In this episode Betsy shares three things she heard during deep streaming that she’s using to guide her over the next 12 weeks to expansion, thriving and having more energy for life and all the things she wants to experience.
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Welcome to the Art of Living big podcast. My name is Betsy pake. I’m an author, a speaker, and a trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. And I’m focused on helping you understand and design your life with the power of the subconscious. This podcast is designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hi, everyone. Welcome fellow adventurers. Hi, I hope you’re having a good week. I missed last week, I wanted to do today’s episode and tell you about a little experiment that I’m doing. And it kind of feeds into last week. I sometimes I start these episodes, and I’m like, this isn’t going to be very long. And watch this be like a 45 minute one, but I don’t think this one’s going to be very long. So if you’ve been here for a little while, you have heard the episode with my daughter that I think now was recorded, you know, maybe two years ago. And we talked about some of her mental health issues that she shared. And she wanted to come on the show. If you listen to that episode, you’ll hear I was hesitant to have her on. But she is an adult and she wanted to talk about it. And I think it’s really great to destigmatize mental health, right, and mental health issues. So this week has been really hard. This has been really, really hard. And I decided that I was going to be as how do i i want to say joyful. And I know that sounds like a really strange word to use. But one of the things that I learned when I got COVID, back in July, and I don’t know if you remember me saying like, I felt so good when I came out of it. Like, I felt better than I’d felt in years. In years. Years and years and years, I felt this surge of energy. And I felt this, like incredible sense of enjoyment and happiness around the work that I do. And I’ve started showing up differently on social media in places where I would create content, like I just felt so good. And I realized in that that a component of me not feeling good. Why I had such contrast was because I have been pushing a lot. And you know, I talk about being in the moment and being in now and flowing through things. And I feel like I do a really good job with that. I also feel like I have a list of things that I’m trying to accomplish. And I approach that list of things, very corporate tea, right, like there is a list and there is a date that that has to be done. And come hell or high water, that thing has to be accomplished and checked off the list. And, you know, I think it has led me to realize that sometimes I was doing things that didn’t totally feel aligned or didn’t feel good while I was doing them. But in the end, I was happy to have done them. Like I was happy to have crossed the task off the list. But when I’m laying there during COVID, and I’m so sick, I can’t do anything. And I’m thinking about my list. And I’m thinking I don’t have to do it. And it was this recognition or this moment of like, I have been thinking I have to do that in order to get the outcome. But when I look back, most of the things where I really was pushing and not enjoying but like pushing to finish or to meet the deadline self imposed deadline, those things didn’t turn out the way I had anticipated. They didn’t really turn out that good. In fact many of them I just like abandon was like oh, I guess that didn’t work. And and so as I’m laying there in COVID and then realizing that this whole paradigm has to shift I come out of it and I feel this surge of energy this poll, okay, this pull towards all the things inside the in the institute, like this poll to like, do live stuff with everybody and to show up in this poll inside the collective to like, build more and bring in more coaching opportunities and have special events like, I’m feeling so excited. And I’m starting to get this realization that I have been I’m pushing, pushing instead of being pulled. And that when we’re being pulled towards the vision pulled towards the thing that we want, it feels so much better. And a lot of that pushing, especially in my work came from a decade of of helping my daughter while she’s been sick, and having limited amounts of time to get done what I have to do honest to God, if, if you’ve heard that episode, you’ve heard like, just just like a pinch of what we’ve gone through. And if you’ve, if you know what I have, if you’ve, how do I say this? It’s a miracle. I’ve created what I’ve created based on that experience. But it’s because I was pushing, but it was draining. Like, I got to accomplish things. And it’s been draining. And I think that being able to lay there for two weeks with COVID was like the greatest thing, it finally let me rest. Which brings me to why I didn’t have a show last week is that my daughter was really going through it again. And I didn’t want to push, I want to be pulled and want to show up here when it feels super aligning. And when I have the energy to give you and I know that’s what you would want to you. Nobody complained. Nobody died. Nobody was like, I can’t stand it without Betsy like none of nobody cared. Nobody cared. And so I realized that this self imposed strict, like, do it do it came from a a debt, you know, two decades of being in corporate America and having goals and things deadlines that I have to hit. And that now I can look at that in a different way. And so I decided that I was going to do like a 12 week experiment, which brings me right up to the end of November. So then December, typically I don’t take off, but I don’t work nearly as much in December. So I thought 12 weeks will get me to the end of like, I’m not saying my year, although probably this December I’ll be pulled and I’ll be doing all kinds of stuff. But the idea was, I am going to do an experiment for 12 weeks, you’re welcome to join me 12 weeks to get me till the end of November. And I am doing things that are where I’m being pulled, I am looking for new ways to do old things. And I’m going to be aligning myself with the ways to do things that feel light, and fun. And energizing. I saw this I don’t know a meme or a video on Instagram the other day, maybe you’ve seen it, it was like these four watering cans. And one of them they said this is what happens when you’re watering can is full and each watering can spell went into a new watering cans. hole where you would fill it up. Okay. So you could think of it like a square, right? So the spout goes into the hole when that next spout goes into the next hole and then that spout goes into the next hole. And it creates this system that the water just moves through all four of those beautifully. No more water has to be added. It just flows through because when your cup is full, when your bucket is full, when your planter
is full, the water can go out the spout and it’s being poured in from someplace else, right? Because you’re giving yourself what you need. Or you’re putting yourself in experiences, where you get what you need, or you’re putting yourself in relationships to get what you need. Or you have boundaries against things that deplete you and don’t give back to you. Right. So I’m looking at everything that I do through this lens now. I love doing the podcast. I like doing it just because I like doing it. I love that you guys listen. I would love it. If you shared the show. That would bring me a lot of joy, but it doesn’t get shared very often. But I feel like it’s it serves a purpose for me. I’ve had it for seven I don’t know if we’re going on seven years or going on eight years. Like we’ve had it for a long time. And I get fulfillment from it. It fills my bucket. But last week when so much was going on. I was like I can’t show up and be the version of me that I want to be. And so I just was like, I’m just going to, I’m just going to shift and I’m not going to do it. I toyed with the idea of what if a podcast just came out when I had something to say, which might be twice a week, it might be not one week, and then the next week or three times the next week or whatever. And I don’t know about that. I don’t know. I don’t know if I can let go that much of structure, but I’m playing with this. Okay. So I get this idea. 12 weeks, I’m going to play with the idea of being pulled, instead of being instead of pushing. Okay, I’m interrupting myself, because I always forget, I always forget, I do the episode, I get done. And then I’m like, Oh, I never told them. So I’m going to tell you, right now, the collective is open, the collective is my monthly membership, it’s month to month. But here’s the cool thing is that we’ve it’s like having a coach for a minuscule amount of money. So you get coaching every week, you get new ideas every week, you get access to almost all my courses. But the cool thing is, is that now we are putting the Thursday calls on a private podcast. So if you like listening to podcasts, I think you’ll really like it. Because even if you can’t make the Thursday class, you won’t have to sit in front of your computer, you could just listen later that day on your podcast app. So I wanted to tell you please come and join us inside the collective, it is what I’m really focused on my energy here I’m feeling pulled. And so really trying to create some great space for people to be able to learn more to get more confidence, resilience, we’ve got a ton of content in there, you could spend, you could Netflix and chill for like, months and months in there and not listen to all the content. So if you are into this kind of thing, and you like self growth, and you want to learn more, this is such a great place to go. So come and join us just go to my website, Betsy pake.com. And you will see join the collective right there either in the menu bar or right on the front page. Join us. And I can’t wait to see you in there. Because when we are excited about something and we have energy than we’re just pulled, we just want to do it right when we have a vision where like, I know those days where I get like a really good idea. I’m like, oh my god, I could work till midnight, and I’m just so excited about it. Other things that maybe have to be done, I’ve been toying with the idea of just hiring those things out, right? If I’ve got to create a techie thing that I don’t doesn’t light me up, Can I Can I just can I hire that out? If it is part of a thing where I feel pulled? Right? Maybe I don’t have that particular skill? Or I don’t want to learn that skill? Can I hire it out? So I got this idea. 12 weeks. So I sat down to do my deep streaming. So if you’ve been here for a while, you know, I do my deep streaming. And somebody asked me online, about my deep streaming and like sort of what I hear. And I will tell you that I have been doing deep streaming now for like a decade or more, if you want to learn how to do it, you can go into the collective, I have a course in there. So I have been doing this process so much. It’s a it’s sort of a process of self hypnosis, and an automatic writing, okay. But I do it so much that I feel like I don’t have to be writing anymore. And that’s maybe like in the last year or eight months or so. So now I can do it. Like if I’m walking through the grocery store, or I’m sitting on my front porch or whatever. And so I have been, I like to do it in a place where I can write down because there’s a lot of good stuff that comes so I was asking about this 12 weeks and this idea of being pulled towards a vision pulled towards the thing that I want. And I asked what is it that the version of me that is like living my dreams, right? And I’m pretty happy right now I have pretty good life like things are pretty good. But like this version of me that’s living my dreams, like that’s I hit the accomplishments and the things that I really want in my life and my business. What does she do differently than this version of me? Right What what is different about her and I heard three things. So number one, I heard every single thing and I heard it like that every like period single period thing. period has to be done. with intention, and not just like, oh, well, I intend to do but like, figure out like, I am going to eat lunch. My intention is, but like, What’s your intention in that? I have, I’m going to talk about this in a second. But I am surprised because I have always been like setting my intention for the day. And I have always done those things. And I think they’re valuable, this is a little bit different. And it’s because of the next two steps. So set a clear intention, every single thing that I did, as this new version of me was to set an intention, every single thing, to me, that meant not just work things, write every single thing, set an intention, number two, know what you’re doing. Like, it was simple as that, like, know what you’re doing, like, don’t go into a task and be like, I don’t know what I’m doing. The task may be I’m going to figure out what I want to do to get this thing. But then the task is, what I’m doing is figuring out how to proceed. Right? So there is a clear a clarity around what am I doing. And then the third thing is to know what you want the outcome to be. Which is different from intention. And I think that this exercise for me has been so surprising. Because my intention, and my outcome can be very different. My intention might be, you know, to go into the kitchen, my intention is to go into the kitchen and, and in bed, when I was really thinking about that, I was like is my intention to go in and make lunch? No, the outcome is that I’m making lunch. But my intention is to, like feed myself, or to, like, not be hungry to give myself nourishment. So I can have a great afternoon to when I started doing that for every single thing, I’m using lunch, as an example, just random. Because today, I set an intention for my lunch. But like, every single thing, you know, I go to send an email, what’s the intention? The intention is to connect and make people know that I’m thinking about them, what’s the outcome that will comes different from that? The outcome is that they get the email and they click on a link. So every single thing set the intention number to know what you’re doing, I’m going in to create an email to send to the people that are inside the collective to tell them about a special thing I’m doing. Like that is that’s what I’m doing. What do you want the outcome to be? I want them to be excited, I want them to feel pulled. So those three things are how I am. Put it, it’s sort of like the the test for every single thing that I’m doing over the next 12 weeks. And I’m gonna see, I’m going to be testing and see if the needle moves on my goals in a different way. Right if the the way that I’ve been doing things, I have statistics on that I have data, I know what was working, what wasn’t working, I have the stats. And now I get to compare. And now I get to say, okay, for 12 weeks, I’m running this experiment, and there’s personal parts to it. And there’s business parts to it. And then I’m running it through this framework, every single thing, knowing what I’m doing, and then knowing what I want the outcome to be. And then I’m gonna see what happens. And 12 weeks, how does my December go? And how is that different?
You know, how does? Does that version of me that I was asking about does she show up? In December, I’ll tell you that the version of me that got COVID is so different from the version of me that was in the apartment when the apartment flooded that like so profoundly different in the way I’m reacting to hard situations in my life and my daughter’s life. My responses to things are so different. I’m like fascinated by it. The way that I’m showing up is so different. The way I’m handling stress and problems. The way that I am like reframing things. In fact, the way I don’t even have to reframe that I’m just seeing things through a different lens. Things that used to bother me Don’t bother me at all. And new things I’ve noticed start to like, irritate me, right, like irritant in terms of like, look at me, look at this thing. The unconscious mind will bring up whatever it thinks you’re ready to heal. So those things were buried because I wasn’t at the elevation to be able to deal with them. And now I am. So my unconscious mind is like, hey, what about this? And now I’m in a framework where I’m like, I can deal with that. Because I, because there has been an ascension. And maybe you guys have experienced that, too. It may be that there was something happening in the, in the stars or something, I don’t know, I don’t follow all of that, really. But like, maybe something was happening. It could just be a coincidence and a perfect timing of events. You know, it could be the decades long work that I did, it could be NLP that I’ve done every day for the past eight years. Like it could be a lot of things I don’t know. But this was probably one of the biggest jumps that I’ve had in my in my life that I can think of, in terms of ascension and clarity and, like, via higher vibration, like really fascinating. And so I’m going to try this the next 12 weeks, I invite you to join me, join me, let me know how it goes. Do me a HUGE, HUGE favor and share the show if you like it. If you liked this episode, I think these three things could really help somebody. So share it with somebody that you think or if you want to do this with me, and then you want to get your friends in it. I think, what if we all could start to create a wave of movement towards intentional living in a way that moves us into being pulled towards what we want, instead of pushing, which I think is like the old paradigm. So that is my very short, kind of normal length podcast for today. I love you guys so much. Thank you for listening. Thank you for listening to this thing that brings me so much joy. It is one of the most fun things, most grounding things in my life that I’ve done. And I’m so so grateful that you’re here with me listening. It means a lot to me. All right. I love you guys. I will see you all next week. Hopefully, maybe twice. Okay, bye. Hey, thanks so much for listening to today’s show. And thank you for sharing the show with your friends. I love when you guys do that. I appreciate it so much. And thank you for leaving me a review on iTunes. I know that it matters because when I go to find a podcast, I always look to see what the reviews are. So it really means a lot to me that you take a minute to like, figure out how to even make that happen. Now, if you want to find me find me on social media, I’m usually on Instagram, starting out on Tik Tok. It’s just my name. Betsy pake, and that’s my website to Betsy pake.com. And you can find out all about the work that I do. having me speak for an event that you might be helping to plan or getting trained inside my alchemy Institute. But to make it really easy, if you want me just shoot me a DM, shoot me a direct message on Instagram and I will be at your service. Thanks again for listening. And I will see you all next week.