Dive into the untold secrets of Emotional Alchemy in this episode, where we walk you through an incredible NLP process called Time Techniques, designed to release the top five negative emotions that slow you down. Experience a newfound lightness, happiness, and stress relief as you break free from the grasp of guilt, hurt, fear, sadness, and anger. Delve into the intriguing layers of emotions, and discover how releasing these emotions in a specific sequence opens up a universe of opportunities.
Embark on a journey to comprehend the Gestalt effect of emotions, as each life event strings together, shaping your reactions and responses. By letting go of the very first emotion in the chain, you’ll experience the exhilarating freedom that comes from shedding the baggage of your past. Explore the importance of making sense of emotions and situations, and learn how a shift in perspective can revolutionize your entire life. Don’t miss this opportunity to unlock the door to endless potential and a happier, more fulfilling life through the transformative power of Emotional Alchemy.
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Welcome to the Art of Living big podcast. My name is Betsy pake. I’m an author, a speaker, and a trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. And I’m focused on helping you understand and design your life with the power of the subconscious. This podcast is designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big
hello fellow adventurers. Hi, everybody. Welcome to the show this week, my power just went out. Okay, no, it’s fine. If you
if you hear a bunch of beeping of things coming back on.
There it goes. So all right, well, that was a interesting way to maybe it was. So here’s what I like to say, because it makes me happy is that my energy is so high that it just throws off electronics. And maybe when I came on here, I was just so happy to be with you all. Just throughout the power in my whole building. All right. I have some updates. I have some updates. Okay, I want to quick update you on my nose. So you know, I had surgery on my nose like a month ago. It’s no, it’s like about three and a half weeks ago now. And
it was because I could not breathe through my nose. So it wasn’t sinus surgery, they actually reduced the thickness of my septum. That’s that bone in between our cartilage in between your two nostrils. And like, there’s some other like pieces of your nose that stick out on the inside. And those were reduced, reduced. I think they’re called, like turbines or something. I don’t know. Anyway, I can breathe. It was so hard to breathe even after like I would have moments where I could tell it was successful. But then I think there’s just so much healing going on in there, you know what I mean? And all kinds of scabs. And you know, as you can imagine, the hardest part of it was keeping my dang finger.
Oh my god, but now I can breathe like I’m I can tell that it’s was a success. So I want to share that it was a success because I so many people reached out and they were like, I’m thinking about doing this. And a lot of people haven’t done it. It’s not successful. It doesn’t work. I don’t. I’m so grateful. I don’t know all the details of why it wouldn’t work, but but I can breathe. I am sleeping so good. I slept nine hours and 15 minutes last night. And when I tell you I was up, like every couple of hours. And I’d always get up at 215 or 315 Every single day like
like for years, like 15 years. You know what I mean? And now I am sleeping. And I’m realizing that I was waking myself up because I couldn’t breathe.
And so that feels great. It was not a snorer. So if you’re thinking like I get up all the time, and I have trouble breathing, but I don’t think it’s enough to wake me up because I don’t snore. I didn’t snore either. And
I guess I just, you know, I just couldn’t breathe. I was fine. Not breathing. I didn’t need to make any noise about it. Anyway, that is a success. All right. So if you have been here for a little while, and you have been following the journey of our house hunt.
And if you recall, we found the most perfect house. For me. I called it the bird house. If you were following along online, it had like this huge giant window. I think I talked about it last week. I mean, it was just just the best, didn’t have a garage like, like real usable garage, it had like a garage that was sort of like a basement, like you couldn’t really park your car in there.
And so there were things about it that weren’t great. You know, it was really tiny and all the things anyway, we got outbid on that house. And when I tell you I was crushed, I was crushed. Right. So I was crushed. I still think about it sometime. And I’m like, Oh, that’s so pretty. And I also think it wasn’t right. And I knew something else would come along that would be better. And so we went out this last weekend. My husband took the day off on Friday, we house hunted all day. I’ve never been so exhausted. We saw so many houses, we went all over. And on Saturday. We had one we knew we were excited to see it’s in an area if you’re familiar with Atlanta at all that’s called Kirkwood and it’s just super cute. You know when I imagined what it was that I wanted and I think I even talked about this on the show it was like
a street with like tree lined streets with sidewalks. And I wanted it to like feel like
you know like not like a
Like a neighborhood not like an HOA, kind of cul de sac II subdivision. I wanted it to be like, every house was unique and cool and like old and redone and beautiful. And that’s what we found. And we knew we were going to see that on Saturday. So we went and saw it. I mean, it was amazing, of course. And so we decided to put in an offer. And
like with all the other houses in Atlanta, it’s still like a really tight market, which I had not anticipated. I thought that that had chilled out, because I know it has in a lot of other places, but not here. Not here. So
we put in an offer, you know, crazily above asking we agreed to let them stay in the house for an extended period of time, so that they had time to move and transition and all of that stuff, and put that offer in on Saturday, expected maybe to hear something back on Sunday, because that’s when our offer expired. But of course, as it has been with all of these offers we’ve put in they said they weren’t going to make a decision until everything was in until Monday. And honestly I kind of disengaged from it a little bit. I loved the house. The house was beautiful. It was so cute. And like just so cute. It had just a tiny backyard, though, but it did have a brand new two car garage, like a separate building. So, you know, all of our stuff from storage can go in there where we try to weed it out. Like there were things about it that were really good.
But I just was like, I’m just disengaging
it. I didn’t have the same. I got excited about it. But it wasn’t the thrill of the birdhouse. So we called this place the porch house because it had this huge front porch. You know, you know the kind you know what I’m talking about the neighborhood, huge front porch, sidewalks, big trees. So cute.
That my husband felt like I did about the birdhouse. You know, I could just tell he was just so invested. And I wanted it more so he could get it. So he could get what he really wanted. Because I was I was okay with it. I was excited about it. But again, it wasn’t the birdhouse. So anyway, they said they’d let us know on Monday morning, Monday morning, we didn’t hear and it was like Monday afternoon, we were already planning on putting an offer on a different house, just so that we didn’t totally lose out because we’re getting to the point where we’re like, we need to find something, you know. And then we got a text that we got the house. So hooray, hurrah. We did over, we did pay well, over asking, but we thought we were going to be paying
like $75,000 over asking. And we didn’t end up having to do that. So on all of these houses that we’ve been making bids on. So that felt really fun. We felt like we got a deal. They felt like they got a deal. And my husband, you know, got what he really wanted, which made me so happy. And in the end, it’s not the birdhouse in terms of the vibes. And it’s a different vibe. And I think it’s probably more practical for what we need. You know what I mean? So, in the end, I think it’s the right choice and the right thing. And I was I was excited about it. So all right, somebody messaged me this week and said, Can you share like books and stuff that you’re reading, I am going to do a whole episode on, like things that inspire me. Next for next week. I think that’s what’s going to be next week. But I want you to know that every week, I send out an email on Thursdays, and I tell you what’s on the podcast. But I also tell you three really random things that I’m excited about. So it’s just stuff that I have found. It might be a TV show, it might be like,
you know, an app, it might be like a song, it could be anything. Okay, so those are the three things that I’m excited about. If you want to get that just go to my website, go to Betsy pake.com. If you scroll all the way down to the footer, it’ll say like get the beliefs meditation, I think is just enter your email in that you’ll get on the list to get the three things that I’m excited about. So and I’ll update that at some point to say the three things I’m excited about. But either way, it’ll all kind of goes to the same place. So make sure you get on the email list. Plus I send out lots of
like, surprise things and stuff to people that are on the email list. Also on Mondays Did you know Did you know that there is a Facebook group. If you go to the art of living big.com And then every Monday I have been going live in there for the past month or so Mondays at 10am. Eastern, I’m sharing like a lesson or a thought or something that can kind of help you on your journey for the week. So if you want to join me in there, all right. I feel like I gave you a bunch of ads for nine minutes. But that’s that’s what places
As you can connect with me, that’s my news update. That’s where I’m going to be living. And you can find out what I’m excited about every week. Okay, so what do I want to talk about today? So all right, so this is, let me tell you about something that I have been doing, oh, my computer has shut down, because I was going to pull up the website, so I could read, okay, but I can remember. So
one of the things you can hear my computer, one of the things that I have been doing over the last couple months, once a month, I have been doing a live workshop. So this is a workshop where people come, and we actually do an NLP process called, called time technique. So I actually walk you through a process to release what I call like the top five, negative or unwanted emotions. And what that does is it gives people a lightness, it allows them to move quicker towards the goals that they have. It gives, it helps them be happier and more joyful and to feel less stress. So the benefits of releasing these specific emotions are unlimited. Like, there are so many great things about it. And typically, when I work with a client the first time, that’s like the first thing that I do, because I know that if I can get it to a place where they feel free, then anything else that we do after that is just going to enhance that feeling of freedom. So this is just as like such a tremendous place to begin the work. And, you know, I was doing a podcast, I don’t know, a few weeks ago, and I was talking about it. I was talking about, I think it was talking about that specifically about about releasing emotion. And I started thinking,
like, I need to do this, everybody needs to experience this. And that’s, that was back in March. And that’s when I was like, I’m going to do this in a group. And so I did, I pulled it together, and I did it right before my nose surgery. And then we just did a second one. So the first one, we had 10 people and the second one, we invited 20 people. And every time we’re learning, and we’re getting better at adapting and explaining, because we’re doing it with a group. There’s a lot and because we’re doing it with people that aren’t already embedded in my
stratosphere, there are things that I really want to teach them about their unconscious mind before we get started.
So I started thinking, because sometimes the questions that I get afterwards are things that I covered, but there’s only so much you can take in, right. Like I could tell you 20 things, you’re not going to remember all 20 things. So I thought I should talk about this and create a podcast because it would be a great thing for people to understand and know that this is something that we’re doing. But also, it is a great thing
for you to just like, kind of understand, and I could send it to people before they come to the workshop, right? So it kind of made sense. It was like this is a really good way to talk about it and let you know that this is an option for you. And then also, you’ll already be by the time you get to the workshop, you’ll be like, Oh, okay, this feels good. This I understand. Because I want people to really understand. Okay, so let’s talk about it.
Okay, so inside the emotional alchemy workshop, it is a two hour workshop. And what I’m really want, what I’m really wanting to do with folks, is to let them know what’s about to happen, and how we do this work. Now, when I talk about releasing the top five negative emotions, you know, I don’t know that I feel like any emotion is negative emotion is a guidance system. So give me some grace as we kind of talk about it in this way. But I really like to, it really like to release these emotions and I release them in a specific order. Now, emotions, the ones that I’m releasing, act as if they are
an onion. So let’s imagine you took an onion, and you cut it in half. Okay, and now you cut it in half again. So now you have a quarter of an onion. And you know, you could take like the top slice off and there’d be another slice underneath and then you could take that slice off and there would be another one underneath. And then the next one and the next one. So they they kind of layer on top of each other. And what we found is that emotions layer like that, too. So the very bottom, like lowest layer would be guilt
And then hurt would be layered on top of that, and then fear and then sadness and then anger. And what happens is that anger sort of overarching all of them, which is why when hurt is too tender, or fear makes you uncomfortable, we go to anger, anger seems to be the thing, that kind of overarching everything, and pushes things down. And I know when I’m working with people, if there is if these emotions have not been resolved, and I’ll explain what I mean, but if they haven’t been resolved, then anger is going to be the thing that shows up. Sadness is right underneath anger, and sometimes those kind of go together. I know for me, and I want you to think about you. What is your like, default emotion? Do you have like a default. And I think you know what I mean, right? We’re kind of doesn’t matter what happens, you kind of go to this default, mine was really sadness. So I would default to sadness, I mean, a happy thing, a good thing, like, I would emote, from a place of sadness, or, like, if things were scary, I would feel more sad. You know, if I got hurt, I would feel sad. So sad sort of became my default. And it wasn’t until I was able to clear all these emotions, that I was able to experience other emotions in a more robust way, and be able to
select out and clarify
these emotions even deeper. Right? So is there layers to sadness, right, there’s layers to hurt and guilt and fear and anger. And so getting to a place where we really understand these, if we go back to the onion, where there’s a anger layer at the very top right, and all of these different ones, when we start to release them, all of the sudden, there’s so much more movement around everything. Now, the second thing that emotions do is something called Gestalt. So they sort of combined together and how I think is the easiest way to imagine this is if you took a string of pearls, and you just laid it out straight, okay, so you just laid that straight, like on your desk, okay. And each of those pearls signifies an event where you felt anger, for example.
Now, if I’m looking, some of the pearls might be bigger, right, some of the pearls might be smaller, there may be bigger pearls that are like a significant emotional event that is anger. But you probably have a lot of little pearls where you just got like, irritated and you were angry, but it was like whatever and you moved on. I’m using you moved on in air quotes. Because Because because it Gestalt, it means they all string together. Okay. So if you can imagine you have this big string of pearls, some big some little, and you get to the all the way to the end of that, to the, to the very end where you are right now, like the last time that you felt anger, that anger is going to feel bigger, because it has all these other ones strung to it, because it has all these other instances attached to it. Now, this is going to show up in places like
I sent a text to somebody and they just never sent they never replied, right? Like you’re being ignored. That could be super triggering, you might be like, Oh my God, why are they doing that I get so angry, why am I being ignored, or you get cut off in traffic, right? I use this example a lot, but you get cut off. And then all of a sudden you’re ready to like,
you know, drive somebody off the road and scream at them. But it doesn’t really match how bad the situation was. Right? doesn’t really match and it’s because you are pulling from all those other instances of anger. So what happens is when we can go back to the very, very first time that you had that emotion, and we can release it, then all the other pearls on that necklace just fall off. You know, if you take one pearl off like the pearl that’s stopping all the other ones from coming off the chain and all your necklaces, you know, have you ever done that where you’ve opened a necklace and the chain fell in the charm fell right off. That’s what happens when you release the very first one.
That’s the key here is the very first one, which isn’t typically a significant event. So most of the time people don’t know what the very first one is. Because it’s so insignificant but then
Something attached to it and grew and it grew, and something else attached and something else and something else. And then you had a big one, and then something else, and then something else. Now, how do I release that? Then how do I release that very first instance of that emotion? Now, this is where it, I think that
there is a, there’s a metaphor that I want to use that I think will make sense.
Every time that we have an emotion, you’re making sense of that emotion, you’re making sense of the instance that happened, right? Something happens, you make sense of it, and then
you feel something.
So somebody cuts you off in traffic, you decide that that’s because they’re, they don’t respect you. This all might be unconscious, right? They don’t respect you. That’s the sense you’re making of it. And then you get super angry. So if instead, I thought, they’re cutting me off in traffic, because their mother’s sick, and they are rushing to get her, my reaction would be totally different.
Now, the truth is, I have no idea
why they’re cutting me off.
I have no idea what they’re going through.
But my reaction
depends on what the meaning is, that I make of it.
So now let’s go back to like the very first time, how would I release the very first time, I need to make a different meaning out of that moment.
You know, if I sat down right now at a table with me as I am right now, 51 sat down at this table. And I and I invited my 35 year old self to sit down, and then my 25 year old self to sit down. And then my 16 year old self to sit down. And I said, I want each of you to tell me about the day that your mom died.
The 16 year old would have such a different story than the 20 year old, the 25 year old, right, the 25 year old has now started to make different meanings out of it. Out of all the things that have happened after about the like situations and people that were involved in the aftermath of that. The 35 year old version of me, had now has a kid and now sees situations and people differently. And now 51 year old version of me, has gone through a lot of NLP, I’ve gone through a lot of energy work, I’ve spent the past decade studying this stuff, my the things I would take from it are totally different. Totally different, and probably the most different from the 25 year old to be honest, like, so different.
So if at 16, I made sense of something that doesn’t serve me anymore. And I talked about this in the episode 341, where I talked about why everyone needs NLP, at 16 years old. And those years following 1718 1920 2121 22, I made a lot of sense, I made a lot of forming my reality, because that was such an intense thing that happened. It created a lot of patterns for me. And those patterns really helped me. They helped me cope, and they helped me survive in a time that was extremely chaotic. But by the time I was 35, and I had a kid that Pat those patterns I had were not helpful. So sometimes people ask me, Well, like I don’t want to somebody did something awful to me, and I can’t just release that. Well,
my feeling on it is that if it’s not a problem, don’t worry about it. But if it is a problem.
And one of the things that I remember for me when I was up in the middle of the night, angry, angry, angry and holding on to anger, all this anger that had assaulted over every way that I had been wronged since my mom died and you know, all of the things that happened in the aftermath of that was I was the one that was up at three o’clock in the morning really mad. I was the one that was suffering.
The people that I perceived as having done me wrong, whether or not you could subjectively say they did me wrong, which I think anybody would agree that they did. It didn’t matter because they weren’t the ones that were up worrying about it I was
If I don’t want to live with that anymore, then it’s not about forgiving them. It’s not about saying, Well, you what you did was okay. That’s not what I’m saying. I’m saying Give yourself the gift of letting it go. It doesn’t mean you don’t have boundaries with that person. It doesn’t mean you weren’t injured or traumatized.
It just means you’re not willing to be punished anymore. It just means you’re ready for new patterns that serve you to where you’re going,
instead of where you’ve been.
So, when we do this work, and we release these emotions, we go back to the very, very, very first time. So I would not go back to when I was 16, I would go back to the very first time that I was
that I was that I felt anger, for example. Now, that might be like when I was two months old.
And that concept can be really hard for people to understand.
Sometimes people say will fit 14 was the first time I felt anger, am I really you never felt anger? Like even conceptually, can’t you imagine you felt anger at six or seven? When could you have felt anger at three, like we get angry, when we’re frustrated with something, it doesn’t mean someone’s doing something awful to us, it means that we interpreted it in a way that caused us to feel angry.
So when we release these emotions, people experience this amazing journey of lightness and self discovery. Because what we do is we go back to the very first time, and we get a new meaning in that moment. And when that new meaning is experienced, everything else melts away. It’s like it takes everything off the hinges and all of the other emotion just collapses. Now, to get to the very first time, especially if you’re like, okay, but to what you just said, I might not know what it is, like, you might actually have no idea. There is questions that I asked you. And the questions are, like, Did this happen before, during, or after your birth? That’s one of the questions and people are like, how could I possibly remember something before or during my birth?
That is a great question. And the reason is, because I’m not asking you to consciously answer this. So when I asked that question, did it happen before, during or after your birth? It should be like instantaneous that you know, and here’s how you can do this. If I told you right now, I want you to pick a number between four and 16. What number did you pick?
Now, you might have had a moment where you went like, I don’t 11. And then you were like, Well, no, nine is my favorite number. So then you consciously chose but there’s a moment where you just instinctively choose that process of instinctively choose instinctively choosing of using your unconscious mind and not filtering it, not judging it with your consciousness to make a different decision. That is the moment that you want to go with. So if I say Did it happen before, during or after your birth, and you’re like after, but I don’t know why or before and I have no clue why. Perfect. There’s no right or wrong. There’s no specific way to do this. And so we want you to go with what is your instinct? What’s your very first instinct. So the premise of all of this is that if I want to change my experience, and I want to change my behavior, all all learning all behavior and all change requires both the conscious and the unconscious. They have to be aligned, they have to be going in the same direction. This is how come people say I really want to go for it this year with my job. I’m gonna go for it. I see this with entrepreneurs a lot. I’m going for it like nothing’s gonna hold me back. This is my year, I’m going to make the leap. I’m going to be doing this I’m going to be building my business, okay, consciously, consciously. They’re like this is it I am aligned.
But unconsciously, years ago, maybe
when they were an infant, maybe when they were in utero. I’m going to talk about that in a second. Maybe when they were whatever. Again, it’s the way my unconscious mind is organizing. This doesn’t necessarily mean it was before you are born. It just means that’s how your unconscious mind is organizing it. So when you try to get your consciousness involved in this decision, it’s it you’re going to feel really wonky. Okay, so
So I want to get both my consciousness and my unconscious mind aligned. And so I, I need to be able to, to, if I’ve got my conscious mind knows that I want to build my business and do great things. But my unconscious mind says, I learned a lesson when I was four months old that if I wanted too much, that my older brother was going to slap me. So if I wanted too much, I was gonna get hurt. And so I am only gonna allow myself to get a certain amount. And the moment I’m getting close to that certain amount we got, we’ve got to go ahead and, and self sabotage her, like, we gotta throw her off course. Like, let’s get her sick. I mean, subconscious mind can do anything. Let’s get her let’s give her headaches, let’s, let’s make her anxious. Oh, that one works great. Like, let’s just get her really anxious. Let’s
a variety of things. So we may think it’s that stuff, Betsy, like, I’m interested in what you’re saying. But that is not me. I promise you, if you’re not living the exact life that you are consciously choosing, then there’s stuff back there going on, we’ll have it’s normal.
So we get both of these trains going in the same direction, the unconscious and the conscious by releasing negative emotions, releasing negative, or limiting decisions, right, releasing toxic connections, adjusting your values, your deepest values, and we can do all of that on an unconscious level. Now,
I want to talk about because I said, I’m going to come back to this, when I say before you were born. So in the womb, I want to throw out this conceptual idea to you not just conceptual, this idea to you this science to you. When I was born, when I was in utero, I was inside my mother, right? So I’m in utero I’m inside my mother. Emotions are a chemical reaction. And I could feel through the umbilical cord, everything that my mother was feeling. Because if she was having an emotional reaction, it was that chemical was coming through the umbilical cord into me, right, we shared everything through the umbilical cord. So it would make sense
that there would be anger or sadness or fear or guilt, perhaps not unresolved, but those emotions would be coming through. Now I want to take it one step further. Now, I want you to imagine my mother, inside my grandmother, right? When my mother was in utero. What’s formed in utero is in a in a female is eggs, all of your eggs. You’re born with all your eggs. So I was an egg inside my mother, when my mother was in utero inside my grandmother. And my mother was receiving all of the emotion from my grandmother during that time. So when I say before, during, or after your birth, I’m not like trying to be like, like, I don’t know, whoo. I’m really like,
there is the evidence that that could be it. Now, what I really care about though, is what your unconscious mind thinks.
If you guys have been here for a while, you’ve heard me talk about how my mom died when I was 16. When I go to release lots of limiting beliefs. And the question is asked before, during or after your birth, I say before I was born, and when we dig down into when it’s like, Oh, I was 12. Now my unconscious mind, for whatever reason, when I’m doing beliefs, thinks that at age 16, when my mother died, I died. That’s how it organizes it. So when I say it doesn’t matter if it makes sense, doesn’t matter. If you believe it. I just want the first thing that comes to you. So sometimes people are like, when you asked me before, during or after your birth, I need a couple minutes to think about it. No, like, absolutely don’t take that long. Because I don’t want what you consciously can conceive. I want your first reaction. I want just like what you what you initially think. Now the interesting thing about releasing emotion is that most people can release the emotion in under 12 minutes.
Under 12 minutes, almost everybody under 12 minutes.So when we release emotion, we can get through the top five negative emotions in just about an hour. But everybody has to be brought up to speed into how we’re doing it. That’s why I wanted to do this show. Okay, so does this make sense so far? This is why this is
This is why we’re doing it. Because my I gotta get my conscious mind and my unconscious mind heading in the same direction, all of my emotions Gestalt. So if I want to feel lighter, get towards my goals, be able to pivot and be agile, I have to really release all of this baggage, it would be like getting in a car accident losing your bumper, and then you go out on the street, you pick up your bumper, and put it in the back of your car, and then you proceed to carry it around every day for the next four years. And people are like, Why are you carrying that bumper into the bank? And you’re like, Well, I mean, it happened. I mean, it did happen. Somebody hit me, I got the bumper fell off. Yeah, but you don’t have to carry it around. So this process is an unconscious process, and, and a conscious awareness that you are releasing the emotion. Okay, so now you’re clear on how the emotion Gestalt why we do it. So when we actually release it, what are we actually doing? So what we are doing is, we were going back to that moment, the very first time, and we are hovering over it. And we are getting a new lesson, you are sitting down, you are hovering over the picnic table and visiting that specific event as this version of you. So at five years old, maybe I decided that something bad was would happen if I I’ll give you an example. If Hang on, I gotta give you example. But I hover over it. And I revisit and I get a new learning. Now, when I say I hovered over, I don’t have to know what it is that’s happening. I don’t have to know the event. I don’t have to know specifically what’s happening or who’s there. I don’t have to know any of that. That is what I think makes this so powerful, because you don’t have to relive it.
Sometimes people are like, Well, how do I know what happened? If it was before I was born yet? Oh, you don’t have to know you’re just hovering over it. And you’re feeling for what is a lesson that I need to know. And your unconscious mind is going to serve it to you, because of the way that I say it. Now, when I walk you through this process, I’m going to tell you how you can do this. But when I walk you through this process, I say things in a really specific way. And I use specific words, so that you can access these lessons. But in the end, I want the lesson to be something that’s that’s positive, I want it to be something that’s just about me. So it’s not like, Well, they didn’t know any better. Because what does that mean about me. So this whole process is going to empower you. And I want it to be something that I can bring forward with me on my journey. So the lesson now is something that is serving me something that helps me get faster towards my goals instead of something that’s holding me back.
So it’s something that is going to empower me to shift and to grow. And to become this next version of me that I’m trying to be
years ago, I did this on myself.
I’m trying to think I want to say it was like eight years ago.
My unconscious mind is telling me it was eight years ago. So here’s what happened is that I over the course of my lifetime, I I have always been able to make a lot of money, but not always keep it.
So I’ve been lucky in that I’ve made like good investments with things or whatever. But if it was in my wallet, like, you know, it was gone. And it really bothered me, because I felt like it was an unconscious going. It wasn’t conscious. It would be like, I’d get this money in my account. And then all of a sudden, I’d be like, I don’t even know what I bought, like, what did I get? And so I decided that was a limiting, there was a limiting belief in there. And so I identified the limiting belief because this process can be used for emotions or beliefs. Okay, so I got the limiting belief. I went back, I hovered over the moment. Do I know what the moment was? No, not at all. But I’m five years old. I knew that. So I hovered over the moment, when I first got that limiting belief.
And I just hung out there. I mean, I sat there for a long time. I just sit until I get what I need. Again, I’m hovering over a mon I have no idea. I just know I have this limiting belief that if I don’t spend the money, it’s going to be gone. And all of a sudden I got a flash of me with my mother at a grocery store. So I grew up in this little small town in Vermont. And we had this grocery store that my mother really loved. It was a grocery store that had been like a little little, like bodega.
Little like side, small corner store when she was growing up and she could walk to it, but they had turned it into like an IGA. So it was a little bit bigger. But half the store still had these wooden floors like they did in the store when she was growing up because it was like, partly that steal that old store. And so I remembered pushing the car and her pushing the cart and me walking next to her, and the way that the wood floors creeped. And I also realized I had in my hand a little pouch that was like a little beaded pouch that looked like a panda bear. Now, did I have any any recollection of any of this before? No, was I making it up? Maybe. But it tracks like it makes sense. And again, I don’t care if my unconscious mind is showing this to me. And then I get the thrill of getting to see it in the way that it is perceiving it, it’s fine. So I noticed I have this little beaded pouch that’s like heavy with change. And then I get this feeling that I’m looking at something on a shelf. And my mom calls me and says Come on. And so I run to go see her. And then at the end of the time, we’re at the checkout. And she had agreed, agreed to help me buy a little coloring book. And I was really excited about it. And she said you have to use your money in your thing. And I said, Okay, and so we got to the checkout, and my mom checked out. And she said, she said this is how clear it was. She said, Oh, Betsy, where’s your money. And I realized, I didn’t have it, I had no idea where that little pouch was. Now, as an adult seeing that happen, I knew I had left it on one of the shelves. But when she said it, the shock of like, I have no freaking idea. Like, it’s just like, I have no idea. It’s gone. Like it’s disappeared. I didn’t make meaning of I left it I made meaning of its disappeared. And so she put the coloring book back, and I didn’t get it.
Now, in that moment, I sat over that and was like, What is the lesson in this? Now, five year old me decided spend it quick before it gets taken.
And, you know, 45 year old me said, I put it there. So I have control, I get to control where my money goes. And that one shift made it so much easier for me to make better decisions with my money, all of a sudden, I wasn’t broke ass.
Like I didn’t get a check and spend it immediately. Like i i get it and then be in control of what I did, I get to make a choice. And stead of feeling like I had to get rid of it in that moment so that it didn’t just disappear. And I was creating the I don’t even know where my money is just disappeared. I mean, as I described it to you when I started telling you this story. So we have these experiences that we make meaning and then that becomes a reality. And it feels really real. And it feels like I have no control over this life is happening. But the truth is when we start to shift this stuff, our whole entire experience can shift. Now, this is another reason why I think everybody needs to learn NLP. But I want you to know that once a month, and I don’t know how long I’ll do them. So if you’re listening to this, you know long down the road.
But once a month, I am doing class where you can come, it’s 22 bucks, it’s 22 bucks come and spend time and go through and release these negative emotions with me.
You will feel so much later you’ll start to feel like you’re on the path. Now. I will tell you that I think it’s really helpful to have a path afterwards. I always say to people come and learn something else, you know, learn something else that’s going to keep you on your path. But this place will begin to change the path for you to take next will become obvious, right? So go on a path of me or somebody else but like do this and then all of a sudden the junk. It’s like if you had glasses on and then you just had a bunch of Vaseline on them. Like your whole life every day you put a little Vaseline on your glasses. I mean by the time now you’re in your 30s or 40s or 50s or 60s or whatever you’re like I cannot even see clearly. Who knows what’s real. All I know is like this Vaseline. All I know is this anger, like all I know is this feeling of dread.
So how do you do it? So you’re gonna come to my website Betsy pake duck
Um, slash emotion. Okay, if you go all the way to the bottom, there’s a calendar there, click on the link of the date, click on the date and it’ll tell you the exact time it’ll tell you the time in your timezone. Okay. It’s two hours, I’m going to explain everything I kind of just explained to you but deeper, more in depth. And then we’re going to actually go through and release the five emotions, it’s so powerful. Please do this for yourself. Please put yourself first please spend 22 bucks, it is nothing. I will say this.
This is like
this, okay, so I’m gonna really flatter myself. But this is like buying a Taylor Swift ticket. It’s live. It’s a live event. So if you can’t make it, don’t buy the ticket. Okay, so we’re not refunding people or moving people around. It’s too confusing. It’s 22 bucks by the ticket. If you can’t come sell it to somebody else, right? Like you would with Beyonce tickets, like, it’s a live event. Come join if you can make it. We will be doing them every month for a while now. And I would love, love, love to meet you and to see you and to have you do this work and for you to have you feel this release. So
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And yeah, I think it can change your life. And in the end, that is how I think you live a big life. So all right, thank you for listening. We go on and on for 50 minutes. I love you so much. And I will talk with you all soon. Bye bye.
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