About me

At The Navigate Method™, we help women who feel stuck in their marriage finally find the clarity they have been searching for.

If you are wondering whether to stay and rebuild or if it is time to move on, we walk you through a proven process that takes you out of overthinking and into confident decisions.

This work comes from my own experience of being in that same place of doubt and transformation, and it has been shaped by years of coaching women who are facing the exact same questions.

Together we uncover what you truly need, heal the patterns that have been keeping you stuck, and empower you to move forward with certainty and peace.

Our mission is simple. We do not want you to spend another year in limbo. By the end of our process, you will know exactly what is right for you and you will have the tools and support to take that next step with confidence.

I believe we all have the capacity to live BETTER, live BRIGHTER, and live BIGGER.

My mission is to help you get there. My work is my love letter and rally cry to everyone out there who wants to live their “Big Life” but just doesn’t know how.

Experience

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It's time to experience

how incredibly powerful you are

It's time to connect

with the highest version of you

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Connect
Your story

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It’s time to use your story

to create your incredible future

When you do all that it will lead to...

More confidence

More clarity

More joy

Meet Betsy

“You should know, Betsy and The Navigate Method™ is the real deal!”

Betsy is a coach, speaker, and writer with over 13+ years of experience helping women expand their potential.

As a certified master coach, Betsy uses trauma-informed care with neuroscience-based techniques to support women through transitional times in their lives.

My superpower is being able to identify patterns that are holding you back and link these together to help you create swift change.

(I also make a beautiful poached egg!)

HEY THERE

MY BOOK

Start small live big

We all have our own “big life” within us, but sometimes, everyday life takes over. Even if we’ve made changes in the past, we tend to slip back into what we know. How do you make changes in your relationships, your career, your health, or even your finances when life is already moving so fast? Start Small Live Big gives you the framework for identifying which changes will have the biggest impact, how to make those changes happen, and the key to staying on track long term.

I’ve been the woman sitting in the driveway. Texting. Following up on emails. Just not wanting to go inside… not quite yet.
We help women make big decisions in their marriage and here are some ways we can help:
❤️ Comment PODCAST to get access to over 400 episodes to help you think differently about what’s possible.
❤️ Comment BRIDGE to get access to my process for getting really honest with yourself ❤️ Comment VIDEO for my free class that gives five shifts to make in your marriage and what may be holding you back.
Links for my free community gathering and more in my 🔗
Hundreds of pieces of feedback later, one thing kept showing up that I didn’t expect. And once I understood why, I couldn’t believe this didn’t occur to me before!
Makes sense though, don’t you think?We help women make big decisions in their marriage and here are some ways we can help:
❤️ Comment PODCAST to get access to over 400 episodes to help you think differently about what’s possible.
❤️ Comment BRIDGE to get access to my process for getting really honest with yourself ❤️ Comment VIDEO for my free class that gives five shifts to make in your marriage and what may be holding you back.
Turns out I know how to make some pretty sound decisions and I’m okay having uncomfortable conversations with myself about what’s right for me.
And I’m pretty clear!
This feels easier. 💫
I help women make big decisions about their marriage.
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Everything is in my bio too. ❤️‍🩹
Talk is cheap 💃 and action actually costs something.
When he says he’ll change but nothing actually shifts in how he shows up, that’s a lot of information. And if he only shows up when the pressure is on, that’s information too.
This is how you stop guessing yourself and start to trust what is happening.
Want to hear more about this? Comment PODCAST ( or just check my link) and I’ll send the show right to your inbox. 💫
I never tell women whether to stay or leave. Not because I don’t have opinions! But because I know what it took for me to finally trust my own decision, and I won’t take that from you. 💗
As frustrating as it can feel, clarity is earned and when you make a decision from your own clarity, you stop second-guessing yourself.
You start trusting yourself in a way you never have before.
That’s what the Navigate Method is for. Not to tell you what to do, but to help you clear out the noise, other people’s opinions and all the second guessing enough to trust yourself when you do decide. 💫💃
Three questions to ask yourself, not to decide if you should stay or go, but to orient yourself to what is true. 🧭We help women make big decisions in their marriage and here are some ways we can help:
❤️ Comment PODCAST to get access to over 400 episodes to help you think differently about what’s possible.
❤️ Comment BRIDGE to get access to my process for getting really honest with yourself
❤️ Comment VIDEO for my free class that gives five shifts to make in your marriage and what may be holding you back.
Three transition calls. All three women did the hard work and stayed locked in even when it got uncomfortable. 💪🏼
Now they have their next right step.
That’s what transition calls always remind me of. That there is no “right” answer. There’s just your answer.
My job is to help you find it, not tell you what it should be. ❤️‍🩹
The past two weeks have been … rough.What surprised me the most about cleaning out my small storage closet wasn’t what I found inside those boxes. It was who I met there, and what I had to tell her. ❤️I help women make big decisions about their marriage.
💃 To listen to my podcast, comment PODCAST
💃 To learn my path to get honest with yourself comment BRIDGE
And for my free masterclass, comment VIDEO
Everything is in my bio too. ❤️‍🩹
You are done trying, and you're finally choosing yourself, and now suddenly he wants to "do the work".
Here are some things to watch for, but before you read this, I want you to understand that this isn't about there being a "right" answer.
This is about you figuring out what's true for you.There's a lot of nuance in here that can't always be communicated on an Instagram post. You can listen to the podcast to get more, but the point of this is to get you thinking in a different way and orienting yourself so that whichever way you decide, you know that it's the right thing for you. 💫 Comment PODCAST and I’ll send you a link to the episode.
💫 Want to go deeper on your truth? Comment BRIDGE and I’ll send you a link to the honesty map process.
Once you are honest with yourself about where you are, the real work of reclaiming your life and learning if this can be saved can begin. 💫 Being unhappy doesn’t always mean it’s over. It just means this iteration is done.We help women get clear on the direction of their marriage.
Here are some ways we can help:
➡️ Comment BRIDGE and I’ll send you a link to our pathway to get honest with yourself for what’s true.
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Lonely and alone are not the same thing. It took a divorce at 53 to really understand that…and I think some of you already know exactly what I mean.I’ve spent a decade helping women through transitions just like this… and nothing taught me more than living one myself. ❤️‍🩹💪🏼 join me as I share my rebuilding journey here every week @betsypakeWant to learn more about what I do? Comment VIDEO and I’ll send you my free masterclass. 🫶🏼
I’m single and starting over in my 50’s. Thriving. Learning myself in a new way 🎉
Follow along @betsypake as I share the journey of rebuilding my life each week.
Want to listen to my podcast? I have a three part episode (399-401) on getting clarity in your marriage. Comment PODCAST and I’ll send it right over. ❤️#becomingBetsy #paketheocean #startingoverat50something
Marriage takes work… but not the kind where you are doing all the work alone.
There’s a difference between building something together and completely abandoning yourself to keep it going.And if you’re losing yourself in shame because you are trying so hard and it still feels terrible, it’s something to consider.
Your North Star ⭐️
Is the work creating really change or is it just you begging for the same things over and over again?We help women get clear on the direction of their marriage.
Here are some ways we can help:
➡️ Comment VIDEO to discover the 5 shifts that will help you move from confusion to clarity.
➡️ Comment PODCAST to get a link to The Art of Living Big Podcast with over 350+ episodes to get you started thinking differently about what could be possible for your life.
➡️ Comment YOUTUBE to get a link to my channel where you can get a sneak peek inside The Navigate Method.
Sometimes you don’t need more clarity.
You need to decide which life you’re willing to live.
Comment PODCAST and I’ll send you the link for this weeks podcast, #417 on making big decisions.❤️🌊
If he’s ready to work on it but it’s only when you finally made the difficult decision to leave, that’s information.
Make sure you know why and you anchor your hope in the right place. ❤️‍🩹We help women get clear on the direction of their marriage.
Here are some ways we can help:
➡️ Comment VIDEO to discover the 5 shifts that will help you move from confusion to clarity.
➡️ Comment PODCAST to get a link to The Art of Living Big Podcast with over 400 episodes to get you started thinking differently about what could be possible for your life. (Start with 399,400 and 401)
➡️ Coment FIRE to get a link to our next community Fireside Chat. It’s free and a place for connection and conversation about mid life and beyond. 🔥
My first week here it poured for three days straight.
I woke up at 2am to thunder and lightning, walked out to my living room…everything exactly how I left it, quiet, mine.
And I just sat there. Peaceful.
That feeling told me everything I needed to know.I was supposed to want to own something again. I know that.
But after my divorce, I realized I’d been carrying weight for a long time that wasn’t mine to carry alone.
This apartment gave me something I didn’t even know I needed; space that was just mine.
Quiet that was just mine.
A life I’m building exactly the way I want it.And honestly? I can feel something big coming. Stepping into my own life in a totally new way and renting… it gave me time to find my way and access to make new choices. 🫶🏼👉🏼Follow along @betsypake  for weekly posts on how I rebuilt my life after getting divorced in my 50’s.We help women make big decisions on whether to stay or leave their marriage.
Comment VIDEO for our free masterclass.
Comment PODCAST for this weeks episode on making big decisions.#livebigadventures #rebuildinglife
I get asked all the time about how to know if it’s rough patch or if it’s a pattern. Here’s something to consider as you decide how to deal with what’s happening. (They are dealt with differently!)We help women get clear on the direction of their marriage.
Here are some ways we can help:
➡️ Comment VIDEO to discover the 5 shifts that will help you move from confusion to clarity.
➡️ Comment PODCAST to get a link to The Art of Living Big Podcast with over 350+ episodes to get you started thinking differently about what could be possible for your life.
➡️ Comment YOUTUBE to get a link to my channel where you can get a sneak peek inside The Navigate Method.
➡️ Coment FIRE to get a link to our next community Fireside Chat. It’s free and a place for connection and conversation about mid life and beyond. 🔥
I talk a lot about the work I do at The Navigate Method.
But I thought it was time to start showing you what it actually looks like to build a new life.
Each week I’ll share what I’m trying, what I’m learning and what it feels like to be right where I am. ❤️
Follow along @betsypake
The question was never “should I stay or go.” It was “where did I go?”
Unraveling the protection mechanisms that surround you and finding the version of you that YOU actually like is the key that unlocks the door. 🔑We help women get clear on the direction of their marriage.
Here are some ways we can help:

➡️ Comment VIDEO to discover the 5 shifts that will help you move from confusion to clarity.➡️ Comment PODCAST to get a link to The Art of Living Big Podcast with over 400+ episodes to get you started thinking differently about what could be possible for your life.