high flying disc. And you know, what I say to my clients all the time is the work that we do together is to release layers. Right. So if you think of yourself as like a cork floating in the water, right, you’re floating in the water, just bobbing up and down. And then the and that’s a happy place. Right? You can see the horizon, you can see the sunset sunrise, and you also get the experience of the ocean, right? So connected to it all. And then somebody says something and you, you have a feeling about it. Or you know your little and you get in trouble or your parents are fighting, and you learn something about money from that, right? Or you’re growing up and your mother’s always on a diet. And so you learn something about that, from that. And each of those things, puts a weight on the cork. And so the cork starts being pushed down, and down, and down and down where you feel like everything is so heavy, where you can’t just like pop up and float freely. But you feel like everything is weighing you down, and everything becomes harder. And it becomes harder to see the horizon. And so you can’t see different options and understand what you could do or how to see things differently. Because everything feels so heavy. And I think this is a thing that happens to all of us. I know it happens to me. I mean, I know that has, that’s part of my experience. It’s part of the human experience. And I think that, that helps you learn things. And then when you heal, it helps you keep the wisdom from those things, but release the emotion from those things. Do you see the difference there. And then, as you release the emotion, your cord goes boop, and pops up a little bit. And then you heal a little bit more and it goes boop. And it pops up a little bit more and more and more. And then you’ll feel yourself all of a sudden, you’ll have moments right where you’re like, oh my gosh, I am a high flying disc, like I am floating I am the cork completely floating, I feel so good. And then all of a sudden, you’ll say like something happened. And I just dipped back down. Like why. And I always say to my clients, it’s almost a practice, right? You pop up, you learn how to hold that vibration, and it becomes easier to hold that vibration, the more healing that you’ve done, the more that you’ve released, the more you’ve let go of stuff, the more that you’ve had a chance to see things differently. Right, the more and I think the more change work you’ve done, the more NLP or hypnosis or meditation or EMDR, or Emotion Code or whatever your healing modality is, you begin to float. And then you begin to be able to hold that float. And I have been thinking about this so much. And I’ve mentioned this like weeks ago in the show, but like something has happened to me over the past year and there’s been these things that I’ve wanted for years and years and years. And I’m like why are they happening now? They’re not they didn’t take years. They didn’t take years they took like, like an instant because change happens really quick.
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You know, if you go to therapy, and you’ve been going to therapy for 15 years, and then all of a sudden you have this like awareness, and you’re like, oh, my gosh, I feel different. Something changed, that it didn’t take 15 years for that change to happen, that change actually happened, like in an instant, right? Totally. Now, all the work that you’ve done may have helped make that moment happen. But I believe that those moments can happen way, way quicker than we’ve been told. I think it’s a huge lie. That change takes a ton of time. I think that’s a mistake. I don’t know where that came from. I’m gonna blame it on the patriarchy, because that’s been my default lately. Like, I don’t know, maybe it’s that. But we’re told, change takes a long time. And so just be happy with who you are. And I say, love yourself so much. Love yourself so much, that you know, you deserve to float. You deserve to have those happy moments. You deserve to have the silliest, quirkiest interactions with people and your life can feel like a really silly sitcom where the perfect song comes on at the most perfect moment to illustrate how you’re feeling. Right. And so this is the thing that I’ve noticed. So over the past year, so many things have happened to me. Internally, since my dog died. I know that might sound kind of strange. If you guys remember, if you’ve been here for a while my dog died back in April of last year. So April of 2021, actually on tax day, on the 15th she died. And that began an avalanche of change for me. I did a lot of things with her because she was you know, I’d had her forever. For adverse. She was like, old old and she was on medication three times a day. And so I had to be constantly thinking of her and doing stuff with her and, and home and working from home and being around, right. And so in some respects, it held me in place a lot. And I know we don’t it’s a dog, right, but we don’t think of it. But slowly, we make choices and decisions and all of the sudden we’re in a situation right? And I wouldn’t change it. I loved her more than anything. I still talk about her constantly and and grieve the loss of her I love her. And when she died, it was so disorienting that I realized that I had been able to I had been able to what’s the word I’m looking for almost, maybe like sidestep or like not. I could ignore I could ignore certain things in my life because she was given me joy. And I had this schedule, right. And then when she died so many things, it was like, it was like whoosh, like this, that’s you’ve got to deal with this thing. You’ve got to deal with this thing. You’ve got to deal with, you know, so many relationships, my relationship with my husband with friends, many friends with different things, all of the sudden family members with my work, all of it like came into like really clear, urgent, you’ve got to work on these are things you can no longer ignore. And so I began that work, and honestly changed the direction of my life. And then I went to Iceland, so like six months go by I go to Iceland. And you guys have probably heard that episode. But in that time, I ended up going to Iceland with a group of people I’d never met before and none of them were from the United States. So they all had very different experiences than I had. And I realized I was trying you know, when you’re in a group like that, they don’t know you. So you have to show them who you are by being right you know, like when you go to college, and nobody knew who you were. And so the you were like I could be anybody who am I? It almost like I’m covered this like who am My. And it was a weird experience because who am I? Like I was this other thing, but so much had changed, like in the eight months before I left for Iceland, like, what do I show? And it gave me this opportunity to say what do I want to show? What do I want to be? And why don’t I decide what I want to be and then become that
and when I got back, I made such a huge shifts in my life. I do the work that I do, you know is is then you’ve probably heard me talk about that. That’s why you’re here but I do NLP neuro linguistic programming. I do hypnotherapy, I train life coaches and I work with people so so NLP EFT, which is emotional freedom technique, you know, like tapping, hypnotherapy, time techniques, which is where we travel back in time and heal things and move into the future and put goals and objectives into our future. So our unconscious mind knows where to go. Deep streaming, this is something that I do every day, if you get my text messages, you get that I do Emotion Code, I do. Just intuitive work. Like there’s so much stuff that I have used with clients, and I use it on myself. So you know, I’m late, I’m leading myself first. And when I got home from Iceland, I was like, I deserve I deserve to do this for myself to whatever it was I wanted people to see of me there. And I was very much myself. I’m not saying I showed up as somebody not me, I was myself. But I realized I wanted to tell them like a lot about when I owned the gym and was a weightlifter. Like, those are the stories I wanted to talk about, I wanted to talk about how I love speaking and like all of that. So when I got back, I was like, I’m going to create those opportunities for myself again, not in the same way in a new way in a way that feels who like who like me right now. Like, it feels like me. And so I dove in and started doing this work to an excessive amount, okay. And what I realized was that this whole idea of change, even the idea that I had of like, I’m going to work with clients, and it’s going to be this six month block, and we’re going to do this work together, I realized that that can be really condensed, that can be really condensed. And in fact, having it being be really condensed can help. Because when we have a lot of time, you know, you know when you’re in school, and you have a paper due. And so you don’t do it till like the last night. If you’re like me, right, you’d wait till like two days before and then you be like, Okay, this has to get done. So I get it done, we move into the space that we have available, right. And so one of the things that I realized was that if I was giving myself all this space and time, like I really want to be a speaker, who knows when it will happen, like, I like I was like I can, I can condense time, I can condense time by releasing everything that’s making it not happen. Like I don’t care when it happens, but I’m gonna release everything that’s causing it not to happen. And I did so much NLP on myself and discovery and, like questioning myself, days and days and days, right that I did to move through this stuff. And I realized that we don’t need weeks and months that we can create change, like in a full day. And you know, inside the alchemy Institute and I when I train master practitioners, I, I I train them on this, this procedure, this one day, full on event, where we go in and we uproot the roots of everything that is kept you where you are, and we pull out the things that you don’t need anymore, and we plant the things that you do. And this process has changed my life. There is so much that is different in my life in the past four or five months. I
I wish I could explain it in a way without saying like, it’s so different. But it’s so different. The joy is so much higher, but the opportunities I mean, you’ve heard me talk about some of the amazing things I’ve gotten to do in the last few months. The opportunities are different, the connections with people are different. I’m making connections with people. I have a really big thing that I’m about to do. I’ll tell you about as soon as I can a couple There’s like five big things. But one of them was a connection I’ve had for years and years, and I never like, put it together in my head, that that could be a really great networking for me to get this big thing that I wanted. So, so you know, I talk about this all the time that, like, there’s so much opportunity around us, we are inundated with information, so much so that our brains can only process like a tiny, tiny bit of it. So we get about 2 million bits of information every second, my conscious mind can only process about 126 of those 2 million. So that means I’m missing tons of information. So when I started doing these huge shifts with myself and taking a full day, and just saying, I’m going to work on this one thing for six to eight hours, like one thing, Oh, you want to transform your weight? Oh, okay. One thing, we’re going to just focus on that one thing, and we’re going to reprogram the entire thing, right? You want to work on your success, one thing, I’m going to just work on this for six to eight hours. And then all of a sudden I was like, oh my god, I have so many connections that can help me do the things that I’ve wanted to do. Why have I not ever seen this before? Right? And then I had that moment where I was like, Oh, my God, I could have thought of this years ago. But I was like, No, it’s all in divine timing. It’s all exactly right. And if you are in a place where you’re like, I want that I want really huge change. Don’t beat yourself up for not noticing it beforehand. Because it’s exactly right. You had to go through whatever you had to go through, you had to struggle with whatever you had to struggle with, like all of that. And now I’m telling you, there’s a way to speed through this, to have speed. And I’m doing cocoon days with people where I bring them in to a cocoon, and we do that hard transformation six to eight hours together. It’s here in Atlanta, there has been a situation where I’ve traveled or we can do them virtually. But come here and let me help you. Let me bring you in to that. So those are invitation only. But I would love to talk to you about it. If you think that’s a place where you would want to to expand into I am insanely excited. And right now we are filling cocooned days for this season, but we’ll have more for next season too. So I want to, I want you to think about how could my life be different? If just one area? Just one thing, just one area was so much better? That everything felt lighter? Like what would that area be for you? And if you could, if it could all transform, what would you be telling your friends about your life? Like how I’ve talked to friends? And they’re like, tell me what’s going on? I’m like, I can’t even explain it. I can’t even explain it. Like I’m trying let me dry. But like it’s there’s it’s so miraculous that it’s difficult to put into words. So if that was you, what part of your life would that be? And what would you tell your friends? How would it be different? You know, and if you want to jump in the cocoon, let me know. It’s fascinating and so much fun. And I feel like we’ve been told this lie, that change has to take a long time, that everything is a slog. You know, the things take time to unfold. But I say release everything and live your life from a place of a lot of joy. We’re we’re even going to the grocery store to get sushi and dog treats, makes you laugh and gives you a great story and makes your life just a little bit more interesting. So when you can do all of that. I mean, you can dare really dare to take the step forward. I think that is how you live a big life. So thank you so much for listening this week. I love you guys so much. I hope you have an amazing, amazing weekend. I will see you next time. Bye bye.
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