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Today Betsy reads from her deep streaming to share a message about the world, coming back to yourself and upleveling your vibration to a higher place.
Welcome to The Art of Living big. I’m your host, Betsy Pake. I’m an author, a speaker, a master coach and trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. And I help people create lives. They’re excited about over the next 30 minutes, I hope to help you redefine what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hello fellow adventurers. Welcome to today’s show. So I was sitting this morning, drinking my coffee, doing my deep streaming, just listening, you know, for messages and things I needed to hear. And I actually asked like, what am I doing the show on? I had written down so many notes over the last week of like ideas or things I could talk about. I mean, there’s a million things right that we can talk about. And sometimes like that, when I look at that list, I feel like super uninspired. You know, I was inspired at the moment that I wrote it down. And so I just asked, and so I’m going to talk about what came up when I asked. Yeah, so I’m going to kind of read to you what I got, and then I’m going to explain it the best that I can explain it. I think that might be the way to do it. All right. Before we get going, this podcast is sponsored by the alchemy, collective membership. If you haven’t looked at our membership, go to my website Betsy Pake comm slash alchemy collective. So the alchemy collective is my monthly membership where we have NLP coaching, breathwork classes, success coaching, emotion code, Body Code work, it is a combination of science and spirit and communities. So if you’re into that, check out, check out the collective and become part of it. It’s the best people ever. It’s really awesome. It’s really an awesome container for growth. So anyway, that that is my sponsorship for this episode. Okay. Alright, so here’s what I asked, and here’s what I got. asked, What do I need to talk about on the show today? And I’m going to go, it’s long what I got, but I’m going to just go through each piece. Okay. So talk about the desire to meet the world where it’s at, that, you know, you can’t change everything, but you can change you. And that is what is most important. You know, there’s a lot going on in the world. And I know sometimes for me, when I look out on it, it feels really heavy and, and sort of awful. I saw something recently online where someone was like, is this hell? Like? Are we in the, in the hell with everything happening? You know, there’s feels like so much chaos to me, when I look at things online later, so much division. And I feel like that division started. Well, it’s been happening forever that division, but it feels like it really started heating up. You know, we’ll probably with the presidential election, but even more so with COVID. And there’s the one side and the other side and, and like people just not coming together. And I know sometimes for me, I think like, how do I breathe in that? Like how do I? How do I so many of the choices and decisions are not clear cut, things aren’t just right or wrong black and white, you know, there is gray area in all of the things that we are debating these days. And when there is that gray area, it can be harder to articulate why you feel the way you do. And so much of the work that I do, is talking about the unconscious mind. And our unconscious mind is what holds our values. And our beliefs. And these values are deep seated. They are formed and created when we were very young, and they’re adapted from people that we respected and cared about. And we may not even be aware of them. In fact, I would say most of the time, we’re not aware of them. And many times people are aware of values that they consciously want to have. But when we look at behavior, because that’s where we calibrate. When we look at behavior, that is not where their values are, even though consciously they want that to be their value. And so as we’re going through all of these things in the world right now, we have a feeling for what is the right side, we might be in the gray, we might be able to see some of that but we go I don’t I can’t fully articulate Maybe you can articulate a lot of things that make your side the right side. But I would argue that it comes from deep seated values that are there that you may not even be aware of. And so when you look out at the world, and you, and you talk about the desire to meet the world where it’s at, you can only change you. And so if you think about, well, what would you like to see in the world? You know, I’m so constricted, I see the other side. And I think that they’re so wrong. And I just wish that they would come to the right side, right? Well, if you want them to come to the right side, then that would require that they be open, that they’d be open to hearing another viewpoint that they be aware consciously of the values and beliefs that they hold, that’s keeping them in that place, or brought them to that place in the first place. And so that is the work for us. Because we can’t change anything but ourselves. So if that is what we would want in someone else, if that’s what we think someone else would need, then that’s what we need to do within ourselves. Now, you might be like, well, I don’t have to do it, because I’m on the right side. And I would just argue that being on the right side, if if it is true, that you’re on the right side, then there is no harm at all, in opening up and seeking to understand deeply what the other side feels and thinks and sees and hears in their experience. And when you can do that. It’s almost as if you are creating this little like silvery thread, you know, that attaches to the other side. And when you can create that attachment, it can almost act like an energetic bridge between the two. Now, if everybody on the right side, did that, and created an energetic bridge for air quotes, right, wrong side? Don’t you think that there would begin to be different conversations? Don’t you think that if the right side began deeply understanding the wrong side, the the topics would change, the compassion would change, the tone would change, the whole pitch of the conversation could change. And so maybe it’s not about getting the wrong side to think like the right side, it’s about getting the right side to deeply understand the wrong side. And so the message that I got was that, you know, you can’t change everything, but you can change you. And that is what is important. The next part of the message was you could talk about how your experience molds, your vision, and how it’s important to keep open for sights and sounds that align with your spirit. Always fleeting is the path without the awareness. And so I think that as we begin to mold this vision, right, as we begin to experience the world, it’s really important to notice the little pieces that grab our attention. You know, those are the little pieces that our soul wants to linger on. In the morning, I read a list of things that I appreciate, but it’s a little bit of a different list. It’s not just a general gratitude list. I actually try to remember the moments in the morning, yeah, walk my dog in the morning, and then I do it. I try to remember the points in the morning. And then I do it again at night where my soul lingered. You know, where I took an extra long look at a dog in the lobby, or I noticed a car that was going by or I said hi to somebody that I felt a connection with. I try and remember and notice the pieces of the world that break my heart. I I write down things that I noticed online or people whose names or pictures grabbed my attention or a thought that I just lingered on. And so it’s important to keep open for these sights and sounds that are aligning with our spirit because there’s a path in there, and it may seem as though it is inconsequential. Who cares if you noticed Dog in the lobby. But all of that does matter. Because my belief, and again, this is a buffet, believe what you want take my thoughts or ideas to heart and linger on them and see if it aligns with your vision. But my belief is that each little thing we experience impacts us. It’s almost like the image is almost like a bumper cars, like I could just go straight on the in a bumper car. But every time I something grabs my attention, it nudges me just a little bit, just a little bit to the right, just a little bit to the left. And that changes the trajectory of my path. And so it’s important that I notice the bumps and nudges that I enjoy. Because that, as we know, where we focus is where we go. And so if I’m noticing those little things that I enjoy, then I would be drawn towards more and more things that I enjoy bigger things, things that maybe feel like they have more consequences. And so noticing your experience, and being open for those sights and sounds that are aligning to your spirit. Because always fleeting is the path without the awareness, you may have a path laid out, that could be the most joyful path you could ever imagine. But that path will be fleeting, if you’re not aware of where it is that you really want to go. So the next little part, I said, you could say that they are deep, and the captain of their soul. And if they have erroneously given the power to someone else, it’s time to take it back. That you are deep, you have great depth, I think if you’re here you have great depth, and you are the captain of your soul. And perhaps you have given that power away, perhaps you’ve given it to someone from your past that isn’t even around anymore. Perhaps you’ve given that to someone in your life now, or your boss or your job or your spouse, perhaps you have given away your power. And maybe there’s a part of you that, you know, pauses in the evening and pulls that part of you out of your back pocket and takes a look and says, Wow, I wonder where she is. I miss her. But the truth is, is that you can never truly give it away because you are the captain. So you can just choose to take it back. You can just choose to forgive yourself, you can just choose to make a different choice. And every single moment is that different choice. Every single moment when you notice it’s the bumper car, right? nudging you back onto the path where you feel most alignment, the path where you’re supposed to be. And so then it said, Tell them three ways that they can do that. Here are the ways. So number one was express themselves. That’s right, tell people what they really want and how they feel. So express yourself, tell people in your life what it is you really want. You know, it may seem like it doesn’t matter, but it does, because those little tiny nudges matter. It may be that you start out really simply and just expressing yourself over things that maybe other people don’t think matter as much. And that might feel easier in the beginning. You know, maybe it’s a little, maybe a little bit of a jump is to express what you want, like for dinner instead of asking everybody else and then saying Well, I don’t I don’t care, I’ll eat anything. Even if you think you don’t care and you woody anything. Maybe that’s where you begin. You know, maybe you begin with something very small. Maybe every morning, you just stay out loud in an empty room. How you feel as you begin to grow and get honest with yourself about how you really feel and how you’re experiencing the world. And then maybe you build up to where you’re you’re sharing more and you’re telling more and that you are expressing yourself so that you’re not leaving things out to just be bumped around by bumper cars that you’re not choosing That expressing yourself and telling people what you really want. And how you really feel is really important in you being able to be that captain of your soul. And then number two that I got was show up as you show up as the most authentic version of you, in every circumstance is interesting, because I noticed this in myself recently, I don’t put bumper stickers on my car. This is a conversation I’ve had with my daughter over and over again, my car’s pretty small on the back window is pretty small, because it’s a ragtop. So I don’t put bumper stickers, and I don’t especially like clutter. This is just me, my daughter likes bumper stickers, and which wants them all over her cards. Totally fine. I like it for her. But for me, I just don’t like that. But I do get stickers, and I put them on my iPad cover, I have like a keyboard cover. And over the years, that cover has become covered in stickers. You know, when my daughter got accepted to scad, I immediately bought one that said scad Mom, you know, I have one that I almost thought I would put on my car. But I didn’t. And it’s just little white words to say, I hope something good happens to you today. And I have it on my iPad so that if the keyboard is open, and I’m using it and I’m like at Starbucks, people would read that. I also have a little one from LA and an LGBTQ one. There’s a lot of different stickers on there. And recently, I was out at the doctor. And as I was sitting in the doctor’s office, I realized using my iPad, I realized everybody could see my stickers. And it sort of made me embarrassed. Like I’m 50 years old, I have an iPad covered in stickers. And I thought to myself, this is the most authentic version of me, this feels fun. To me. I like getting the stickers. And I like when I get a new sticker. And sometimes I’ve had people give me stickers, and I put it on there. And that feels really fun. So showing up as you showing up as the most authentic version of you in every circumstance. You know, sitting there in that doctor’s office, I thought to myself, if I was a professional and I was at an office, this would seem sort of juvenile, like, why did I do this? And then I thought, what if? What if it’s totally fine? What if this is just me being me? And you know what? I’m a little quirky. And a little. I said yesterday, I was talking to a girlfriend and I said something about weird. And she said You call yourself weird a lot. And she said I think you’re cool. I think we’re cool. And I thought I really like that, you know, like the reframing of it. So what have you reframed what you think you have to hide? What if you tried to just show up as you and that was really cool. Okay, and number three, I got, relax, don’t be so uptight about situations. Know that it’s just a moment and moments can shift quickly into something else. That last point is also important because it signifies that results you can have, if unsavory have the opportunity to shift over and over again, things change much more quickly than you think they will use this to your advantage, believe it so that you can see it. And if you are in a happy place, expect it to only get better expect this to be your new normal. expect that to be your launching pad. And your launching pad has just changed and allow the level up to be permanent. So there’s a lot in there. Relax. You know, sometimes we get so uptight about situations thinking that this matters so deeply to the course of our life. When I look back over the past, you know, 510 years. When I look back in my journaling app, I journal in an app called day one and I can look on the day and see all the other times that I’ve written in this day. And sometimes when I go back I’m like I don’t even remember that happening. At the time, it was important enough for me to journal about it. But in the end, it was inconsequential to my life. What if I, what if I had just relaxed, right? not been so uptight about things? You know, I talk a lot about going to the beach moving to the beach, if you’ve been here for any amount of time, then you’ve heard me talk about that. And I think that my, my desire to go to the beach, maybe less about the outside, and more about the inside. And more, it may be more about not being so uptight about situations, you know, just being like, it’s cool. We’re at the beach, I always say you can never have a bad day at the beach. Even if it’s raining, it’s a great day, because you’re at the beach. And what if that was an internal state? What if I just never was too uptight about situations because I knew that it’s just a moment, and that moments can shift quickly into something else? And what if I just expected that? So if the moment came, and it wasn’t the most savory experience, I would just go, You know what? This is going to change so quickly. And then when it did change, I just celebrated that. Instead of lingering, lingering on the unsavory, noticing it, examining it? What if I just relaxed and I wasn’t so uptight. And I think that’s important, right? Because if results can change really quickly, more quickly than we think they will, then all we have to do is just get excited about the change that’s coming. And if we’re already in a good place, we can get excited about the uplevel that’s coming. You know, instead of fearing that it’s going to go back. I heard somebody say something recently about, you know, if you’re in an unhappy time, just know things will change. And if you’re in a happy time, be grateful, because things are gonna change. And that felt bad to me. I was like, I don’t want to be grateful, because things are going to get worse pretty soon. I want that to be my new normal. What if? What if your greatest moment today became your baseline for tomorrow? Why not? Honestly, what created the baseline you have now? If things can change, really quickly, then why don’t I just create this new up level as my baseline where I lift off from tomorrow, there’s no reason that I have to go back because I can just relax. Right? I can just relax and show up as me. And I can tell people what it is that I want, and what I need from them. And then I just focus where I want to be not worrying too much. If something shows up that is unwanted. It’s just there to redirect me to the wanted. expect things to only get better expect that this is your new normal. expect that your launching pad has changed and allow the up level to be permanent. I feel like there was a lot to think about there. I don’t know what about you? What’s your desire? And where do you want to meet the world? How do you want to view them and us? How do you want to experience change? Where do you want to focus? What’s the result? And how do you want to feel when your head hits the pillow at the end of the day? And even bigger? How do you want to feel at the end of your life? You know, how do you want to experience and say this is what happened in my life. I spent a lot of time focusing on things I couldn’t change. Or do you want to look back and feel like I always was searching for the better that I knew was coming. I always felt hopeful. Now we’re gonna have moments, right? Nobody’s perfect. We all have moments. I’ve had moments this past week. I’ve had some low moments. I’m like, I gotta get out of this apartment. I gotta get outside. Even though the beaches and out there I got to like make myself happy where I am. So that when the next thing comes, I can be happy there too. So it’s normal. But it’s also within our awareness, if it’s in within our awareness, it’s within our choice to make a new decision to make a new change and to see things differently. I can mold my own vision, right. And if I’m open to the sights and the sounds that align with my spirit, then I can create whatever it is that I want. And I can create an experience that’s, that’s way more robust, you know, way more fun. And that’s what I really want, I really want to have, I want to have some more fun. I don’t want to feel the heaviness and the weight of the world and the things that are happening. I want to work towards opening up that gate and creating that silvery thread that energy bridge that starts to bring the world together. So if you want to join me, and you want to dive in deeper, you can come into the alchemy collective mean, just go to my website and find it there. But we are doing that work together, focused on building those bridges, getting connected to ourselves healing. Really, really good work. And wherever you do that work, I think it’s important. So thank you so much for listening. Please share this episode if you felt like it called to you and maybe it could help someone else. You know, sharing. I love it when my friends send me You gotta listen to this podcast. You know, I think that’s how we start to expand how the world thinks. So thank you for being here. I love you so much. I’ll see you next week. Thank you so much for being here and for listening to today’s episode. If you liked it and got something out of it, please be sure to share with me by leaving a review over on iTunes. And if you’re not following on social media, I am everywhere at Betsy Pake but most of the time over on Instagram, so follow and comment on my latest post so that we can connect there. I will see you next week. And until then, keep living big