286: What is Healing? - Betsy Pake

286: What is Healing?


Wouldn’t it be great if your natural reaction when things come up was to heal them, instead of letting them stick with you? In this episode, Betsy talks about her version of healing and her favorite methods she uses to remove obstacles.

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Hello fellow adventurers. Hi, everybody. Welcome to the show today. Thanks for being here. Thanks for coming in here new people. I will say I just I checked recently, this weekend, I got a couple messages that people left some new reviews on the show. And I just want to thank you so much for doing that. I think it’s helpful for new people to know if a show is like worth their time, when they can just go and see like reviews and recent reviews. So thank you, but also, you know, I’m here I’m in Iceland, I’m sitting in a bedroom, I actually borrowed one of the rooms of one of my housemates because it was way down on the other end of the Airbnb, and like back near the sauna, where it’s just quiet and where my room is, would just be way too loud, you’d have a whole bunch of background sounds. And so I was sitting here and I was like, I’m gonna record. And I guess people are listening, right? And I go to the reviews, see that there’s reviews. And I’m like, Thank you, thank you, thank you. Because sometimes it’s like, you know, I’m just talking into a microphone by myself. And so it’s really helpful for me to Well, everybody likes to be appreciated, right? So it’s nice to be appreciated. But it is helpful for me to like, imagine you and know that you’re listening and that you’ll probably hear this episode. So thank you, thank you so much for leaving a review. And just for being here with me today. So I am here in Iceland, and I was scrolling. I feel like I’m just like scrolling on Instagram. And I feel like the Instagram algorithm. I don’t know, I know, they changed things recently. But I feel like it’s getting better. It’s getting better. You’re seeing more like themes of things. I don’t know if that’s my imagination. I know with Tik Tok, it’s amazing, like it knows you, which has a level of creepiness to it too. But it just knows me. And it just shows me stuff I like I can see all like home decor stuff. And pets, farm animals, people that own monkeys, I add that it knows me and it gives me what I want, right, which I appreciate. And then I noticed on Instagram that I was getting things that were like more aligned and closer to the kinds of things that I would like. So I’m scrolling and I’m like noticing that. And then I noticed there was one of these, it was like one of those like quantum magic sites that’s run by like a mystery person, you know, so it’s not like an individual run an individual that you can see on Instagram, it’s just like a bunch of quotes and things to think about. And you know what I’m talking about. So I see one, and it’s about how the world is changing, and everybody is healing, that there’s this, this wave of healing, and you can be part of the wave of healing. And then the next post I got to was about healing and tsunami. So I’m gonna say that wrong. Did I just say that wrong tsunami? So you guys know what I mean? Like the healing like through your body, like with breath work and that kind of thing. I don’t know why I can’t. I feel like there’s so I’m hanging out with all these people from different countries, right. So I’m here in Iceland. I’m going to pause the story for one second. So I’m here in Iceland. I’m here with people from Italy, Germany, Hungary, Sweden, Portugal. So I feel like
I feel like I don’t know the word for something, which is so weird, because they’re all speaking English. But I am finding this. I don’t know what kind of phenomenon that is. Anyway. So I’m scrolling. I’m seeing all this stuff, all this stuff about healing, and how you should be healing and you should heal and time to heal. And all of a sudden, it occurred to me that maybe people don’t really know what that is. Right? Sometimes there’s things that I hear about all the time, and I’m like, what is it? And I wanted to talk today on the show about healing about my version of healing and the things that I do the things that I have found helpful. And to kick it off, I’ll say there’s loads of things that I don’t know about, right? There’s loads of ways that you can heal out there. So what is it when I talk about healing, I’m assuming it’s what other people are talking about too. But when I talk about healing, I’m talking about the things that are showing up in our lives that are holding us away from love. So the stories We have in our heads that are holding us away from love, the experiences that we are perceiving that are holding us back from love. The things that we’ve experienced in the past traumas, or any kind of disappointments or regrets, or anger, sadness, fear, hurt, guilt, any of those things that are holding us back from what it is that we really are, which is love. You know, I don’t know if you guys have ever done A Course in Miracles, I did an episode on it way, way back early on. And I can put it in the show notes. But it was like one of the first, I don’t know probably 50 or 60 episodes on A Course in Miracles. So sometimes you’ll see it like a see I am A Course in Miracles. And if you’re not familiar with that, of course in miracles was channeled back in the 70s, I think it was. And it’s basically like this really thick blue book, you may have seen it now that I’m talking about it. But it is channeled from Dr. Thetford and another woman, I forget her name off the top of my head. But they channeled the work. And by channeled I mean, they started getting messages, the woman that actually wrote it all out, you’ll notice their names are not on the course because they didn’t want to be associated. They just felt like it was coming through them. Anyway, they worked together there the environment that they worked at, it was like UCLA or something like that was not healthy. They had the woman started having this feeling she was getting like these downloads, and she started typing and Bill Thetford helped her put all this out on paper. And from what I understand the Course in Miracles, as it is has never been edited. So it’s it came out perfectly. And what it is it’s it’s several separate books, but there is a component of it a part of it that is 365 lessons. So there’s one for every single day, and you read one every day, and it’s almost like it, it teaches you and pulls you through so that it says almost like could you believe this little mustard seed, and the first day you can and so then the next day it expands on it. And then the next day expands on that. So that like the more you go. And the deeper you go, the more it starts to really shift the way that you think now, the goal of A Course in Miracles is to bring you closer to love.
I think a huge part of it is forgiveness. And it’s about releasing the things that are standing in the way of you getting to love, I believe and the course teaches that we are love. We are like a pure piece of source energy. But we’ve created all of these stories and these things that keep us from that. So my belief is that healing is removing those things that are keeping it from us. And those things show up for us in this physical reality like regret and fear, and hurt and guilt and sadness and all of those things. And so in whatever way that we want to process, then we can remove those things. And it brings us closer to love. You know, this is the work that Marianne Williamson teaches from A Course in Miracles, Gabby Bernstein teaches directly from A Course in Miracles. So I’ve also had Pam grout on the show. And she made a book, she wrote a book called The Course in Miracles experiment. And she simplifies it because the book is kind of heavy. You know, it’s like a lot to take in. I’ve done it for five years, I think this is I think this might be my fifth year or maybe it’s my sixth year going through it. But I have found it really helpful to read the course and then to read Pam’s version as well, because it gives me a little bit of a shift on things. So it I hear the way the court says it which is like a little complex, you know, and then I can read Pam’s version, which like makes it really fun and simple. And she relates it to some pop culture thing and you go, Oh, I get it, right. But the whole idea of it is to bring you closer to love. And so I believe that when we are thinking about healing, and we’re scrolling through and we’re saying like heal, heal, the world is healing, you better get on the healing train or whatever people are saying, I really think that that is if you would like to experience heaven on earth, then healing and getting closer to Heaven, which is pure love is the best way, the best course of action. And we can get there are a lot of different ways. So I want to talk about some of the different ways that I use healing to remove obstacles, keeping me from love now. What Does that look like in the physical world, right? It looks like I really want to be a leader in my field, but I have a lot of feelings of insecurity or I’m not confident enough, right. So if I can heal things, I can remove those. I’m using air quotes, those blocks, those things that are, that are skewing my vision, keeping me from knowing that I’m love. So I set it that way, in a really specific for a really specific reason. The fact that you are a piece of source energy and your love does not change, just because you don’t understand it, or don’t acknowledge it, or accept it, don’t accept it. Right? That doesn’t change. Right. So, you know, just because you don’t accept that you are fully whole, a full piece of source energy of full embodiment of love, and everything that that is, doesn’t mean it’s not true, I believe it is true. And one of the things I always say is I can see my clients as whole. And so helping them to navigate past go through heal the things that are standing in their way of seeing that is really the work that I do, and the work that I teach other people how to do. And I think that there are multiple layers to this. So I think there are two different sides, there’s the body side. And you know, I know there’s a really good book out, I have not read it, but I’ve heard a lot of people talk about it called the body keeps score. And really, it’s about like, when you experience trauma, your body is holding on to a lot of that trauma. So even if you’ve mentally done the work and gone to therapy and done all this stuff, if something happens, your body can still respond to it in a way that’s triggered, right. And so doing a lot of the work through your body can be really helpful. So one side is the body. The other side is our unconscious mind. And I believe that a lot of healing when we go to therapy and all of that. Like we’re consciously having a conversation. But the healing comes from making a shift, unconsciously releasing some emotions, right, letting them go by releasing, I don’t mean emoting. I mean like not having those negative emotions anymore. Also, I want to say negative emotions, I’m labeling it negative, I think, you know what I mean, but every emotion is neutral, right? So it’s just how we’re experiencing it. Okay, so we’ve got the body side, we’ve got the mind side, there’s two different things. And I do not know every single healing modality. So I’m not, this is not an all inclusive list, you may have amazing things that have worked for you. And that is awesome. And I think there’ll be more ways that we can heal and more things that come into our awareness and into the world, as people are creative, and they discover things that really work. So I know for me breath work has been really, really amazing. Doing breath work, I have done breath work, and I’m certified in breath work through a company called Revelation breathwork. And they have a really great membership. And I’m a member. And so you can take breathwork classes at any time, I like to do them on Sunday night. So I think it’s really helpful to have like a regular schedule where you do them once a week. But you can go and just take one class, so you can try it out. I find breathwork especially revelation breathwork to be so fun, because they use music that’s like, you know, just catchy and popular, right? So it’s not like instrumental or if they have a component where you can have a primal scream. So basically, you breathe and there’s a very specific way that you’re breathing. And after about, I don’t know, maybe 15 or 20 minutes, a song comes on, it’s like the always the perfect song that they have queued up that that gives you the space to actually I like to put a pillow over my face, and just scream into the pillow and when I’m done. It is such a release, it feels so good and my body’s exhausted and I just feel so much lighter than then there’s a few more of the deep breathing songs and then you just go back to your regular breath. And honestly, you wake up or you get up and you spend the next few days in like a little peace of bliss feels really great. So check them out. I’ll put the link to Revelation breathwork in the show notes, but you can find them on Instagram too. I follow them so if you go to the people I follow on Instagram, you can find them so really, really powerful.
So you’ve been listening to my podcast and you’ve been hearing me talk about Ways to master your subconscious. Maybe you’ve been really curious about how you can learn this too, and maybe even create a business of your own to help other people transform their lives as well. If you’d like to become board certified in six different certifications, we have it all for you inside the alchemy Institute, you can go at your own pace with our on demand training, or you can attend live events. Find out more over at our website, the alchemy institute.co. That’s the alchemy Institute debts, see, oh, I’ll see you over there. So I know that there are a lot of different ways that we can use our body, you know, I think yoga is a great way, stretching, right moving through things, I actually believe that any kind of exercise can really help us to process emotion, especially if we do the exercise. It actually, let me say it in this way, our empathy goes way up after we’ve exercised. And so I think that that empathy extends to ourselves. It’s not just empathy for others. And I think if we had a really great workout, and then we came in, and we meditated, or we took the time to release in some of the other ways I’m going to talk about but release some emotion, it can be just a really incredible experience, because you have a lot more empathy for yourself. So I don’t know if you if I’ve talked about that before. But empathy goes way up.
You know, it might be something that you try if you go for a really long walk, and then you come back in, and you just sit with yourself, and you just see what’s coming up. Because sometimes the things that come up, sometimes those things that come up are stories. And if you have a lot of empathy about for yourself, and you hear the story in a different way. And you say to yourself, like no, that’s not true, you know, you weren’t a freakin idiot. Like you were just being human. You know what I mean? So sometimes, just having that space where you have that empathy, and then revisiting something that’s coming up for you, but allow it to come up, don’t go digging, just sit, just sit, set a timer for five minutes, be like, I’m going to sit for five minutes and just see what comes up. And it might be somebody that you need to forgive, you know, it might be something about yourself, who knows what will come up, but just allow it and then see it from a lens of a whole lot more empathy, and allow it to bring you closer to who you are closer to love. So I also love and this is moving into like the mind stuff. Emotional Freedom Technique, which is tapping. I discovered this years ago and back in one of the early episodes. And I know I’m referencing a lot of episodes lately, but back in one of the early episodes, I had a guy on that talked about tapping. Now I had just discovered tapping now I actually train people to become EFT, certified as coaches to use it in their coaching practice. But tapping is really, I’ve been trained in EFT and TFT, which are very, very closely related. EFT is so simple. And the reason that I love it so much is because it’s so simple. It’s really tapping on meridian points on your face and your neck that are the natural self soothing points. So I don’t know if when you guys get scared when I get scared or something. Or if something awful happens. And I go, like, I don’t know if you could tell the just by the sound of my voice just then like how my my hand went up to like my collarbone. You know, I’m talking about. So like, oh my gosh, like that is a natural self soothing point. That’s why we do that. And so we can tap right there. And it actually calms us down. What it does is it tells my nervous system, hey, you’re thinking about that thing. That was really awful. And you had a reaction to it in your body. The let me just tell you that it’s okay. And I’m soothing you while you’re thinking about it. We can use this I use tapping for everything. I mean, just I try it with everything. So I use tapping with changing beliefs, limiting beliefs, right things that are holding me back to help me change my story. So if I have a story in my head about my life that’s not serving me I want to soothe myself through it, because there’s a reason why I have it. And the reason why I have the story is because of pain. Right? So the pain is there and if I can release that I can kind of soothe myself to say I can have a different story. So EFT is really great. Another one that I love is hypnosis. Obviously, I train people to become I’m a hypnotherapist, but I love it. I when I learned hypnosis, I created my own hypnotherapy tracks for myself, I would create new ones once a week that would work specifically on the things that I wanted to work on. It was magical and amazing and truly changed my life. Hypnosis is just simply meditation with a focus, all it is, is you get really, really super relaxed, and you’re focused on one specific thing giving you an outcome. So this can be really powerful when you’re trying to change a story. When you’re trying to uplevel when you’re trying to create something new. This is healing because you’re letting go of something that’s held you back, and it’s bringing you closer to a place of love. Right to a place of wholeness. I you know, I always say to people come through the alchemy Institute, if you want to do personal development, because you’ll learn how to make those and how to do that. I just think it’s so powerful. So many of my friends that I have met through my trainings, in NLP and hypnotherapy, we’re doing it just simply to learn for themselves. And I think the NLP tools, law chefs kiss, like if you could learn those for yourself and start to heal. Okay, so EFT, hypnosis.
I really love and I know I talked about this all the time, but I really really love NLP, I love using the way that we’re talk to ourselves. I love using communication, I love using visuals, to help me reshape what it is that I want. There are so many places where we hold things in our unconscious minds, where we hang on to things where we store things, and the just the storage space alone, I’m gonna explain what I mean, just the storage space alone being shifted completely changes your representation of the thing. And that changes how you experience it. So let me say that whole thing in a different way. Anytime I have anything that I can think about in my life, I typically am going to say unless you’re like us very tiny, tiny percentage might not. But 99.9% of people are going to have an image. So you’ve got an image of what that thing is, right. So think about anything, think about a doughnut, you have an image right of what that is a picture of a donut, you also have a place in your unconscious mind where you store it. And we can actually change where you store it in your unconscious mind. Just put it in a different place, I could put it over where like violins are stored. And that would change how I experienced the donut. Donut might be like, amazing, you might store it in a place that makes you feel like oh my god, that’s so amazing and warm, and I love the donut. The donut is love might bring you closer to love. If I move it over to violins, it might mean school. Like it might mean something like music class, like it might mean something totally different. And you won’t experience the doughnut in the same place in the same way. So this is so powerful and healing, because so many of the things that we’re experiencing as negative, or neutral, right, it’s all neutral, but it’s how we’re storing it. And with NLP, there are some really fast, amazing techniques to be able to restore and move things to a different place and experience them differently. And I think that once clients understand how to do this, and I do it with them, then they learn it and then they can do it themselves. I was talking to a client the other day actually someone in the institute that’s learning in the institute. And she was saying she woke up doing it in bed the other day. So she had identified something in her sleep because she’s thinking so much about this, identified it and just moved, it just became a natural reaction, which wouldn’t that be great if your natural reaction when things came up was to just heal them? Instead of instead of like, think about them for 30 minutes and then eat them and then drink them and then internet shop them? Do you see what I’m saying? The healing. I say it’s like healing on the fly. Like if you could be healing on the fly so powerful. The other thing that is super powerful. Maybe if I only had one thing in the whole world, it would be this. It’s something called time techniques. And it’s something that I teach inside the institute, that our unconscious mind stores all of our past memories, it remembers everything and knows everything, even if you don’t consciously remember, even if you aren’t aware that you could remember, you know you’re in a busy restaurant. There’s 36 other conversations going around on around you. And you’re actually recording those, any of them that you can hear you’re recording them and it also has a representation for your future, I know. So if you could imagine what do I think is going to happen? Like you have a goal, I promise that if you could really get in touch with yourself and like how you feel, if you have a goal in the future, there might be part of you that you just know, you’re not going to hit it. You don’t even know how you know, you just know. And that sucks. Because it might be something really great might be something that would improve the world. I know. Because if you improve you, you improve the world. So imagine, then, if you’ve got this thing that you know isn’t going to work, but you can’t figure out why but you keep trying. And then you feel like poof, because it doesn’t work. And you’re like I knew it wouldn’t work. The reason that you knew and your body knew and there was something in you that just knew. And vice versa, sometimes you just know it’s going to is because your unconscious mind has a path for the future. And it creates that path based on what’s happened in the past. And so we can rearrange, not delete, can’t delete stuff, but we can rearrange your representation of the things that we perceive as negative. And when we do that, it releases a whole bunch of hold. It’s almost like, you know, when you go to Ticketmaster and you put tickets in the, in your cart, and it holds them and it’s like holding for four minutes and 59 seconds, and it starts counting down. And you have to make a decision before the thing runs out. Well, it’s holding all of this space for that. So now if I don’t have those things in my cart, if I don’t have anger and fear and hurt and guilt in my cart, then those all that space is freed up for me to add a new ticket, the ticket that I choose in the perfect seat in the perfect location, at the perfect venue at the perfect price. And I can only do that if I’m clearing things out and implanting
what I want into the future and that word implanting can feel really unsteady for people sometime. It’s really, you helping your unconscious mind accepting that it’s safe for that to happen. That if that happens, that’s really good. And then nothing bad’s gonna happen. Remember, my unconscious mind just wants me to be alive. That’s it’s like mean derivative. That’s like the main thing it’s trying to do. So if I’m having some thing that, like maybe when I think about a goal, I get excited. But there’s also like this nerve thing that happens. Excitement, nervous, very similar. And so then there’s part of me that goes, Ah, do I want that? I’m not sure my unconscious brain will go no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, you don’t if you’re not sure, we don’t want it. No, because it thinks that’s unsteady. So if we can clear in time technics does this, we can actually clear it’s so powerful. And so cool, clear out the past implant, what we want in the future, changes everything, it changes your day to day experience, it changes the things that you that come into your awareness, it changes the people that you notice, that could give you what it is that you want. So really, really powerful. So when we hear about healing, and when you see that, I want you to just think about all of these tools, and these things, and you probably have a whole laundry list, maybe two that you have used. I know I’ve have a lot more than that. But those are the ones I love the most. Those are the ones I use, like almost on a daily basis. And those are the ones have impacted my life, and really changed my life. Changed my life. You know, eight years ago, I was had owned a gym that I hated. And I, I opened it because everybody said I should do it. And I thought I should I wasn’t listening into myself, I had so many things where I was trying to create worth by having accomplishment and just it wasn’t working for me. And when I got a new vision and I started to heal, and learn and change things and and moved through my journey where now I understand how I can use the word manipulate, but no manipulate energy, and what I’m focused on and actually direct my focus so that it’s not just going where it’s always been now. Now I’m sitting here in Iceland, with nine strangers I met on the internet for an adventure for a month. You know what I mean? Like everything can change because your fear goes away. Right your your need to do things in a certain way can shift and change. Your stories change. So doing This work can be so, so incredible. So if you need a coach, message me, I can connect you with someone from my institute or if I have space, I can work with you. And if you want to learn the tools join us in the alchemy Institute. It’s an incredible experience. And for you to be able to have all this and to be able to share it with your friends and, and your family just to help your kids. I mean, I think even teaching kids EFT, I just think about if we knew all this stuff, when we were when we were young, you know, how different and how much more opportunity we would have really, really incredible. So I think when you start to learn the tools and do the healing and understand that is how you live a big life. Thank you so much for being here with me. I appreciate you so much. And I will see you all soon. Bye. Hey, thanks so much for listening to today’s show. And thank you for sharing the show with your friends. I love when you guys do that. I appreciate it so much. And thank you for leaving me a review on iTunes. I know that it matters because when I go to find a podcast, I always look to see what the reviews are. So it really means a lot to me that you take a minute to like figure out how to even make that happen. Now, if you want to find me find me on social media, I’m usually on Instagram, starting out on Tik Tok. It’s just my name Betsy Paik and that’s my website to Betsy pic calm, and you can find out all about the work that I do. having me speak for an event that you might be helping to plan or getting trained inside my alchemy Institute. But to make it really easy, if you want me just shoot me a DM shoot me a direct message on Instagram and I will be at your service. Thanks again for listening. And I will see you all next week.


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About Betsy

Hi I’m Betsy and I’m a subconscious change expert.
By day you can find me digging deep into the unconscious beliefs and identity of my clients so they can move past self-sabotage and lack of confidence and gain traction in their career and life.