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170: As Soon As…. I will be happy!

Listen to todays episode here… Transcript: You’re listening to Episode 170 of The Art of Living big. Good morning, everybody. I missed everyone last

Many years ago, when my daughter was little, I was

Many years ago, when my daughter was little, I was selling copier machines.
I started at a company that was really well known and the territory I came into was one where the previous rep was let go for lack of sales. I heard the rep before her had a similar fate. (ie: everyone said it was a crappy territory)
We think of sales as being a place we may receive a lot of rejection, but that’s not the only place that’s true. It’s hard for me to think of any area of life we don’t receive rejection of some kind.

I don’t think the two that came before me were bad sales reps at all. (At all! And the one I met was super kind, to boot) but sometimes rejection takes it toll.

I knew then, because I had to support my daughter, that this territory HAD to work for me. I had to create momentum in a place others had struggled to find it.

To get to any big goal, rejection is along for the ride.
We can’t escape some criticism, rejection, defeat, struggle.
It’s all there if we are doing something different than we’ve done before.

Way back then, I photocopied a big nose off the face of one of the cartoons in one of my daughters books. I made a page with all just a ton of noses, and every day my goal was to check off all the “no’s” before I could go home.
Getting a No turned into a win and my reaction wasn’t of defeat, it was of getting closer to going home to see my daughter.
That year I passed my annual quota by October and by December had secured my spot on a week long company vacation trip to the Caribbean, where I could bring one of my best friends all included.

I still have to catch myself with the rejection, defeat or struggle.
I have to remind myself it’s part of the experience of growth and momentum and success.

Struggle WILL happen. How I choose to look at it is totally up to me.

Can you feel a shift in seeing struggle in your life too?
What’s something you are doing now to take rejection by the horns and make it work FOR you?

I’ve been working with several of my elite clien

I’ve been working with several of my elite clients on money lately.
It’s a theme and if we’re all being honest, it’s a theme for everyone, in most everything we do.
It’s security.
Comfort.
Stability.
Our physical reality demands it, no matter how “spiritual” we may be.

I like talking about it because I think it takes away the shame that can be attached to having it (or not having it).

Personally have had ebbs and flows over my lifetime until I made some internal shifts about how I think about it and it’s place in my life.
One of my biggest shifts is that I think of money as a partner to me so that I can do the worK I want to do in the world (one of the most important things to me.)

I’m not one to buy expensive handbags (no shade if you do, it’s just not my thing. Kate Spade or a good leather Madewell bag is about as fancy as I desire right now) but I find crowds of people really drain me. I get overwhelmed and it makes it harder to do my work.

This week I’m traveling to Sedona where I’m holding a 7-day in person event for my NLP students.
It’s just me teaching. 7 days. Energy that I can not wait to share!

But that means I need a partner to support this work.
To the outside how I travel may seem unnecessary; TSA precheck, Clear at the airport, Delta Skyclub access, First class seats (or Comfort+ at the very least), in-flight Wi-Fi.
Nothing extravagant but also not necessary to reach my destination.

My husband is traveling with me and he commented on all this.
Here’s how I see it:
Money is my partner in the work that I do. Allowing me to conserve my energy so I can take it with me to my live class where the people attending deserve it.

When I shifted from “more money than covering my bills seems unnecessary” to “Money is my partner”, the flow of in and out became so much easier.

On the flight, I’ve been thinking it would be fun to do a workshop over 5-6 weeks diving into some of the biggest shifts I’ve made over the past year.
Get some clarity, have courageous conversations and do some change work on your subconscious.
Safe space to heal and process.
Is that an area you’d like to expand into more of? Let me know! 👇🏼

Years ago someone told me that when your friends n

Years ago someone told me that when your friends need you, you don’t call, you show up.
That felt really good to me to think about and I have tried to do that anytime it’s possible.
This week I was at the airport within 90 minutes of getting the call that things were hard.
I went to Vermont to be with my childhood best friends as their mom passed. I’m so glad I went. I’m so grateful to all my other friends who helped get me at the airport in the middle of the night, let me sleep at their house and carted me around. I’m so very grateful.

The thing that I’m now realizing though, is that I need to show up more for the every day stuff. Not just the hard stuff. I need to reevaluate what sorts of relationships I want in the good times and build my life around making those kinds of experiences happen.

It’s great to show up when things are hard. I love that.
And I think you’ve really got to be really intentional with your time when the only reason is because you love them.
Sometimes Vermont feels really far. (It’s not cheap and there is only one direct flight a day from Atlanta) but maybe that’s the extra mile we go for people that matter.

Seeing them once a year (or less) is no longer an option for me. I’m raising my standards.

Have you done that too? Put things off thinking it will come together “later”?
I guess it’s the price you pay for loving people in all different places. ♥️

I’ve been writing more. Early morning thoughts w

I’ve been writing more.
Early morning thoughts with the sunrise. It’s steadying. A point of familiarity in my ever changing world.
I’m not sure any of it would be classified as “good” by anyone outside of my own head, but that isn’t how I’m evaluating it anyway.
Some days it’s a purging.
Some days it’s dreaming.
Some days it’s total imagination and how I could decide something could be.

I know people who are really really good writers…. And they don’t write.
I always felt that was sad.
To have a gift and not use it.
But now, I don’t think that as much. Now I understand things come in seasons.

I’m wondering what my next season will bring.
💫♥️

This morning I was writing in my journal about all

This morning I was writing in my journal about all the things I like about right now. And, like I typically do, I scrolled back in my writing.
Way back.
Six months ago.
Nine months.
A year ago.
What was it like then?
Hard. Really hard. Increasingly hard and lonely and I was faced with a lot of choices that didn’t seem like either option was good.
I was frustrated and felt like a lot of things were so unknown.
It didn’t feel fun at all. (And I like fun)

So I let it go.

Surrendered into it all and remembered that I don’t have to figure it all out right then.
I just have to follow the path to what feels better.
Each day, what feels better?

My body became a very strong indicator of the things I couldn’t cognitively understand and I just started listening to her and following her where she wanted to go. (Even if she said “Iceland”!)

The thing we forget when we are “in it” is that no big expansions come without some sort of restriction first. Some sort of breaking apart of what was.
The things that happen in my life today are things I dreamed of for a long time. The things I couldn’t figure out why they weren’t happening before.

Now it all feels so clear.

And the things I want to happen now, that I don’t see in my awareness just yet, I know those things will come when I have grown and I am ready.

Someone messaged me inside our Alchemy Institute about how to have a breakthrough in their business and my answer applies to every single thing you want a breakthrough in.
Go and work on yourself.

Go all the places you avoid.
Notice where you’re triggered, notice where you feel lack or constriction and then use your tools or gift yourself with the help of someone who can walk you home.

All great stories begin with a hero who didn’t know their way.
Don’t dread the hard things. See it as breeding ground for the version of you that is about to emerge even more brilliant than the you that came before it.
♥️♥️

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