358: What if you DO deserve it? - Betsy Pake

358: What if you DO deserve it?


In todays episode Betsy shares a voice she heard while she was in trace that told her a secret she needs you to know. This one needs to be shared with your friends, please, so they know the truth too.


Welcome to the Art of Living big podcast. My name is Betsy pake. I’m an author, a speaker, and a trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. And I’m focused on helping you understand and design your life with the power of the subconscious. This podcast is designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big.

Hello fellow adventurers. Hi, everyone. Welcome to the show today. So I’m sitting here having my coffee. It has been cool in Atlanta, like the last couple of days in the morning when I’ve gotten up. And I’ve sat on the porch, and it’s been actually cool. Today, I sat out there and I was like, Oh, my God, it feels cold, which I have to tell you, I am so excited for fall, like I’m so excited to not be melting, I just feel like the summer has been so bad. So I’m sitting here. And if you’ve been here for a little while, you know that a couple months ago, I moved into a house that’s like 100 years old, in Atlanta, in Atlanta. So I’m in my office, and I’m like, it’s cooler outside than it is inside, I’m gonna open the window. And some of the windows open, and some of them don’t, because the windows are original. And I don’t know if you guys have ever lived in, in an old house. But when I was growing up, the house that I lived in, was built around the same time as this house. And when I was growing up that house, the windows were very hard to get up and down. And they were on a pulley system.

So I went to open the window this morning and one of them wouldn’t open and the other one opened right up. But I could hear it was a pulley system. And I could hear the weights inside the wall clinging together. I don’t know, it was actually kind of wonderful. And I knew that the windows were old before when I bought the house, but some of them are new, and some of them are old. But I was like this, it feels so magical. The little clanging I don’t know, it just brought me joy, as I was getting ready to record. Alright, so I want to share with you a little something that

has been a shift for me. And I’m hoping that maybe it could be a shift for you too.


if you have been here for a little while, you’ve heard me mention it. Years ago, I used to own a CrossFit gym, right, and I was really in shape. And that was a big part of my life. And then as things changed in my life, and I could tell you a lot of reasons. I gained weight, and I’m in my 50s. And I lost some weight last year and have kept it off. But there’s more to go. And more importantly,

I don’t want to suffer to lose it. So I keep like asking myself like Are you ready? Are you ready to lose it but I don’t want to I don’t want to do what I think I’m using air quotes I would need to do in order to get rid of it. I’m just like focused on other things, and I want to be happy. And we just moved to this area and we’re going to new restaurants and trying new things. And I don’t want to be worried. I don’t want to be thinking about it. I don’t want to have that be like the biggest thing in my life. Like I I just want to live my life and be joyful. And if that means that I’m a size eight instead of a size four, then I don’t know. I just feel like that’s fine.

And there is still that part of me that’s like what I feel better. Sometimes I see pictures, and I’m very short. If you

don’t know me in real life, lots of times people know me online, and then they meet me in real life. And they’re like, oh my god, I had no idea you were that short. I’m very short. Okay. So I’m very short. So five pounds on me looks like a lot, right? So I might only have like 15 pounds to lose. But it looks like what 40 pounds would look like on a person that’s like five, seven, you know what I mean? So I’m like, there’s not a lot to go. And I just like I don’t, you know, I want to just be happy. So this episode really isn’t about weight or weight loss, but it’s how I got to the thing that I want to tell you.

So I decided that I needed to shift how I was thinking and I have the belief in you don’t have to have this belief. But I have the belief that our our unconscious minds know, our perfect Blueprint for Health. And if you guys listen to Louise Hay if you’re familiar with her, and she talks a lot about how things will manifest in our bodies. Right so we have an emotion and that manifests in

Our bodies. And years ago, I got certified in Emotion Code, which is all about moving emotion out of your body. And I found that work to be so profound. So I’ve got the NLP stuff, right, and the brain and all of that. And then I have this Emotion Code, which is more like this idea of emotion settling in your body, and we move them out with intention, basically, but getting an awareness of them, addressing them, and then moving them out of your body. Okay, so, so I’ve got that side. And I have been diving into somatic healing, so like really regulating my nervous system, and what does that look like? I’m bringing that work into my other programs into the Institute and into the collective to be doing that with clients in there. And I have found this like, insanely impactful, like, really fun. Okay, so calming my nervous system, changing the mindset around stuff. And so I thought, you know, I wonder what would happen if I just calmed my nervous system, and I did

a whole bunch of NLP around my Wait, like, I wonder if I’m holding on to weight? Not because I’m eating too much. Because I’m not I don’t, I don’t have food chatter. I know some people have like a lot of food. I don’t feel like I eat just so that I’m not hungry, like so I can get back to doing what I want. I’m not like a big.

Like, I’m not thinking about food all day. Like I haven’t even eaten breakfast. It didn’t occur to me until just this second, right? So I’ve had some coffee, and it’s 830. I’ve been up since six. So like, it doesn’t occur to me. So that’s not my thing. So I’m like, maybe there’s emotions and things that I’m hanging on to and the weight is serving me. Right, it’s serving me to take care of that.

This is turning into a weight episode. And that was not the intention. But But hang with me here. So I got this book, it’s called the only diet there is it’s by Sam Sondra Ray, if you guys know who she is, the only diet there is. But it’s about a diet from negative emotion is what it’s about. But she focuses on your body in the exercises. Okay, so I have been doing them. It’ll take me months to go through this book. Because I’m one that like, if there are exercises or journaling prompts or anything, I will do it right, I will do it and I’ll do NLP on it. Like I won’t move through it till I’ve moved through it to me to like consume the whole book isn’t important as much as me getting what I need out of it. Right? Okay, so.

So the idea that I have to share with you today is actually much shorter than that whole discussion. But this morning, I got the book out. I had read through it last night, I just started to over the weekend. And then this morning, I’m like, I’m going to start doing these exercises. And so in the exercises, you write down the affirmation, and you write it down 10 times. So I’m gonna explain to you what I mean. So you write down this, this phrase, and she gives you the phrases, you write it down, and then you write what’s coming up for you. So like, what’s the thing in your mind that goes, no, no way. And then you write it down again, and then you write down what’s coming up in your mind. So on the left hand side of the paper are the affirmations. And on the right side, is all the things that your brain says. It’s fascinating how and I have done this years ago, when I was before I learned NLP and new, like sort of faster ways to do things. I did this, but I found this fascinating because it brought up so many things that I could shift faster with NLP that would have been hidden. So here’s one of the quotes I deserve to maintain my perfect weight of and then you insert your perfect weight. And then

what’s the thing that comes up for me? And the things that were coming up for me is like, well, I’m older now. Like, that was my perfect weight, like during my own whole life, but now I’m older. Or the next thing that came up like is that really my perfect weight?

Was the weight I was for 20 years. So I’m guessing right?

I deserve to make I read it again. I deserve to maintain my perfect weight. And

I wrote down I only deserve it if I earn it. Now, you would think that okay, so I went through that whole thing, okay. The next phrase was I deserve to maintain my perfect weight of no matter what I eat. Now, in my mind, there are three places that I could get hung up in this, okay. One is no matter what I eat, like you could be like, well, that’s ridiculous, right? You could say like is that? This is my perfect weight. Like is that really my perfect weight? Like that’s a second place I could get hung up

up. But the place that I found that I was getting hung up as I went through dozens and dozens of these was the part of I deserve. I deserve to. And it was, there were so many things about, you don’t deserve it until you earn it. Nobody deserves anything. You don’t just get things for free. You know, right. You want your money for nothing and your chicks for free. I was like, This is so fascinating. I didn’t know I had a deserving issue.

Right. And I wonder if you do too, I wonder if

and I think sometimes about like, my generation,

and the

patterns that and thought, ideas that we were fed, growing up based on like, where our parents were and what they had experienced, right, so we’re getting all of our beliefs and values and ideas from people that are important to us when we’re young. And those people were just people just like us, and they had been brought up in a different way at a different time than us. And so this idea of you’ve got to work really hard to get what you want. Nobody deserves anything without, like for free.


I was so really shocked when this pattern started showing up that that’s where I was getting hung up. I wasn’t getting hung up on the weight I wasn’t getting hung up on, like, no matter how much I eat, would you think that would be the thing? But it wasn’t. And so I sat with it. And I thought, all right, well, we’re gonna do some NLP on that. And in NLP, there is a process.

And if you’re an NLP person, called mapping across, and so I thought, well, maybe I’ll start with map across. And then as I started working on that, I was like, No, I’m going back in time to find out the very first time that I felt this. And so with NLP, the thing that I love about it is you don’t have to know what it is that you’re healing, you don’t have to know like the situation. So I go back in time, I’m just using my unconscious mind to say, this is where I’m going back to, I don’t have to know why I don’t have to know what’s happening. I don’t have to know anything. So I went back to that time, which was when I was about two years old. And all I did was kind of hover over that moment. And there’s a process that we take people through to do this, if you’re in the collective.

We’ve done some of this work in there. But you can absolutely jump into the membership. And

I do a 15 minute call with everybody and we can talk about it. So I go back in time, I’m hovering over this moment. And it’s me as a baby, right or as a little kid, two years old. And then I realized down there is anger, like I’m really angry, and I have released so many negative emotions. I was like that’s really interesting that there’s so much anger down there. And so I looked into my timeline to find the very first time that I felt anger. So this is a process that we do and I went back to anger two weeks old, and I’m looking down. And I see this little baby crying, and nobody’s picking me up. And I was really one of the things that we do when we’re hovering over as we wait for our unconscious mind to give us lessons. And I was waiting. Like, I was like, Alright, what’s the lesson in this? What’s the lesson in this there, I can see this little baby crying and I’m so angry like mad, mad, mad, right?

And all of the sudden, I had a really interesting experience because it wasn’t what typically happens. So then I’ll pee. But all of a sudden, I felt myself whooshing down into that experience, but I was an adult, and there was a different baby there.

And the baby was crying and I immediately picked up the baby and thought the baby deserves to be comforted.

Right? The baby deserves to be

like comforted while they’re crying.

And I noticed they had a blanket around them and I thought they deserve to be warm. They deserve to be taken care of. Like they deserve to and all of the sudden

it it felt it there was a voice

and I’m almost gonna cry.

The voice This is and this is the purpose of this podcast. The voice said

you chose to come down here.

And you know I always say welcome fellow adventurers because I believe we’re adventures we choose to come and have this

Experience the highs, the lows, it’s, it’s risky, right? There’s a lot of things that can go wrong, there’s a lot of things that can go right we can have a wide range of experiences. And I heard, because not everybody chooses to come down because you chose to come.

You are deserving

the prize, the prizes that you get everything you want, the prizes that this experience gets to go the exactly the way that you wanted to go, you deserve to be fed and cared for and warm and comforted and to have the experiences that you want and to see the world in the way that you want and to live in the way that you want. That’s what you deserve. You deserve it as you don’t have to do anything to deserve it.

You don’t have to accomplish anything. And I know that you’re our our 3d world is like, No, you do you have to work you have to make money you have to do, but what if you just deserve to have those experiences, but then it was our programming of our parents and all of the world and everything that told us we had to do a certain amount of stuff in order to deserve those experiences. But those experiences are inherent. Those Those the comfort, the, the living up to to maintain my perfect weight of whatever, and eat whatever I want. Like what if? What if we’ve got it wrong?

What if we’ve got it wrong, but because we believe it’s so deeply that maybe you’re fighting me in your head, that that you can’t have it the way that it is real?

You can’t have it the way that is real because you’re fighting for the way you’ve been told it is?

Just what like just what if? What if that voice heard is right?

What would you do differently?

How would you act?

How would you respond to things? What would you be triggered by if you believed what I just said? Your your actions would be totally different. And you get a totally different result.

So what if we all just start believing that we’re inherently worthy of all the things we want?

All the ways we want it? All the experiences we came here to have? That’s the prize is that you get to have it any way you want.

I don’t know. What do you think?

I think that this might be the next level of living big.

All right. I love you guys so much. Thank you for being here. You deserve it inherently. It’s your prize. Take it. Bye bye. See you next week.

Hey, thanks so much for listening to today’s show. And thank you for sharing the show with your friends. I love when you guys do that. I appreciate it so much. And thank you for leaving me a review on iTunes. I know that it matters because when I go to find a podcast, I always look to see what the reviews are. So it really means a lot to me that you take a minute to like figure out how to even make that happen. Now, if you want to find me find me on social media, I’m usually on Instagram, starting out on Tik Tok. It’s just my name. Betsy pake, and that’s my website to Betsy pake.com. And you can find out all about the work that I do. having me speak for an event that you might be hoping to plan or getting trained inside my alchemy Institute. But to make it really easy, if you want me just shoot me a DM, shoot me a direct message on Instagram and I will be at your service. Thanks again for listening. And I will see you all next week.


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About Betsy

Hi I’m Betsy and I’m a subconscious change expert.
By day you can find me digging deep into the unconscious beliefs and identity of my clients so they can move past self-sabotage and lack of confidence and gain traction in their career and life.