361: contrast for my next expansion - Betsy Pake

361: contrast for my next expansion


In todays episode Betsy shares some new about the show and what’s on the horizon. Tune in to this honest and insightful episode, as Betsy takes a break to focus on her new projects and invites listeners to join her in more intimate settings. Don’t miss out on this journey of personal growth and transformation!

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Welcome to the Art of Living big podcast. My name is Betsy pake. I’m an author, a speaker, and a trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. And I’m focused on helping you understand and design your life with the power of the subconscious. This podcast is designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big.

Hello fellow adventurers. Hi, everyone. I have I have been thinking, I’ve been struggling like, what should I talk about this week? What’s the show gonna be about like every day, as they get closer to when I would be recording? I’m like, Why should I talk about? You know, I have had, I’ve had this podcast for seven years. I talked about this last year, we just finished our seventh year. And I’ve shared a lot of stuff. And I’m like, I feel like I’m starting to say the same things again, which I think one does, if you’re talking every week, for seven years. So I’ve been struggling with what am I going to talk about. And then last night, in the middle of the night, I woke up, you know how you wake up sometimes in your thinking some random thing. And I was thinking

when I was in Iceland,

when I went to Iceland,

the one thing that made that experience really easy. This is a weird thing. But again, remember, I just woke up in the middle of the night and thought this, the thing that made it really easy was that the bed was so comfortable. Like every place we went, beds are like a big Nordic thing. They have these like thick pads on all beds, every Airbnb, I went to every hotel, and then they have tons of down pillows and comforters. I mean, every bed was like insanely comfortable. And I remember, at the time thinking like, This is so great, because every bed is so comfortable. I woke up thinking that was so great. Every bed was so comfortable.

And then as I laid there, I thought when I went to get my Master Practitioner certification for NLP years ago, I went to Philadelphia, and I stayed in an Airbnb with a few other girls. And the bed that I had was so terrible. And I’m not even like it’s not like it’s kind of uncomfortable, like it was almost an livable, they had like this super thin comforter, and I ended up sleeping on top of the comforter just to have padding. And it was it was so much better. Okay, so that’s how bad it was. So in the middle of the night, I wake up and I’m thinking, you know, Iceland, I appreciated that so much. Those were the most comfortable beds. And then I thought, remember those terrible beds in Philadelphia.

Those were awful. And it occurred to me, even though we hear this all the time, and we say this all the time. But it occurred to me that I appreciated the beds in Iceland so much more. Because I had such a terrible experience with the Airbnb beds when I was in Philadelphia. Now,

those were years apart. They weren’t close together. But because I woke up in the middle of the night thinking about it, which is when our unconscious mind is doing its sifting and sorting and weeding out and showing us things and making things obvious to us. You know, you’ve probably heard me talk before, about to about before you go to bed, writing a problem on a pad of paper, and just thinking about it before you go to sleep, and then allowing your unconscious mind to work on it.

Now I have been thinking about what am I going to talk about on the show. And then I woke up. And I thought about the bed. And I thought about how much more I appreciated the comfiness when I knew what it was like to not have that.

Now, why am I telling you all this?

I think number one, I think it’s totally true that our joy

expands when we allow ourselves to have other emotions. You know, when we stop having emotion, an unhappy emotion, uncomfortable emotion, negative emotion, things we don’t want to have. When we stop ourselves from experiencing those things.

Then we also stop ourselves from experiencing the joy and the happiness I want

wouldn’t if I every bed I’d ever been to was luxurious and the most comfortable Nordic thing I’d ever been in, that wouldn’t have seemed interesting to me. I wouldn’t have remembered it, I certainly wouldn’t have woke up in the middle of the night thinking about it, and it wouldn’t have made an impact. But because I had a bed that was crappy, it seemed so much better. And I think that when we expand this experience, I think, you know, I always say hello fellow adventurers, because I believe that we have chosen to come here on this adventure, right, we’ve chosen to come here and have the ups and the downs. But if we stop ourselves from having the downs, the ups are never the way that they could be. And we came here to have this whole huge wide range.


that’s one thing. That’s one thing I wanted to share. And the second thing was,

what am I going to, what am I going to talk about, and I think it’s time for a little hiatus. I just think it’s time for a little hiatus, I want to believe I’m going to come back, maybe I’ll come back in two weeks, that would be amazing. I want to be able to have good things to share with you. And right now, I’m super busy with the collective, if you want a private podcast, jump into the collective, every week, I’m teaching and we’re diving in so much deeper. So that’s an option if you want to do that.

And I’m diving into navigate, which is my program for women, where I’m helping them navigate whether they stay or leave their marriage and what that means for them. And I’m putting a lot of energy and focus there. And so maybe just a little hiatus for the fall, maybe we come back, like around the holiday. And start again, I am feeling like, like there’s

like, I don’t know what to share. I really am feeling like I don’t know what to share. And I don’t want to come on here every week and just babble about something I’ve already talked about or something that doesn’t make sense. And sometimes when we have a bad bed, sometimes when I’m if I’m not doing the show, then I might have the other expansion, where I get a lot of ideas. And I’ve you know, things are coming to me. And there’s a lot of things to share. So

it is just a sabbatical, a hiatus for a short time. But I wanted to do an episode, just to kind of let you know that that’s how I’m feeling right now.

Please join the collective you can get, you can still get me every week. And that is just such a more intimate container. You can come live while I record. And we talk and you also get access to you know the bulk of my courses. So you can go to my website and join the collective. And if you’re at a place and you’re a woman and you are struggling with do I stay or do I go in this marriage and you want to get on the phone with me, you know, shoot me a message, shoot me an email, we can have a conversation through email, see if a phone call is the next great step for you.

So, thank you. Thank you so much for being on this journey with me. I hope to see you soon. Come find me on Instagram on all the places and I love you so much. Thank you. Thank you for being here with me. All right, bye, everyone.


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About Betsy

Hi I’m Betsy and I’m a subconscious change expert.
By day you can find me digging deep into the unconscious beliefs and identity of my clients so they can move past self-sabotage and lack of confidence and gain traction in their career and life.