082: Scripting To Design Your Big Life - Betsy Pake

082: Scripting To Design Your Big Life


Do you ever think that things should be a little easier? That maybe, just maybe, you aren’t seeing the open door and instead are killing yourself trying to climb up a wall? 

On today’s episode, I share a practice that can help shift your thinking, alert your brain to what opportunities to be aware of and help you begin to design and really LIVE your Big Life.   

This episode is great for anyone who would like to experience some changes in their life, someone who wants to experience more abundance than they already have or anyone who wishes things could be a little bit easier. 

Thanks for listening and sharing this episode with your friends! It means a lot to me when you love an episode that you share with others.

xo, Betsy

ps. Here’s that fateful day, in 2011, with the iPhone! 


Welcome to The Art of Living big. I’m your host, Betsy Pake, and this podcast is designed to share interviews and new ideas to help you redefine what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hey, everybody, welcome to the show. I want to remind you if you want to take part in this month’s conversation for our book club Book of the Month, before agreements, head to my website, Betsy Pake calm and click on podcast book club, you’ll see it there’s the big picture of me and it says podcast book club, click on that. And it will take you to the page that has the questions and how to submit your feedback to be on the show next week. So you can either message in your comments or leave a voicemail through the system, so that I can actually use your sweet voice on the podcast. So I would love to hear what you guys think. So that we can really build a conversation around each book each month. So be sure to head to the website to check that out. Now on with the show, when my daughter was in seventh grade, she had a cell phone like she had an old cell phone, iPhone five, I think it was of mine. And she had it in her pocket. And one day at school, she dropped it and she lost it. Now, she was pretty sure at the time that she knew who had it. But it became this huge all encompassing thing for me for about 24 hours where I was so obsessed with the fact that she had lost this cell phone. And because I had a tracker on the you know, it was in the cloud. So I was able to track it. I could see where it was and I could see it moving. And so I knew somebody had it. And so I would text to it. And then you know, I shut it down, you know, you can shut down the phone remotely, but you can still send a messages to it. And she was pretty sure she knew the kid that had it. And she had asked him about it. And, you know, he was probably scared. And he said No, he didn’t have it. But we were able to track it. And I got in my car and started following it. Now, not totally the smartest thing ever. But since I was pretty sure it was just like a seventh grade kid that had it. I was like, I’m just gonna go get the phone. And so we drove to the apartment complex, and I could see it, it beeping on the satellite on my phone, and we followed it. And behind this apartment complex was this huge, huge field. And the back of the apartment complex had a fence like oh, a wire fence right to cover it. And part of the fence was actually a wall like a stone wall. And it was high. I mean it was I’m not very tall. But it was taller than me it was probably six feet tall. And so we got to the apartment complex, and I could see it on the radar. And so I you know, you can make it beep and so I’d make it beep and I could hear it. And so someone had thrown it in the woods, but it was behind this giant fence and I was like I am going to get this phone. Now at the time I owned a CrossFit gym. And so I was like I’m gonna get it, I’m gonna climb. So I climbed up the fence. I mean, I skinned my knees, it took like all my strength, I think I got my first like muscle up ever as I pulled myself over the fence. And when I got to the top of this stone wall and where that stone wall edging had hit the fence, the wire fence, I was actually way higher on the downside. So I was actually probably nine or 10 feet like I couldn’t jump, I would have broken my leg or something. And I had struggled so much when I was bloody I could hear the phone, I knew it was there, but I had no way to get down. So I was trying to think like, do I just jump down the way I came up and get a rope. And right as I thought that I looked and my daughter always was walking through the field to get the phone. And I was like, how did you get how’d you get over there? Like I’m over here, I’m on the fence like I was a hero jumping up on top of this fence. And she pointed me be 10 feet to my right. And there was an opening in the fence and she walked right through. So I tell you all that to say that sometimes we are so focused on where we are at that particular moment that we don’t stop to turn around to see if there’s another way we put all our energy into that climbing the fence ripping our knees up, working, working, working working, we get to the top and we’re like there’s more work to do I have to come up with another way. We’re really if I just thought of something different. If I opened up my mind and took a look around, would I maybe see another way would there simply be a opening a doorway in the fence where I could walk through and save a ton of energy a ton of effort and actually reach my goal much more quickly. Then, if I did all this work, right, so I started thinking about that this week. And I’ve had a lot of things come up. And I wanted to share with you a practice that I’ve started. And I got some more clarity clarity on it this week. So I wanted to share it with you while it’s fresh, because I like to do that to share stuff as it’s coming to me.

Probably about six or eight months ago, one of my girlfriends talk to me about about scripting, and about how every morning she would write out like, sort of the greatness of her life. And she would just write it out in a journal, and she had a special journal to do this. And at the time, I thought that sounded really great. And a really good alternative to what I do, which is write out a bio of myself, like a bio in five years from now. And then every morning, I read it, and I read it with energy and emotion and all of those things. But I’ve been reading the bio, like the last couple weeks, and I, I’m, like, I go through fits and spurts where I read it, and I wouldn’t read it. But at the beginning of this year, 2018, I was like, I’m going to be consistent. And I’m going to read this every single day. And I found myself, like sort of dreading having to read it. And I was like, What is that about? Like, what I have this hesitation, I don’t really want to read it, I’m bored with it. I like I know what it says Now I could probably do it, you know, by heart. And I started thinking back to my girlfriend talking about the scripting. And then this week, I went to an event where I heard a woman named Joyce Reynolds speak. And she talked about scripting. And so what I wanted to do is I wanted to share scripting with you in the way that she teaches it and sort of the way that I’ve adapted it to to work for me, and to see if that will help you. So today’s episode is about how to script out your perfect life. Now, I use the word perfect, loosely, your ideal, right what you’re imagining. One of the things that I’ve talked about in a previous podcast was about if you believe you’re a conscious creator of your life, then do you get up every single morning and imagine that life like before you get started? Do you imagine all of the greatness that could happen during the day. And I realized for myself, I wasn’t doing that. And so that’s something that I have actively been working on using my imagination every day to create the greatest day that I could possibly have, and be open to something that I have not yet imagined. Now, the scripting sort of takes it one step further. One of the things that I’ve also talked about is how for me, I get very aligned when I’m writing I like to write I like different kinds of pens, I like a good notebook, like with good paper, so the pen runs really smoothly. And so that’s one of the reasons I really liked doing gratitude in the morning, because I liked that time of actually writing in the morning, it helped me helps me feel aligned, even it wasn’t even about what I was writing as much as like that feeling of writing. So when I heard about scripting again, I was like, Ooh, this is for me. And it might be for you, too. Here’s the premise is that every day you write in the current tense, that your life is how you would like it to be in the future. So you write what you would like to have happen as if it’s happening right now. So you find a notebook I, I went to Target, I looked around, I looked at all you know, they have lots of like, awesome notebooks there that have fun sayings on them, whatever. And I just went through and kind of found one that spoke to me that felt really good. And that I felt like it was one that I sort of connected with. I brought it home. And on the very first page. And this was the suggestion I got from Joyce Reynolds that I really liked was you dedicate that, that scripting book. So that is now your scripting book, and you just dedicate it and what I wrote was something to the effect of like everything that I write in here is something that I’m releasing out into the universe as something that I would find exciting and fulfilling in my life. And if this isn’t what’s right for me, then perhaps something better. But I asked spirit to help me find opportunities where things that are right could come to fruition. And then every morning I’ve just been writing what feels on my mind. So whether it’s about my health and fitness or my career, or my relationships, or my family, or adventure and travel or whatever it is that I’d like to see in my life. I’ve just been simply free writing as if it’s happening right now. Now, there have been times where I’ve done something similar like this. Similarly, similar late at night with my family when we eat dinner, sometimes we’ll just it’s sort of like a little game we play where we say like, Hey, I’ll say to my daughter like I’m going to Paris this time. weekend if you’d like to go and bring some friends, I’ve charted a plane and you know, I have some work I’m going to do there, I’m going to be speaking like we go through this whole thing. And we all act as if it’s true. And it’s really fun. And it’s kind of silly sounding. But if you try it, it’s actually really fun. And it’s fun to see what the other people in your family imagine. But what I started doing was just doing that same thing in my scripting book. So writing out exactly what I’m doing, what’s happening, how great it feels, and the whole, like concept of writing well, using my fun pens, and you do what works for you. In my notebook that felt aligned, and then writing out something that felt really good. So one thing that I have done is I’ve not made myself write about every topic, or if there are, like six or seven main areas of my life that I want to focus on. I’m not writing about everyone. on that particular day, I’m just writing what feels really good to rehearse and imagine and talk about in my mind. And going through this practice, I’ve found already is starting to make me notice, when there are little opportunities or little things that are said where I’m like, oh, wait a minute, like that kind of ties in, that could be the next right thing of where I am right now to get me to where I want to go. Now, one of the things that I have said about imagination, and about using time in the morning to imagine is that it’s like planting a trellis in your brain, in your brain is like a garden, and it wants to grow up the trellis. But you have to give it something to try to achieve, you have to give it something to try to grow up. And so giving it that trellis or giving it that moments where you’re scripting or moments where you’re imagining can help you expand your thinking a little bit more. And then all throughout the day, your brain is actually actively looking for ways to grow up the trellis ways that that could they could actually reach what you’ve what you’ve laid out before it so many times when I’m talking to a coaching client, and I’ll ask them what they would like to see in their life in terms of their relationship. And they may say like, I’m not I you know, I’m just not really sure. And I say that is really the first step because, you know, if you called an Uber, and they pulled up in front of your house, and you ran out and got in the car, and they said where to and you said I’m not I’m not really sure that the Uber driver would be like, Well, I mean, I can bring you any like where where are we going? I you know, I don’t know, I haven’t really had time to think about it. So this scripting time can actually be time where you are thinking about it, where your imagination is allowed to expand and run a little wild so that you can kind of see where it goes and what feels good. And what starts to come out. There’s something powerful about writing it in your own handwriting, as opposed to typing it out, or even just thinking it, I do believe there’s something about writing it, seeing your handwriting and having that whole, like tactile experience that goes along with it, I think it solidifies it on one extra level that it may not be doing if you’re just simply imagining imagining it or just simply, you know, hoping that the Uber brings you where you want. So I will leave that with you. That is your tip of the week about scripting, see if that’s something you’d like to try, I would love to hear what you think about it, if it’s helped you how it’s worked out the types of things that you’ve wanted to script about, and what you’ve sort of seen run around. And if you’ve started to see the clues, because that’s the most important part is really how this can start to create something much bigger. I’m gonna keep you posted on how my scripting goes. Because already in the last week or so I have seen some changes. And as I’ve I’ve created a little bit more of a direction with it, since I saw it and talked with Joyce Reynolds, it was able to direct my scripting even more. But that is the premise. I wonder if this scripting could be the open door in the fence so that you don’t have to work quite as hard at achieving all of the things that you deserve to have in your life. And that perhaps this helps you to see the window to see the door to be able to plant the trellis a little bit more firmly so that you can begin to live your big life. I hope that this serves you. Thank you so much for listening this week and every week and for sharing with your friends, subscribing on iTunes and leaving me a review. I read all of those and I appreciate them so much. So thank you and I’ll see you next week. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Remember, you can find me inside my facebook group at SS lB community.com. That stands for start small Live big community.com and as always, here’s a little message from my husband.

That’s it.


Meet Betsy!

I'm Betsy Pake!

*Ocean obsessed

*Probably hanging out with my dogs


*Deep thinker

Hey There!

About Betsy

Hi I’m Betsy and I’m a subconscious change expert.
By day you can find me digging deep into the unconscious beliefs and identity of my clients so they can move past self-sabotage and lack of confidence and gain traction in their career and life.